BC...to Middle School students???

[Buttonz]

Originally Posted by epchick

The brother of my cousin's friend (lol) got a girl pregnant when they were 11 and now they have a 2 year old.

I honestly think they should even start talking about sex to the elementary kids. When I was in 5th all we got was the "your body is going through changes" (ie. periods) but that was it.

When my cousin was in 5th grade, she had a girl in her class talk about her sexual experiences. Adn another girl claimed that her 8 year old brother (he was in the 2nd grade) was having sex!!!!

What are kids thinking having sex and babies at 11? I mean they are still babies themselves!

Is it even possible to have sex @ 8?!?!?!

I had my first kiss when I was 15....guess I was a super late bloomer.

[PeppyGPhiB]

I don't think bc pills have any place in a middle school. Birth control pills only work if they're taken every day, at the same time every day. I don't think 12-14 year olds have the discipline to monitor their pill-popping and their bodies that closely. I just don't. They think they do, but they don't.

If some schools are this desperate, they need to up the sex ed and make condoms available. Besides, pregnancy is only one of the hazards with (pre)teen sex, and one could argue it is one of the lesser concerns.

[epchick]

Originally Posted by Buttonz

What are kids thinking having sex and babies at 11? I mean they are still babies themselves!

Is it even possible to have sex @ 8?!?!?!

I had my first kiss when I was 15....guess I was a super late bloomer.

Who knows!!! lol. Kids nowadays surprise me.

I found out like an hour ago that the 13 year old girl (the one that has the 2 year old) is pregnant....AGAIN.

[Buttonz]

Originally Posted by epchick

Who knows!!! lol. Kids nowadays surprise me.

I found out like an hour ago that the 13 year old girl (the one that has the 2 year old) is pregnant....AGAIN.

[PiKA2001]

Originally Posted by epchick

Who knows!!! lol. Kids nowadays surprise me.

I found out like an hour ago that the 13 year old girl (the one that has the 2 year old) is pregnant....AGAIN.

Are you from Arkansas?

J/K

[AlwaysSAI]

While it seems amazing that middle schoolers would benefit from this--let me offer a few things

At my middle school, there is currently a 6th grade student who is home bound due to pregnancy.

My students (6th graders) openly talk about who they've had sex with, had sexual encounters with and everything of the like.

I would say it's needed.

Teaching abstinance just isn't effective because if they want to have sex they are going to have sex. We might as well just tell them how to do it safely.

[Educatingblue]

Originally Posted by AlwaysSAI

While it seems amazing that middle schoolers would benefit from this--let me offer a few things

At my middle school, there is currently a 6th grade student who is home bound due to pregnancy.

My students (6th graders) openly talk about who they've had sex with, had sexual encounters with and everything of the like.

I would say it's needed.

Teaching abstinance just isn't effective because if they want to have sex they are going to have sex. We might as well just tell them how to do it safely.

AlwaysSAI, you beat me to it. I teach middle school as well and I think some parents are clueless to their children having sex. EVERY year, there is someone on my team who is pregnant, already has a child, or homebound due to a pregnancy. I have a student who is 13 and due in November. Last year, there was an 11-yr-old 6th grader who was 7 months pregnant!!! You are right, sex amongst middle schoolers is openly talked about. I know this sounds old fashioned, but we need to go back to basic morals and ethics and parents need some sense of accountability. The majority of my students are raising themselves (their parents work at least 2 jobs and there is no parental supervision in the evenings).

[epchick]

Originally Posted by PiKA2001

Are you from Arkansas?

J/K

No, close though. I'm from Texas! haha.

Its the Mexican in us I guess...we like to start them young! lol

[AOII_LB93]

Originally Posted by Educatingblue

AlwaysSAI, you beat me to it. I teach middle school as well and I think some parents are clueless to their children having sex. EVERY year, there is someone on my team who is pregnant, already has a child, or homebound due to a pregnancy. I have a student who is 13 and due in November. Last year, there was an 11-yr-old 6th grader who was 7 months pregnant!!! You are right, sex amongst middle schoolers is openly talked about. I know this sounds old fashioned, but we need to go back to basic morals and ethics and parents need some sense of accountability. The majority of my students are raising themselves (their parents work at least 2 jobs and there is no parental supervision in the evenings).

Thank you!

Part of me thinks that the Europeans have it right, when they start talking about this stuff much earlier...way less teen pregnancy over there.

And 11 year olds having sex? Much less children? What parent allows their 11 year old to keep a baby? ARE THEY INSANE? WTH is wrong with people?

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by AOII_LB93

What parent allows their 11 year old to keep a baby? ARE THEY INSANE? WTH is wrong with people?

I'm just thinking out loud here...

Let's look at the options:
(1) Abortion. Some might ask what parent allows their 11 year old to have an abortion? The 11 year old could be emotionally scarred for life. Or there could be complications, rendering her unable to conceive later in life.

(2) Adoption. Some might ask what parent allows their 11 year old to put a child up for adoption? The 11 year old could be emotionally scarred for life. Or there could be complications, rendering her unable to conceive later in life. And then there's always the question of wanting to be involved in the child's life later - do you allow the child to contact you? An 11 year old isn't capable of making that type of decision.

(3) Raising the child themselves. Some might argue that these parents are allowing their child to avoid the consequences of their actions by taking on the responsibility of raising the child themselves. Still others might argue that the parents didn't do their job appropriately the first time or else their 11 year old wouldn't already be making them grandparents.

There aren't any good options here. I'm not trying to say that 11 year olds should keep the children they have, I'm just saying that none of the choices sound very good.

I don't think bc pills are necessarily THE answer (as PeppyGPhiB said, in order for them to be effective they have to be taken regularly, and even then, they aren't 100%), but they are a better option than any of the choices above. And since the girls are the ones who will be affected most, it makes sense that they would be the ones to have the opportunity to be in control of their birth control options.

I guess I didn't realize 11 year old sex is as prevalent as it obviously is. What a shame.