Pre nuptual Agreement...?

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

If you insist. My points stand.

yeah and thank u for ur 2 cents.......

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

yeah and thank u for ur 2 cents.......

You started the thread.

[Blacksocialite]

I think that pre-nups are a good thing.

It's important to establish ownership of property/items acquired before the marriage so that in the event the relationship goes sour, only items acquired during the marriage are taken into consideration as "joint property."

Unfortunately, I seen some beautiful, romantic relationships turn super ugly within years where the couple starts fighting over everything.

A pre-nup can also protect a spouse from garnishment of wages in the case of child support. I know a few ladies who are playing child support because the 'baby's mama' took the man back to court when he got married.

So, the court took the entire household income into consideration when establishing child support payments. Now those ladies wished that they had a legal agreement with their spouses in terms of what they were financially willing to folk over for their step-children.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by Blacksocialite

I think that pre-nups are a good thing.

It's important to establish ownership of property/items acquired before the marriage so that in the event the relationship goes sour, only items acquired during the marriage are taken into consideration as "joint property."

Unfortunately, I seen some beautiful, romantic relationships turn super ugly within years where the couple starts fighting over everything.

A pre-nup can also protect a spouse from garnishment of wages in the case of child support. I know a few ladies who are playing child support because the 'baby's mama' took the man back to court when he got married.

So, the court took the entire household income into consideration when establishing child support payments. Now those ladies wished that they had a legal agreement with their spouses in terms of what they were financially willing to folk over for their step-children.

In some places, there have been court rulings where, say the one who has other children they are paying child support for dies, the surviving spouse would legally have to take over and pay.

I need to find that article...

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Blacksocialite

It's important to establish ownership of property/items acquired before the marriage so that in the event the relationship goes sour, only items acquired during the marriage are taken into consideration as "joint property."

Again, the laws in some states already provide that property acquired prior to the marriage remains "individual" rather than "joint," unless the spouse who owns it does something to demonstrate that he or she wishes it to be joint property.

[SirHornyToad]

Who care's about a pre-nup? if it lasts no one looses, and if it fails then one person looses less (it's almost impossible for a marriage to end without someone giving up something).

Just keep in mind that even the act of getting married is the act of taking a pre-existing relationship that for all intensive purposes is functioning quite well, and creating a legally binding contract basically saying that if the relationship should end up failing and you break up now instead of just trying to avoid running into each other at your favorite watering hole, one person has to give the other half they're stuff, half they're savings, half they're retirement and a portion of they're income, sometimes indefinitely.

So as long as you're going to bring contracts into it might as well add one in that assures that one person doesn't get screwed.

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

Had an interesting call over the weekend.

My cousin called to give good news....her boyfriend of 5 years finally proposed to her and she accepted.

We are all happy for them of course and she is excited but then, she tells me that he brought up the question of getting a pre nuptual agreement.

Here is the twist on it.

- She is making more money that he is, which he has no problems with.

- His idea is that the pre nup should be good for 5 years and if thier marriage survives beyond that, let the agreement dissolve.

his ideology is that he want's to do this to protect her just in case something happens. They are an otherwise happy couple with no hang ups and 2 wonderful kids but he acknowledges how marriage changes people and God forbid if something happened and they divorce, it could get really bad.

One of thier other friends that we all know had a really ugly divorce after only 4 years but had been together for 10 and as far as we know are still fighting over property.

I told her, I think it may be a good idea...I especially like the part of it not being a long lasting agreement and I told her if that is his way of thinking, I don't think he is being selfish but in a way, pragmatic about the situation and perhaps should at least look into it.

Any thoughts or opinions?

Personally, if I was making way more money than the guy, I wouldn't put an expiration date on the pre-nup.

But that's just me