Huge problem with transfering into a new chapter...HELP!!

[cuteASAbug]

HQ will not give you the option to rerush.

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

1. You cannot join another sorority.
2. Is there really a reason your mom is involved? You're a big girl.
3. Paperwork takes a long time to get processed. Your HQ has to process the initiation paperwork on every single girl that went through the new member process last year. Be patient. Technically you are a member of this sorority whether they have gotten around to sending you your pin or not.
4. If your president is not being responsive contact the chapter advisor. If they are not responsive, try the regional director.
5. The "Greek LIfe people" are not the advisors. They are merely the people who work at the desk in the Greek Life office. The chapter advisors are the alumnae volunteers that advise your individual chapter.

Well said.

OP, if you are showing the attitude to the group that you are showing here, it's really no wonder than people aren't willing to help you. Let's be honest, would your group on your new campus have the impression that you are eager to be an asset to their chapter and assist them, or that you are kind of a high maintenance, demanding person who sees herself as entitled to service from the group and who relies on her mom to handle her issues.

And yes, if your are going through the national HQ, the new chapter may be aware of how you are acting.

Further, depending on the chapter and the group, your transfer into the new chapter may not be automatic, and you could really be shooting yourself in the foot.

And I happen to think that if you had your membership in your group on facebook, that yes, people at the new school are going to remember and look into the situation further. I doubt it's as simple as re-rushing. You know you've been initiated; your old chapter knows you've been initiated. There's no way you could be a good member of a NPC group if you would disregard such a basic element of membership.

Quit acting like the group revolves around you. It's a shame they didn't send in the paper work faster and provide you with better "customer" service, seeing as that seems to be how you see your role in the group.

[giggle528]

ok, i dont want the group revolve around me. HQ wasnt happy at my prez either...it wasnt just my mom and I. As i've posted before, NO I WILL NOT RE-RUSH because now papers are at this new school. and i now know whats going to happen next. Its my right to stay on top of it, it was her job to do it, and SHE NEVER DID IT...i was patient waiting for her to do it, I would e-mail her asking if she had filled it out. I never got a response from her, but then the next day i would get an e-mail from her saying "Hi ladies, schools starting, greek life is letting us help freshman move in, etc, etc" but i never got an answer from her whether or not she filled it out. so i assumed she was ignoring it, because she wasnt even giving me an answer as to whether she filled it out or not. so i called HQ and they did it before me like i said before.

you would be on top of something like this too if u were in my position...

[gphiangel624]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

1.
5. The "Greek LIfe people" are not the advisors. They are merely the people who work at the desk in the Greek Life office. The chapter advisors are the alumnae volunteers that advise your individual chapter.

I agree that this post was well-said, and I agree that a Greek Advisor has a MUCH different role than a chapter advisor or alum volunteer. But keep in mind that the campus Greek Advisor should have some connections to the national office and should have some (even a little) leverage to get in touch with the chapter and have them get in touch with you about this situation. I'm not speaking for every GA on the face of the earth, but most should have these capabilities and should be willing to help you out. GAs do have resources to help with chapter issues and can at least point out where to locate chapter resources when necessary. We don't exist to "merely work at a desk"

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by giggle528

i didnt know what to do..so i called them to ask them what to do. i then heard nothing back, so i had my mother do it, because classes had started. I mean i really dont have to justify myself.

Like many have already said, your mom has nothing to do with this. If you asked her to do it because classes have already started, that makes it sound like you couldn't possibly fit a phone call into your hectic schedule. If that's the case, then you should just avoid sorority life altogether, because it's going to require much more time than making a simple phone call.

Am I the only one wondering if this girl is for real? I mean like, HQ is telling her stuff no HQ would like ever say, and like, maybe she's hoping she can fake having been initiated so she can, ya know, just be, like, smuggled into the bestest, most popular sorority evar. Cuz, like, what's a girl whose been, like, part of the biggest paperwork snafu to do?

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

Am I the only one wondering if this girl is for real? I mean like, HQ is telling her stuff no HQ would like ever say, and like, maybe she's hoping she can fake having been initiated so she can, ya know, just be, like, smuggled into the bestest, most popular sorority evar. Cuz, like, what's a girl whose been, like, part of the biggest paperwork snafu to do?

You forgot to misspell a few words, mix up homophones, and leave out all punctuation.

And, no, you're not the only one.

[giggle528]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

Like many have already said, your mom has nothing to do with this. If you asked her to do it because classes have already started, that makes it sound like you couldn't possibly fit a phone call into your hectic schedule. If that's the case, then you should just avoid sorority life altogether, because it's going to require much more time than making a simple phone call.

Am I the only one wondering if this girl is for real? I mean like, HQ is telling her stuff no HQ would like ever say, and like, maybe she's hoping she can fake having been initiated so she can, ya know, just be, like, smuggled into the bestest, most popular sorority evar. Cuz, like, what's a girl whose been, like, part of the biggest paperwork snafu to do?

you really dont need to make fun of me...each organization is different....my org happened to actually say that, because of the situation of papers and money and membership forms not being in yet. and the fact that i was just initiated, which is why they gave me that option..
its not HQ fault at all, and im not blaming them, my old prez has just been irresponsible, b.c HQ would call her to tell her to do it and she still wouldnt.

[skylark]

Giggle: If your sorority is an NPC sorority I don't care what they told you on the phone, the rule about not being initiated into another NPC sorority is a big one. Usually they don't even let you join a different NPC group if you transfer to a school that doesn't have your sorority at it.

Honestly, it sounds like you should just chill out until after rush is over. The current chapter is busy trying to prepare for that and if they are a big chapter, they may be purposely delaying your affiliation process so that they don't have you counting against them for chapter total. I know my NPC allows for transfer students to affiliate with the on-campus chapter even if the sorority is above chapter total.

Give your sorority at your campus a couple days after bid day to get some rest, and then try to become part of the group. They have other things on their mind right now and if you push them, they may question whether you have the best interest of THEIR chapter in your mind.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by skylark

Usually they don't even let you if you transfer to a school that doesn't have your sorority at it.

So Sigma Kappa could tell me that I am not allowed to transfer to Towson if I want to change my major to HR Management? I don't think so. My sorority activities would just be limited to that of the Baltimore Alumnae chapter. No rerushing.

Originally Posted by skylark

Honestly, it sounds like you should just chill out until after rush is over. The current chapter is busy trying to prepare for that and if they are a big chapter, they may be purposely delaying your affiliation process so that they don't have you counting against them for chapter total. I know my NPC allows for transfer students to affiliate with the on-campus chapter even if the sorority is above chapter total.

Give your sorority at your campus a couple days after bid day to get some rest, and then try to become part of the group. They have other things on their mind right now and if you push them, they may question whether you have the best interest of THEIR chapter in your mind.

Yes! That's probably true about delaying your affiliation. And solid advice about why waiting until after bid day is a good idea.

[skylark]

violetpretty... I'm editing my post because I think i said "school" when I meant to say "chapter" ... we are making the same points to giggle, i think.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

So Sigma Kappa could tell me that I am not allowed to transfer to Towson if I want to change my major to HR Management? I don't think so. My sorority activities would just be limited to that of the Baltimore Alumnae chapter. No rerushing.

I think you read it wrong. I think she was trying to say that they usually don't let you re-rush if your sorority is not at the school you transfer to.

Still blatantly wrong as you can NEVER re-rush once initiated, no matter the circumstances, but it makes more sense than not being able to transfer to a school that doesn't have your sorority.

[skylark]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Still blatantly wrong as you can NEVER re-rush once initiated, no matter the circumstances, but it makes more sense than not being able to transfer to a school that doesn't have your sorority.

How am I blatantly wrong? I'm saying the exact same thing you are, that you can't ever be initiated into another NPC sorority after you've been initiated into another.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by skylark

How am I blatantly wrong? I'm saying the exact same thing you are, that you can't ever be initiated into another NPC sorority after you've been initiated into another.

Can't ever =/= ususally.

Originally Posted by skylark

Giggle: If your sorority is an NPC sorority I don't care what they told you on the phone, the rule about not being initiated into another NPC sorority is a big one. Usually they don't even let you join a different NPC group if you transfer to a school that doesn't have your sorority at it.
Honestly, it sounds like you should just chill out until after rush is over. The current chapter is busy trying to prepare for that and if they are a big chapter, they may be purposely delaying your affiliation process so that they don't have you counting against them for chapter total. I know my NPC allows for transfer students to affiliate with the on-campus chapter even if the sorority is above chapter total.

Give your sorority at your campus a couple days after bid day to get some rest, and then try to become part of the group. They have other things on their mind right now and if you push them, they may question whether you have the best interest of THEIR chapter in your mind.

[littlemissvixen]

Good luck, giggle! The situation sounds horribly frustrating, especially when being in a sorority is important to you. As others said, re-rushing doesn't seem like it would work out too well, and it would suck to be stuck with no sorority just because your first chapter is being irresponsible and inconsiderate. It will all work out. I really hope you love all the girls in your new chapter! Also, ignore the negativity on here- It's normal to want to vent about something so frustrating, and some people take the internetz :-p way too seriously

[Helicopter1]

I just googled myself and found some really neat helicopter shirts.

Sadly, I was unable to find myself.