Frat Life is not what it's cracked up to be

[treblk]

Originally Posted by Jody

I was diagnosed with breast cancer April 1, 2004. I pledged at Famu in 1982 with 19 other women. I live in the middle of Florida. Although my line has reunions, and have each other's emails we all have children and jobs and live all over the country, we keep up with each other but not like when we were in college.

Flash forward to my four operations, one line sister was there every time I woke up. Eight grueling chemo cycles at least two were at my home, cleaning my house, combing my children's hair and keeping me company, providing my husband with a short respite.

On the weeks that I didn't have chemo, I received frozen dinners, enough to feed a family of four for a week (and it was THE GOOD STUFF!) Sooo, these women who have lives and jobs took care of me and none of them lived in my city, the closest was 2 1/2 hours away.

I can't recall when I had to ASK a Soror to do things for me, if they could they did. It's the same thing that I do for Sorors, if I can help them, I do, and not because I expect anything it's because it was the way I was brought in.

I was a caring, socially conscious, industrious person before I pledged, joining the Sorority connected me with a group of likeminded folks (who let me raid their closets! )

It's unfortunate Greek life hasn't been what you thought, but I have to wonder, what have YOU done for Alpha. You can only give what you get, do you help folks who are behind you? Even if you feel you're on the second rung on the ladder, there's still someone who can't make it to the first. Maybe the question shouldn't be what can they do for me? Why can't it be what can I do for them?

As my Mom used to say, what goes around, comes around...

(((((sistergreek Jody))))))))) you really touched me here! I hope all goes beyond well for you. Your story is a ture testiment to what sisterhood is all about with or without letters! You are in my thoughts!

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally Posted by treblk

(((((sistergreek Jody))))))))) you really touched me here! I hope all goes beyond well for you. Your story is a ture testiment to what sisterhood is all about with or without letters! You are in my thoughts!

Ditto! Your strength is uplifting to me! ((((JODY)))) Stay strong.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by Jody

I was diagnosed with breast cancer April 1, 2004...

Soror Jody,

When your ready to discuss options, talk to me. I know some people who would do favors for me at some places. It will require you to vacation...

It's nice to hear that we see support from our linesisters after so many years. I see it with my all the time. Our Soror, my mom, sees it with hers.

[ladygreek]

Wow, just wow to this whole thread and the other one. There are just some things I would never put on a PUBLIC message board about my beloved sorority. I mean we all have a few warts, but we just do what we need to do to heal them--PRIVATELY.

So much for hood.

[Phrozen1ne]

I can say that my Phrat was truly there when I needed him. There are times when you may give anyone, be it a bro, a friend, or a relative a resume and things may fall through the crack or yeah they may play you. Personally, if a brother can get me an interview cool if not I don't hold it against him because I may not know the situation. As far as feeling that certain bros play you shady, you could have left that on a BROTHER's ONLY listserve, not here.(JMHO) I am pretty sure it happens in other orgs, but to air out your own on a public listserve is not what's up. Also, what does another brother have to do with a brother being financial or not or participating in events? Aren't we here to do the work of Alpha? That sounds like excuses and we know what those are.....

[APhiAlien1996]

No. I chose to put it here and yes I did air out some dirty laundry, and I won't apologize for it either. This goes for everybody. Some of you missed the whole picture of what I wrote. Some of you just got diarrhea of the mouth and started running off about leaning on shields and financial and obligations. Neither one of those words were ever typed in the original post. This is the bottom line....people (frat brothers) try to use you with the fraternity crap about giving, giving, giving to the organization. Everything should not be about money all the time. Some of us are broke and don't have money, but those of us that are broke we can help out in other ways (time and effort). But should you need a helping hand, all of that talk goes out the window and you are left standing on you own. Don't get me wrong, houses of worship fit into this category as well. This isn't about a brother owing another brother a job. But, if you know something and you know someone is a need, turn that cat on to what's going on. that was my whole point. So, if my bruhs or anyone else feel offended.. tough tits. Get over it!!

[AlphaFrog]

It sounds like your mind is made up. Good for you. Why not just turn in your pin and be done with it then? It's so much easier to just blame your fraternity than to actually look at yourself and decide you're inadequate for what you're persuing.

[APhiAlien1996]

Excuse you!! You are barking up the wrong tree. Go find somebody to play with. I'm telling you, you don't want to get started here!!

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

It sounds like your mind is made up. Good for you. Why not just turn in your pin and be done with it then? It's so much easier to just blame your fraternity than to actually look at yourself and decide you're inadequate for what you're persuing.

[treblk]

Originally Posted by APhiAlien1996

Excuse you!! You are barking up the wrong tree. Go find somebody to play with. I'm telling you, you don't want to get started here!!

sounds like that post made you mad...

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by APhiAlien1996

Excuse you!! You are barking up the wrong tree. Go find somebody to play with. I'm telling you, you don't want to get started here!!

I'm sorry...did I hit a nerve? The truth hurts sometime.

[Professor]

Frat,

Your most recent words are harsh. Please remeber the aims of our fraternity and keep marching onward and upward - - -

Originally Posted by APhiAlien1996

Excuse you!! You are barking up the wrong tree. Go find somebody to play with. I'm telling you, you don't want to get started here!!

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by APhiAlien1996

No. I chose to put it here and yes I did air out some dirty laundry, and I won't apologize for it either. This goes for everybody. Some of you missed the whole picture of what I wrote. Some of you just got diarrhea of the mouth and started running off about leaning on shields and financial and obligations. Neither one of those words were ever typed in the original post. This is the bottom line....people (frat brothers) try to use you with the fraternity crap about giving, giving, giving to the organization. Everything should not be about money all the time. Some of us are broke and don't have money, but those of us that are broke we can help out in other ways (time and effort). But should you need a helping hand, all of that talk goes out the window and you are left standing on you own. Don't get me wrong, houses of worship fit into this category as well. This isn't about a brother owing another brother a job. But, if you know something and you know someone is a need, turn that cat on to what's going on. that was my whole point. So, if my bruhs or anyone else feel offended.. tough tits. Get over it!!

Then save yourself the stress and FORMALLY denounce.

[Phrozen1ne]

Maybe you should look at your orginal post brother. Your right, if you are able to help someone then help, but people aren't always in a position to do so, so get over it.

Originally Posted by APhiAlien1996

No. I chose to put it here and yes I did air out some dirty laundry, and I won't apologize for it either. This goes for everybody. Some of you missed the whole picture of what I wrote. Some of you just got diarrhea of the mouth and started running off about leaning on shields and financial and obligations. Neither one of those words were ever typed in the original post. This is the bottom line....people (frat brothers) try to use you with the fraternity crap about giving, giving, giving to the organization. Everything should not be about money all the time. Some of us are broke and don't have money, but those of us that are broke we can help out in other ways (time and effort). But should you need a helping hand, all of that talk goes out the window and you are left standing on you own. Don't get me wrong, houses of worship fit into this category as well. This isn't about a brother owing another brother a job. But, if you know something and you know someone is a need, turn that cat on to what's going on. that was my whole point. So, if my bruhs or anyone else feel offended.. tough tits. Get over it!!

[AKA_Monet]

HAYLE, as much beat down as my father had OLD SCHOOL in 1958... And let's not talk about Bricks in Bags that had to be carried...

HAYLE, one of my dad's friends named "Bang Bang" wanted to be XYZ fraternity, got pissy drunk... So, XYZ fraternity said, if he catches the bird in the room, he can pledge... All night, he couldn't catch the bird. But, when XYZ opened the door, Bang Bang ran out, got a broom and killed the bird... XYZ said he couldn't pledge...

HAYLE, I know MoFo's that got whooped if they didn't bring food.

Is that the kinna experience you want, cuz I know some hazemasters where, when you gave up all of that for your letters, you don't regret them...

Now, leave if you want to, folks don't care. But, I know for a fact the Alphas ended their old method of intake to the "new" one to eliminate death defying hazing.

Folks cannot afford $2000+ high dues anymore.

[APhiAlien1996]

Huhh? What are talking about?