Don't Fit in....

[AOE2AlphaPhi]

I'd suggest that you talk to one of the older girls who you relate to and who you can trust to be discrete about your concerns. I know a lot of girls who were concerned about their sororities or pledge classes or whatever else before they were initiated and talking to initiated members they trusted really helped them get a different perspective on their situation.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by Jen

Echo the above, but I want to add that if you make an effort to get to know more people, you confide your feelings to members etc and you STILL don't feel you're in the right place after giving it some time, DO NOT go through initiation.

Agreed...if by the 5th week you are still not happy, do NOT go through initiation. Once initiated, and then you resign, you cannot join another NPC sorority.

[guardedbystars]

Originally Posted by PKTKKG

This will sound corny (it always did when my mom said it), but I have found it to be true. You have to be a friend to have a friend. Also along those lines - you will get out of any organization only what you put into it.

I think you will find that in giving, you will receive even more. Only you can make the effort and after giving it some time will see how it works out.

I can tell you that I do think everyone goes through this. There is sort of a let down right after recruitment and all the craziness is over. I remember standing in line before my first meeting where I was to be pinned and officially pledged and thinking "what am I doing here...is this really what I want...have I made the right decision...what does all of this mean".

If you get involved that is the way to get to know people and it should help you get used to this idea of a sorority and help you find your place. Best wishes!

How very true.

When I first joined, I felt incredibly left out. It was only after initiation that I really felt at home with these girls. You only get out what you put in. If you keep thinking that you don't like these girls and that you want to get out of your sorority -- you will act differently and girls will start acting differently around you. If you don't want to be there, you will start showing it. If it really has only been a few weeks, keep going with it. Start going to all the events [if you don't already do--going to all the pledge events weren't mandatory for us, most were though], stopping by the house all the time just to say hi [maybe for dinner -- you pay enough money to be able to do that -- at least my chapter allows out of house sisters to eat at the house a few times a week]. These girls wouldn't have given you a bid if they didn't like you; keep that in mind.

I used to think that I made the wrong decision everyday and I definitely thought of dropping a few times, but I know now THAT would have been the wrong decision. I love my sisters, I love the house, I love everything that we do.

Best of luck and update us!