Immigrant husbands that abuse their American wives

[HBADPi]

Originally posted by alum
If he's an immingrant can't the INS get involved? I would think if they get divorced his green card gets yanked.

Thats not how it works. Think of all the people who just get married so they can stay in the country then get divorced once the green card comes in the mail...divorce has nothing to do with it.

[wrigley]

Rudy how has she changed since she's been dating this guy? Or does he just give off the I-abuse-women vibe?

alum , they are not married just dating.

[blueangel]

I have three suggestions:

1. She needs to seek help. She can get free assistance from a spouse abuse shelter. She needs counseling because a woman who allows herself to be abused has very low self esteem.

2. She should go to the police and get a restraining order. She should also press charges for assault and battery.

3. She should take a martial arts class... really. It's very empowering and will boost her self esteem and self worth. She needs to know she can defend herself. No woman should ever tolerate anyone laying a hand to her.

[alum]

Originally posted by wrigley
Rudy how has she changed since she's been dating this guy? Or does he just give off the I-abuse-women vibe?

alum , they are not married just dating.

If he's here on his own, can't the INS get involved?

[AlphaFrog]

Originally posted by alum
If he's here on his own, can't the INS get involved?

Not every immigrant is here illegally. He could have a work or student visa, and I don't believe they would pull a visa for suspected abuse (verbal abuse is next to impossible to prove).

Rudey, if you want a serious answer here it is:

There is absolutly nothing you can say or do with your friend that is going to make any difference. You can be there for her and let her talk to you, but she's not going to leave him because of anything you say or do. And if you say or do anything to him, she's just going to be pissed at you.