A question for the Pretty Boys from a Pretty Girl.....

[Bobby Earl]

I believe I said '91 not '01. I know some AKAs who crossed in '91 that you may or may not know.

Thanks for the legend to this map. I will use it in the future. Why do I need my frat to educate me, when I have you to do that, huh?

Thanks Again...

[Bobby Earl]

Guess what AKA2D '91?

I want to know how to do the smiles...

Thanks in advance...

[AKA2D '91]

STEP ONE: WHEN YOU POST A REPLY, YOU SHOULD SEE THE "SMILIES" LEGEND TO YOUR LEFT

STEP TWO: CLICK THERE

STEP THREE: FIND WHAT "SMILIE" YOU WANT, COPY THE "CODE" EXACTLY AS IT IS!

STEP FOUR: CLICK SUBMIT REPLY

STEP FIVE: PRESTO! THAT'S IT!

[Bobby Earl]

Gracious...

[Ideal08]

Experience is definitely the best teacher. Thanks for your honest and candid response, Bobby Earl.

[Ideal08]

Originally posted by Bobby Earl:
I have a question pertaining to this topic?

Do you think that the videos and other stereotypes of black women have an impact on how brothers see and interact with black women?

A lot of the videos and stereotypes emphasize on the physical attributes which might indirectly cause men to only see women for sex. This is what I meant about people getting hurt because one party is focused on longevity, understanding, and getting to know someone while the other is focused on sex. I know it takes more than a video to think this way, but the videos don't help.

I also don't like how the beautiful black women has always been visualized with "light skin", long hair, coke bottle shape, and brown or hazel eyes. By no means am I prejudice against light skinned ladies, but I just feel that there are many darker and less physically inclined sisters who have a lot to offer.

Now that I think ahout it, maybe this behavior is learned at a young age or influenced by the environment in which some men grow up under. I am from Louisiana and I know that a lot of brothers from Southern Louisiana (Lafayette, New Orleans, Baton Rouge, Hammond, etc..) have this mentality whether they choose to admit it or not.

Does anyone have some more input?

B.E. , in response to your question, I'm not sure how this will affect Black men's interaction with Black women. I do agree, though, that the videos don't help. I think that it's a matter of maturity. At least I would hope that by a certain age, men know what they want in a woman and in a relationship. I think the videos, like the Gentleman Clubs, simply create a fantasy. At a young age, men might chase around these type of women, but as they mature, they realize they want more than just T&A.

I do get a little tired of Black women's beauty being showcased as only light skinned, long hair, and perfect figure. I'm glad that women like Kelly Price, Queen Latifah, and Jill Scott are representing for us big girls! Unfortunately, as far as skin complexion, a lot of people still think that the darker you are the more unnattractive you are. I guess it's all about preferences. I love my chocolate skin, and wouldn't trade it for all the attention in the world.

Now, as far as men looking to women solely for sex, I think that's a given, anyway, regardless of the videos. But then again, I am cynical, biased, and bitter (I can admit that now ).

[Bobby Earl]

Originally posted by Ideal08:
B.E. But then again, I am cynical, biased, and bitter (I can admit that now ).

I think you need a hug Ideal08. (just kidding)

I also share your opinion...
Thanks for the input.

[1908Revelations]

TTT

just incase any new GC guys have anything to say. We wanna know what you think

[tld221]

Originally Posted by 1908Revelations

TTT

just incase any new GC guys have anything to say. We wanna know what you think

yessssssssss i love revival threads!

[1908Revelations]

Originally Posted by tld221

yessssssssss i love revival threads!

Meeeeee too! This thread is waayyyyy old. The guys betta get to work!

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Ideal08

I posted this in the APhiA forum, and thought I'd ask you guys, too!

Ok, this is about these scantily clad women in these videos (and everywhere else). Ok, me and my ex were watching TV the other day, and this lady said that she felt that men were immature the way that they have these women dressed in these videos. My ex got offended and said that women need to understand that that is what men want to see. Ok, I understand that sex sells. I also understand that men like to look at these women dressed like this. I bear no double standards. The D'Angelo video was sexy as hell. However, I wouldn't want to see men like this in every video.

My question is this: What else do men find physically attractive/sexy about a woman besides her being half naked?

Is it the presentation? Like the Bilal video for Soul Sista. I think that's a sexy video that was done much more tastefully than these boody bouncing videos.

Tell me what yall think!!

I really don't find it attractive to see half naked women in videos. I think it's very unattractive. I wouldn't mind seeing my own woman half naked or better yet, butt naked in front of me in my apt. where only I can see her. I'm just not into provocative dressing women in public. It's a really big turn off for me. I guess that's why I don't watch those videos. Everyone is different though.

[KAPPAtivating]

I agree^^^! Half naked women in the videos are physically attractive, but to me you must be SEXY. Sexy is in the way a woman moves her body and talks with confidence (for me). I would much rather her walk in a room and be noticed by her walk instead of what she ISN'T wearing!

[black_princess]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I really don't find it attractive to see half naked women in videos. I think it's very unattractive. I wouldn't mind seeing my own woman half naked or better yet, butt naked in front of me in my apt. where only I can see her. I'm just not into provocative dressing women in public. It's a really big turn off for me. I guess that's why I don't watch those videos. Everyone is different though.

2 Quick questions for u or any of the other guys that want to answer . . . .

1: so, in ur mind what is provocative dress? Since spring & summer's coming up, how do u decipher what is provacative and what is dressing for the weather, 'cause when it's hot I know I definately wear less.

2: I was once told buy a guy that women are immediatly put into categories when men meet them is that true ???

[ziasha07]

Originally Posted by black_princess

2 Quick questions for u or any of the other guys that want to answer . . . .

2: I was once told buy a guy that women are immediatly put into categories when men meet them is that true ???

I'd like to know the answer to that as well.

I've got another.

3: What is it that you notice about a female when you first see her. Or better yet, what is it that sets her apart from other females that may be in the area around her or are out with her (i.e. a clique of friends)?

[black_princess]

Looks like the "ask a man a question" thread in the Omega forum might be revived here but seriously inquiring minds would luuuuve to know the answers to these questions . .. don't be shy gentlemen, u won't be giving up to much info on "the game"