I Majorly Need Advice

[Peaches-n-Cream]

Originally posted by James
On the one hand the story reads as if this is a total stranger that is stalking you out of the blue. Someone you hav never dated, ben friends with, or hooked up with.

This is exactly what happened to me. Completely out of the blue I noticed this guy was everywhere I was. I thought that he might have classes near my classes and might be on a similar schedule. I really didn't give it too much thought until the day that he approached me and said some extremely strange things about knowing me and seeing me everywhere. He knew where, what, when, and with whom I had eaten the previous day. He knew where and when my classes were. "I see you everywhere, all the time, and you don't even notice." He said a few more things and had a very weird look on his face. It frightened me and my friend so she pulled me away because I was in shock and didn't know what to do.

The next few days I did notice him everywhere staring at me in a weird way. I asked some friends what they thought. Interestingly, my female friends thought that he might just have a crush, but my male friends told me to file a report with security. A few of them offered to go with me and file the report. Thank goodness security took this seriously and gave me some great advice.

The truth is I don't know if I was ever in danger, but I really didn't want to find out the hard way. I alerted the proper people in order to prevent something violent from happening and just in case anything happened they knew where to look.

Good luck, gamer girl. It seems like that's a really stressful and difficult situation for you and your friends. I hope that it is resolved soon.

[KSig RC]

Originally posted by valkyrie
It's time you learned rule number one of GreekChat: the woman is never right and the man is never wrong. If a woman is attacked, stalked raped -- it's her fault and she asked for it one way or another.

. . . and while we're pissing on the topic (and the intelligence of this site's users), I want gamer_girl to understand that she should take some of James's post in earnest.

Specifically, you have received some great advice (and have done well acting on it by filing a report, regardless of other circumstances), by folks who have experience and training in this sort of situation.

Also, as James inferred, make sure you follow up with the police and keep tabs on any promised actions (ie don't just rely on words). Not to belittle law enforcement efforts or campus police, but you should hold them to a high standard and for your own protection, play an active role in anything pertaining to your health and safety. The police will understand and be supportive as long as you handle it calmly and in good intent.

[KSigkid]

Originally posted by valkyrie
It's time you learned rule number one of GreekChat: the woman is never right and the man is never wrong. If a woman is attacked, stalked raped -- it's her fault and she asked for it one way or another.

I wouldn't paint responses with that broad of a brush. Time and time again there have been many people who have come onto the board with issues like this, and for the most part they have gotten kind and contructive advice on issues such as this.

I think your post was referring to James'...it seems like he gave some solid advice.

Overall, I feel like good advice was given.

That said: Gamer_girl, I hope everything turns out ok. Never having been stalked, I'm not sure of what the appropriate measures would be, but it seems like people on this thread have given good advice. Once again, I hope everything turns out ok.

[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

Originally posted by valkyrie
It's time you learned rule number one of GreekChat: the woman is never right and the man is never wrong. If a woman is attacked, stalked raped -- it's her fault and she asked for it one way or another.

I'd really love to discuss this more, but I've got a roast in the oven.

Maybe you can bring the baby over tomorrow after Days? I made bunt cake!

[KSigkid]

Originally posted by HotDamnImAPhiMu
I'd really love to discuss this more, but I've got a roast in the oven.

Maybe you can bring the baby over tomorrow after Days? I made bunt cake!

This sounds like it could really be a whole other thread. Now, I wouldn't consider myself dense, but is Greekchat really an environment where the victim is, for lack of better word, "victimized" by the general GC public?

[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

I'll have to ask my husband about that and get back to you.

[KSig RC]

Originally posted by HotDamnImAPhiMu
I'll have to ask my husband about that and get back to you.

have him douse your bra, while he's at it, it appears to be on fire and i'd hate for you to burn out on greekchat when there are still so many fights left.


you should really direct your efforts toward, y'know, affecting the people performing the behavior you are fighting, rather than mucking this (relatively serious) thread. I even started a new one for you.

[AKA_Monet]

How come none of this EVER happens to the Sistahs on GC?

--AKA_Monet

Because we are crazy enuf to blow a MF's head off! Or pour hot grits on his lap while he arouses from his deep sleep...

[gamer_girl]

well I have appreciated people commenting so far...overall I'm trying to make sense of most of it myself really...

if anyone wants to discuss this in more detail, just pm me

more than anything, I'm just worried since his friends supposedly are "out to redeem colin" and think that since I whined or told then *I* am the one with the problem

[FSUZeta]

choosing a different college to go to in the fall? in a perfect world, you shouldn't have to, but it's not a perfect world, and your safety should be uppermost in your decision on whether you return to your college or not.

[gamer_girl]

My mom told me to think about that...she's scared of me returning to that college. But really, that's where I want to be and they have a great program for my major.

I guess a part of me would also feel like he "won" if I didnt come back.

[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

More like YOU win if you're not too scared to go to school AND do well.