Your best remedy....... - Page 2

AKA_Monet · #16 01-14-2005, 08:44 PM

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Originally posted by sugar and spice
And no malicious revenge schemes. You might feel better now, but in a year you'll appreciate it more that you took the high road. Living well is the best revenge and all that.

And erase all contact with him from cell phones, to caller ID to whatever--erase it...

And being indifferent is also helps with the vengeful thing... I really don't think it's revenge you should even care about--more like, "self-care" and love...

Only you put idiots to invade the beauty your temple...

RUgreek · #17 01-14-2005, 08:53 PM

turn on the t.v. and watch comedy central or whatever puts a smile on your face. At all costs, do NOT stay home alone on the weekends. Go out and do something to keep your mind fixed on other things. Not really a remedy, but it makes the time move along faster....

CUGreekgirl · #18 01-14-2005, 09:02 PM

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, and buy a drink that will get you lit quickly, and flirt your ass off. But go home alone so that you can sleep off your hangover--

May I recommend Long Island Iced Teas... they usually work for me, 'cept I don't go home alone after drinkin' those.

trojangal · #19 01-14-2005, 09:12 PM

Take a break from your life, if you can. See if you can get away for a few days with some friends. Being around your best buds can be so helpful and healing.

I couldn't have gotten through the last breakup without some very good friends who let me stay with them to get my head clear.

Get rid of all of his junk, too!

James · #20 01-14-2005, 09:18 PM

SLEEP

Take some unisom or something and go to bed early. Try to sleep around ten hours a night for the next few nights while following the no-contact rule.

PhoenixAzul · #21 01-14-2005, 09:28 PM

I'd say give yourself a goal that requires work. Something like train for a marathon (or half marathon). Become certified in something (Scuba perhaps?) Learn a new language. Do something that reminds you of just how strong and wonderful you are, without a guy!

PureGoldF2K1 · #22 01-15-2005, 05:17 PM

Surroud yourself with your sisters!!

That sounds so cheesy and something you'd say during rush ("Whenever I'm sad, I can always turn to my sisters!" lol) but seriously.

It was the only thing that worked for me, just sitting in the sorority suite with the sisters I'm closest to, sharing stories, just being ridiculous, etc.

James · #23 01-15-2005, 08:00 PM

You know. The most important thing is to remember its a process. And that its not forever or fatal, even if you have anxiety/depression issues.

If you obey the no-contact rule from day one, it takes only about two weeks to get through the worst of it. And its a lot easier if you excercise, sleep 9 hours a night and eat frequently.

If you keep talking to him it astronomically increases the time of recovery even if you eventually follow the no-contact rule.

So remember focus on process. Its not something that you can just turn off like a light switch. ITs more like the Flu you jhave to endure it knowing it will be over soon and do some small things to be easier.

Now if you don't follow the no-contact rule . . well you deserve your misery

AOTTAdvisor · #24 01-20-2005, 12:05 PM

I have to agree with what people said about sleep and working out. When Mr. AOTTAdvisor and I broke up, I made a point of sleeping as much as I could, because you have so much clearer of a head when you have sleep. Tylenol PM is a GOD!
Same goes for the gym--I got rid of a LOT of angry thoughts on that treadmill and lost 20 pounds in the process.
And just try as hard as you can to move on. It hurts, it sucks, and you need to be sad but it didn't work out for a reason and you deserve SO MUCH BETTER!!

#25 01-20-2005, 12:07 PM

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Originally posted by James
You know. The most important thing is to remember its a process. And that its not forever or fatal, even if you have anxiety/depression issues.

If you obey the no-contact rule from day one, it takes only about two weeks to get through the worst of it. And its a lot easier if you excercise, sleep 9 hours a night and eat frequently.

If you keep talking to him it astronomically increases the time of recovery even if you eventually follow the no-contact rule.

So remember focus on process. Its not something that you can just turn off like a light switch. ITs more like the Flu you jhave to endure it knowing it will be over soon and do some small things to be easier.

Now if you don't follow the no-contact rule . . well you deserve your misery

Yea, for about a week we were still trying to be friends and finally I was like, freaking leave me alone. You lead me on, changed your mind, and now I don't want to talk to you because I have to get over you. Anyway, it's working alright. I still want to talk to him though.

XOMichelle · #26 01-20-2005, 01:24 PM

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Originally posted by AOTTAdvisor
Same goes for the gym--I got rid of a LOT of angry thoughts on that treadmill and lost 20 pounds in the process.

That's the best way to cope! Two birds, one stone.

OtterXO · #27 01-20-2005, 01:59 PM

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Originally posted by XOMichelle
Time, good friends, losing 10 pounds, and when you are ready, other boys ( don't try the last one too quickly! I went to a club a week after breaking up with my ex and burst into tears because I couldn't handle the meat market). Nothing beats heartache like finding out there are other fish in the sea who think you are hot.

I second all of this...especially the getting to the gym. Also, James' No Contact Rule is a MUST!!!! After my most serious relationship ended we tried to be "friends" for about 3 months after...worst idea ever. DO NOT see/talk to/call/e-mail/IM/text message him. If you do you will only prolong the 'getting over it' process.

Rudey · #28 01-20-2005, 02:20 PM

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Originally posted by OtterXO
I second all of this...especially the getting to the gym. Also, James' No Contact Rule is a MUST!!!! After my most serious relationship ended we tried to be "friends" for about 3 months after...worst idea ever. DO NOT see/talk to/call/e-mail/IM/text message him. If you do you will only prolong the 'getting over it' process.

And then you fell for cashmoney. Now you have a lovely online cutie pie to hold you over!!

-Rudey

WVU alpha phi · #29 01-20-2005, 03:54 PM

I spent this summer getting over an ex boyfriend and it really is true, time is one of the major things that can mend a broken heart. I'd also try to keep busy as much as possible. And as immature as it sounds, my friends and I pick apart every little annoyance about him. Think of things that made you roll your eyes when you were together, and focus on them when you start to miss him. Like everyone else has said, DO NOT contact him. Take down all pictures you have of him, put away any of his clothes you might have (or give them back, cuz trust me, it hurts when you find them eventually), and don't rush yourself into the dating scene again. It's easy to make the mistake of replacing one guy with a new one, and it hurts almost worse when they're both out of the picture. And remember, eventually it will get better.

sigmagrrl · #30 01-20-2005, 04:01 PM

Step One: Buy some really great wine

Step Two: Listen to All of your Weepy/Angry CDs while drinking aforementioned wine

Step Three: Cry or Scream

Step Four: Lots of masturbation so you don't run into the arms of a rebound or the ex

Step Five: Sleep

Step Six: Take lots of nice, long walks

Repeat until you feel cleansed!