Ask a SF . . . Random questions

[futurestar1]

Why do some SFs choose not to use it? In regards to flip-flopping between orgs, if you never said anything, then no one would ever know that you changed your mind. So, SFs, I ask you, how do you view discretion and what does it mean to you? What do you think it means to the organization?

I am assuming "flip-flopping" means people who have actually submitted at a formal rush, been turned down, and then try another organization. To me discretion means that some people are on a need to know basis and there are just some things they don't need to know. Being discreet means being mindful of the consequences or your actions and adhering to a code of modesty and silence in terms of your interest.

If you were a legacy, would you tell?
I am not a legacy, so I am not sure.

If your blood sister was an AKA perp would you tell or would you let my Sorors think she was real?

I would hope that her perpertrating would not be used against me later, cuz I would have to tell. And I would have a long talk with my sister about why she feels the need to pretend to be something she is not.

Have you ever thought about perping? What made you decide against it?
I have never thought about it. Everything that goes on in the dark eventually comes to light. Secondly, I want it for real and the right way, not for pretend. Perping only reaps the benefits of wearing 'nalia and doing a call. If that were my only reason for being interested, I guess I can see how that could lead to perping. Personally, I want more than that.

In your own words, what is the difference between a necessity and a luxury?
Necessity : food, clothing, shelter, water, education (for me personally) Luxury: anything else God sees fit to bless you with

If you have to ask what the "right" reason is for joining an organization, should you even be thinking about joining?
No, ma'am.

What, if any, is the advantage of doing community service in a group as opposed to doing it alone?
One person can only do so much. Reaching a larger group of people, affecting change on a greater scale, and a shoulder to lean on when you feel weary are some of the advantages I can think of off the top of my head.

[1cococookie]

Originally posted by Ideal08
This is an interesting perspective. It would stand to reason that as everyone grows, everyone changes. And if that is true, then that brings me to a new question:

Do you (not just coco, collective you) think that Alpha Kappa Alpha should discontinue membership at the undergraduate level so that we can make sure we are taking women who KNOW what they want?

1cococookie, what, exactly, is "the sorority option?" Does that mean choosing whether or not to join a sorority as opposed to choosing whether or not to join ABC?

The sorority option could be taken either way. To try for a sorority & then which one.

[SKEEphistAKAte]

What is your full name and what school do you go to?

If you could choose your own linesisters would you? What would be your criteria?


If you knew FOR CERTAIN that you would NEVER have the opportunity to become a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha, would you go ahead and seek membership elsewhere?


What role, if any, have greek stereotypes played in your interest/selection of a sorority?

If you knew FOR CERTAIN that in order to become a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha you would HAVE TO spend an extra year in undergrad would you submit an application and stay in school that extra year or continue your studies/graduate on time and hope to be invited to a graduate chapter? Why or Why not?

If your mother, for whatever reasons, forbade you to become a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha would you do it anyway (assume that her opinion CANNOT be changed)? Why or Why not?

*more questions/hypos forthcoming*

[abaici]

Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
What is your full name and what school do you go to?

***Dead***

[Paradise359]

Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
What is your full name and what school do you go to?

****Deader****

[UpPinkies]

Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
What is your full name and what school do you go to?

Go Soror, Go Soror...LOL

[RedefinedDiva]

Why do SFs ask "bold" questions on the internet, but won't DARE ask a Soror in person?
Well, considering that off the bat some people have the suspicion that they might get slammed, they may rather just take their chances with the internet. They are just playing the odds. Heads: Maybe they will luck up and get their question answered or Tails: If they get slammed, they can just blow it off, pretend it never happened, and assume a new "internet identity."

Why do SOME SFs ask some of the most ridiculous questions without searching for the answer, if a answer exists?
That would be too easy....

Why do SFs 'flip flop' orgs they are so-called interested in?
Flip-floppers really aren't interested in any org. They just want to be a part of something.

Why do SFs "claim" they want to be a member of XYZ, then become a member and DON'T DO JACK?
They want the attention or "glamour" that comes with just being able to utter the words "I'm an XYZ," wearing the para, strolling/struting, etc.

Is it worth thousands of dollars to become a member of XYZ, when you can do community service for free?
Although one can do community service for free, to some, the other incentives of being a member of XYZ may be priceless.

Do you really want to become a member of an organization for the RIGHT reasons, or are you trying to get a man? get attention?
The right reasons...

Why is it that SOME SFs purport to know everything there is to know about greekdom, but have yet to become a member?
They don't want to admit their shortcomings. Or maybe they have watched too many movies and TV shows that feature greeklife and feel that they have it under control.

Why put on a facade to try to get sponsorship?
Some people KNOW that there is NO other way for them to reach their goal. Like Chris Rock said in "Bigger and Blacker," that's their "representative."

Why look to an organization to define who you are? Why not have a sense of self BEFORE you join?
Unfortunately, some people don't have a sense of self before joining. While I don't think that a person should be defined by the organization, joining an org. may help to lead people in the right direction to becoming the person they need/desire/want to be.

Why do some SF get the impression that membership is OWED to them?
Sometimes, some people are used to things being given to them instead of being earned.

Why do some SF don't feel like they have to work towards the goal that is Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc.?
Some people have romanticized views that they just have to show up to Rush, do a few activities, and that's all it takes. They have no idea.

SFs, do you feel like b/c of the easy access to memberfriends via the internet that there is less motivation to do your own research?
Not at all. Though the internet has made research a lot easier, when it gets down to it, hardly any of the stuff on the 'net matters. It's what you can do independently without all this fancy technology that matters.

GC is pretty good with not attracting nutballs worthy of restraining orders but I have been members of other sisterfriend/soror sites & the prevelant attitude is that there is no humility i.e arguing with and or trying to cuss out a member of the organization you wish to be a part of. Why do you think that is?
NO NONSENSE MODERATORS!!!

Why do some SFs choose not to use it? In regards to flip-flopping between orgs, if you never said anything, then no one would ever know that you changed your mind. So, SFs, I ask you, how do you view discretion and what does it mean to you? What do you think it means to the organization?
Some SFs just don't know better. I think that some Sfs get excited to find a "community" where people have a common interest and get overzealous. That causes them to trip. With time, I think most SFs learn the ropes. Discretion is keeping private things private and that's that. Loose lips sink ships. Discretion to can literally be a matter of life or death to an organization.

If you were a legacy, would you tell?
Yes.

If your blood sister was an AKA perp would you tell or would you let my Sorors think she was real?
I would tell.

Have you ever thought about perping? What made you decide against it?
NEVER considered it.

In your own words, what is the difference between a necessity and a luxury?
A necessity is something that is needed to maintain (i.e. food, shelter, electricity, water). A luxury is something that I would like, but can continue to live without--meaning, I won't die if I never have one in life

If you have to ask what the "right" reason is for joining an organization, should you even be thinking about joining?
No.

What, if any, is the advantage of doing community service in a group as opposed to doing it alone?
Two heads are better than one, so to speak. The more manpower, the better. However, some people may be a little too "chicken" to do things alone. So, if it takes rounding up some of your girls to get you off your butt and go out to feed the homeless, go for it.

[RedefinedDiva]

Knowing what you know about your organization of choice, what would make you a "fit"?
The fact that I am and can be myself. I feel that I have qualities that can make me useful/valuable to my org. of choice.

Okay, let's say you were chosen for the organization that you want, but another person that you really don't like at all was also chosen. How do you handle that?
I would get over it.

What are your favorite colors? (I have a reason for asking this seemingly crazy question.)
In all honesty, I like most colors, but pink and black are at the top of the list.

Why do SOME SFs say they want to join XYZ because of the colors?
They are crazy.

Why do some SFs choose XYZ org ONLY because their boyfriend/manfriend is a member of DEF? What happens if you and your boy/manfriend breakup? Then what?
They are still crazy... and single.

Why is it that SOME SFs have their own agenda? Why not establish SF Social and Pleasure Aid Club?
SF SA&P? That's funny. Reminds me to get my ticket for the Zulu ball....

[AKA_Monet]

Do you all know SF that there is a difference between an interest and a prospective?



If your mother is a member of XYZ, then how come she is unable to get all the stuff you need to do your research if she's still alive--or just because she's a "silver star" does she think you ought to skate into her sorority?



How come the explicit written down on paper parts of the intake process seem extremely unclear to you all, especially after all the information has been presented at Rush?




How come the application process so scary to you all? Are you all afraid of being rejected? And why?




How come some of you all demand to be questioned with a harsh tone and expect us to be "gracious" afterward? We have feelings too and we work hard... Just asking...

[AKA2D '91]

Why if your school's chapter of XYZ is no longer on campus (suspended/expelled/never existed), why do you think you can harass the Graduate Advisor of another school in the same city? Why ask if you can "cross-"pledge""? IF you researched the organization, you would KNOW if it is possible to do. Then, you would know that "pledging" is not a recognized activity. Also, why not check with the school you attend for information? Or, check with the other university to determine what it's guidelines are regarding this matter?


Why do SFs still use the term pledge?
Why do AKA SFs ignore the anti-hazing policy?
Do you know what the AKA anti-hazing policy includes? (if so, don't post...only reflect and digest the info and make it applicable to your lives)

[nachural]

Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
What is your full name and what school do you go to?

I was going to answer this but as a serious SF I feel I need to be discrete in my interest.

Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
If you could choose your own linesisters would you? What would be your criteria?

Well practically nobody knows me on campus and I only know one other interest that I met at an event. She and I have become friendly aquaintances and I would choose her to be my linesister. She is doing big things academically and is in a leadership position in another org at school plus she is a really kind and sweet person. She is aware that as interests we are competing against one another for a spot but still is really nice to everyone.

I guess the criteria would be: how they present themselves (how they come to events etc.); how they speak or if they speak at all at events; I dont know many people but if I did I would look at what orgs they are in and what their goals are after college; being friendly but not talking to all the other interests mostly members and then leaving a few minutes after the event is over. I have observed a few other ladies at events that just based on how they act at events I would choose also but I have never conversed with them or seen them arround campus so I really don;t know how they really are. I keep to myself so I guess I like other people that are naturally discrete.

Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
If you knew FOR CERTAIN that you would NEVER have the opportunity to become a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha, would you go ahead and seek membership elsewhere?

No. Well not in another sorority. I would probably become a Kiwani's Club member or Lion's Club member. They both are very active in Jamaica where I'm from.

Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
What role, if any, have greek stereotypes played in your interest/selection of a sorority?

I have noticed that the stereotypes do not really mean anything. Plus I have heard all sorts of things. My initial interest in Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Incorporated came before I knew what the stereotypes were.

Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
If you knew FOR CERTAIN that in order to become a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha you would HAVE TO spend an extra year in undergrad would you submit an application and stay in school that extra year or continue your studies/graduate on time and hope to be invited to a graduate chapter? Why or Why not?

I would graduate on time. I have planned my life almost to a T and there are things I need to get done by certain deadlines I have set for myself. I think that if I am to become a memeber I will get an invitation on the graduate level and if not then I won't. As it's said AKA is not for everyone...which may include me

Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
If your mother, for whatever reasons, forbade you to become a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha would you do it anyway (assume that her opinion CANNOT be changed)? Why or Why not?

I think I would still try to become a member. My mother has lived and made decisions for herself. I need to do the same and she would just have to accept that. My mother would never forbid me to do anything

[futurestar1]

Why do SFs still use the term pledge?
I used the term pledge in a previous post. However, by pledge I meant to devote yourself.

If you could choose your own linesisters would you? What would be your criteria?
If granted the opportunity, no I would not want to choose my own linesisters. I would want to be linesisters with the women that the members chose to be my linesisters.


If you knew FOR CERTAIN that you would NEVER have the opportunity to become a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha, would you go ahead and seek membership elsewhere?
No, then it was just not meant to be. It was not in His plan.

What role, if any, have greek stereotypes played in your interest/selection of a sorority?
The only stereotype that has played into my interest is the fact that the women of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated are trailblazers.

If you knew FOR CERTAIN that in order to become a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha you would HAVE TO spend an extra year in undergrad would you submit an application and stay in school that extra year or continue your studies/graduate on time and hope to be invited to a graduate chapter? Why or Why not?
I would graduate because I went to school for an education not to become a member of a sorority.

If your mother, for whatever reasons, forbade you to become a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha would you do it anyway (assume that her opinion CANNOT be changed)? Why or Why not?
This one is hard for me because my mother would never forbid me to do anything. She trusts my judgement. I would have to say yes, I would do it anyway, and she would have to get over it. 1. My mother is my BEST friend so we could work through it 2. I am my own person and I have to live my life as I see fit and pursue MY dreams. I cannot live someone else's life and be happy.

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by nachural

I was going to answer this but as a serious SF I feel I need to be discrete in my interest.

Ifyou want to be discreet, why post on a message board?

IF you were on your campus and the Memberfriend asked you your name etc. would you give this same response?

IFyou were no longer on a collegiate campus, and a memberfriend asked for your name, where you worked, etc would you respond similarly as you did above?

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[futurestar1]

I really like this thread and the Ask a Memberfriend thread.

[Ideal08]

Originally posted by nachural
I would probably become a Kiwani's Club member or Lion's Club member.

I was in Circle K when I was in college.

That is all.