Psycho/Stalker PNM's?!

[CASIGKAP]

This is definitely a bizarre one. My neighbors daughter is (was) a real sweetheart. I've known them for the past 8 years. Anyway, when I first rushed, her and her mom were real nice and even gave me a small gift when I got a bid from Sigma Kappa b/c they knew it was my first choice.

Well, soon after, they told me that they were investigating all the Panhellenic websites b/c they had decided that the daughter wanted to join a sorority when she got into college. O.K. I thought. That's smart. Then they sent out for information on the ones she liked.

Pretty soon, on Tuesdays I see her wearing shirts that say "I love Sigma Kappa" and ones that say "My Best Friend is a Sigma Kappa"
I asked her where she got them and she told me that they had them custom silk printed at the mall b/c she decided that she loves my sorority. Now she's getting weird and it gets WORSE! The next time I saw her on a Monday, she was dressed up and I asked her why. She said that b/c she knows we have meetings on Monday so she has to look her best.
As if that wasn't enough, she is now contemplating buying one of our pins on E-bay so she can have ready for when she gets a bid from us. I've tried to explain that just b/c she knows me is not a guarantee of a bid but it seems it goes in one ear and out the other. The good news for me is that she still hasn't heard back from the colleges she applied to so I'm hoping my school rejects her b/c she is weird.

[KSUViolet06]

This is an oldie but goodie that I started, annnnd it's that time of year again!

[jon1856]

There must be something about "Sigma". All the prior posts covered one "psycho/stalker"
Sigma Alpha Epsilon has a group! Some how a group in the Philippines has gotten into their heads over the years that somehow they are part of SAE. Their full name: Society of Agricultural Engineering but they over the years have shortened it to SAE/Sigma Alpha Epsilon. And they pop up in any greek group ( including this one ) looking for Brothers.
I have always wondered if they have ever tried to make contact with the other SAE- Society of Automotive Engineering

[jessXIca]

Speaking of girls calling themselves "honorary" whatever, there's a girl at my school that I had some classes with freshman year who is, like, best friends from high school with an XYZ here. She's rushed I think twice but hasn't gotten in. I don't know exactly why but if I could range a guess, I'd say it's either grades or the fact that she doesn't exactly fit in with them "physically" if you know what I mean. Even so, she still calls herself an "honorary" or "adopted" XYZ (it's on her Facebook!) and goes to a lot of their functions and I've even seen her wearing date function shirts, throwing up the XYZ hand sign in pictures, and writing in a notebook with XYZ letters on it. I don't know the whole story but I am 100% sure she is NOT and has NEVER BEEN an XYZ, and yet she still does those things and I guess they don't have a problem with it because she's been doing it for well over a year now...I just saw her the other day in a shirt from XYZ's annual philantrophy. I half expected to see her when I went through Recruitment at that house! Weeeeeeeeird.

[KSUViolet06]

Wow. I can't believe that I was a new member when I started this thread. Haha.

Anyways, I wanted to update on the "psycho". The member she was good friends with went inactive this semester for medical reasons. But she's apparently still interested in joining.

She's in a class with one of our girls (who is fairly new and really didn't know about the psycho) and asked her if we were doing informal recruitment this winter. Later on at chapter dinner, we were talking, and she casually mentioned that "some girl in my class named Susie Psycho asked me if Sigma was doing informal."

You should've seen our faces because everyone at the table knew who she was talking about!

Since it's formal recruitment time, she said she just told her about recruitment and how to sign up. So we're holding our breath to see if she comes through!

[aephi alum]

We had to deal with a complete psycho one year... I've told her story elsewhere. Long story short, she came through formal rush desperate to join a sorority, and got cut across the board before pref. One of my sisters really liked her, though, and invited her to a COB rush we held a few weeks later. Again, a decision was made not to extend a bid. I think she wanted to try to COB again in the spring but was talked out of it...

[SigK_Bama]

We had one girl I remember that tried to pull that stunt. I think she came through rush my soph year and was cut by everyone. She was in the same extracurricular activities as me and some other sisters and she always freaking asked us when the next COB was or if we wanted to go out to dinner with her, or, if you can believe this, she once asked me and another sister if we were ever going to pledge her or if she should just start coming to meetings. WTF? Fuh-reak. She finally stopped asking when we just started ignoring her.

Say Suzie PNM goes through rush at her campus multiple times but does not get a bid. For some reason, there's something about her that sororities don't like because they don't extend bids to her.

And then you find out that not only is Suzie PNM transferring to another campus with Greek Life, but she's planning to go through rush again. One can't help but wonder if she's just doing this to be accepted in a sorority.

Psycho...? Or no?

[Jill1228]

I dunno if it is psycho. It is not unheard of for PNM to transfer from a school with a competitive Greek system

[33girl]

It would depend. If Suzie's school is very Greek influenced, there's nothing to do if you're not Greek, and she's miserable because of it, well, I kinda wouldn't blame her.

But she's transferring to the new school JUST to rush and the academic programs are nothing remotely like what she wants....yes, psycho.

[XOMichelle]

Originally posted by ms_gwyn
i have a story that is slighty on the other side. In school i pledged XYZ, had a great time blah, blah, blah (if you want the whole story go here. When I was finally ready to leave and move into another dorm, I was telling my pledge sisters that when I go through recruitment again they should really seriously consider giving me a bid. I do believe that they thought I was psycho, perhaps I was a tiny bit from the grief, from what happened to me. Needless to say, none of this happened because for one, I was not going to through the humiliation of FR again and when I had moved into the other dorm, one of the pledge sisters happened to be my suite mate and that was a bad experience. Afterwards it was pretty hard reverting to a normal life of school and friends outside the sorority because it was basically my life from the time I stepped off the plane, but I did and moved on. I did freak a tiny bit during FR the following Fall, but by then I was ready for something else.

But STALKING is something entirely different and these young ladies in the above stories, truly need to get there heads examined.

I'm just glad that I had a support system through my family and friends that helped me, I don't know that I would not have gone to these extremes. Perhaps these ladies don't have that.


ms. gwyn

Gwyn-
I read your story in the AI thread... and you know... national groups have rules about kicking people out of a chapter (there are VERY few reasons why you can hold a pledge pack from initation). What they did was probably not allowed according to their constitution. I'm sorry that happened to you!!!!!

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally posted by OohTeenyWahine
Say Suzie PNM goes through rush at her campus multiple times but does not get a bid. For some reason, there's something about her that sororities don't like because they don't extend bids to her.

And then you find out that not only is Suzie PNM transferring to another campus with Greek Life, but she's planning to go through rush again. One can't help but wonder if she's just doing this to be accepted in a sorority.

Psycho...? Or no?

Superfreak, superfreak, she's super freaky...

For somebody to have rushed multiple times, they're an upperclassman. Transferring that late in the game is pretty unusual.

[justamom]

33girl-It would depend. If Suzie's school is very Greek influenced, there's nothing to do if you're not Greek, and she's miserable because of it, well, I kinda wouldn't blame her.

I am 100% with this statement. People tend to forget how much the recruitment experience meant, either good or bad. I know a lot of these stories sound really...well odd to be honest. Still, these are very young girls who may come from families that have no concept of what rush is all about. Lack of maturity, lack of polish, lack of knowledge- I say give them a chance UNLESS it's REALLY scary behavior that needs the attention of a professional.
BUT sometimes recruitment is so successful, the numbers don't bode well for anyone who "missteps".

[Jill1228]

Co-sign!

Originally posted by exlurker
Hard to say. One thing to keep in mind, though, is that Greek life and GLO chapters can vary enormously from campus to campus. So although she didn't click with any of the sororities at campus A, it's possible she might find a sorority -- or several sororities -- at campus B that would welcome her. And if having the Greek experience in college is extremely important to her, well maybe she's not psycho to try at a different school.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally posted by CASIGKAP


Pretty soon, on Tuesdays I see her wearing shirts that say "I love Sigma Kappa" and ones that say "My Best Friend is a Sigma Kappa"
I asked her where she got them and she told me that they had them custom silk printed at the mall b/c she decided that she loves my sorority. Now she's getting weird and it gets WORSE! The next time I saw her on a Monday, she was dressed up and I asked her why. She said that b/c she knows we have meetings on Monday so she has to look her best.
As if that wasn't enough, she is now contemplating buying one of our pins on E-bay so she can have ready for when she gets a bid from us.

WOW!!!! You win!!!! That is weird