Uggh

[kappaloo]

Originally posted by ZTAngel
A friend of mine worked 40+ a week while in college and he always gave me a hard time because I never had to work while in college. While I think it's admirable that he worked that hard to pay his tuition, I would always get offended when he thought of me as spoiled and unthankful for what my parents did for me. My parents did Florida Prepaid. For anyone unfamiliar with Florida Prepaid, it is a system that allows parents, grandparents, or whoever to lock in a future student to the cost of tuition, dorms, etc. for that year. You then invest your money throughout the years into the Florida Prepaid system. My parents invested the day I was born in 1981 so my tuition was completely covered and my parents only had to pay the 1981 tuition price.

Wow! What an awesome program. sucks the it's no longer available.

My parents saved for me - an amount that would have covered all my tuition had a I gone to school before the nineties, but tuition has raised so much that it ended up covering my residence fees first term and then a 1/4 of tuition every academic year. But I'm still very honoured and grateful that they did that for me - neither of them got to go to university and they always wanted to make sure that I could.

[DeltAlum]

My parents (divorced) paid for my Freshman year, and then my tuition for the rest of college, and I worked for the rest. In my case, that was good, because I was able to get some OJT and professional experience which helped me get into the job market immediately.

My wife's family paid every cent of her college costs. She got much better grades than I did. Cause and effect? Who knows?

We paid for college (including a nice little condo) for daughter number one and hair school for daughter number two.

Then I was out of work for a lengthy amount of time, and we were somewhat worried about college for our son. The good news is that he got a full ride (academic), so we will try to help him out some when he graduates. He works summers and did use his own money to buy a car.

Having said all of that, my personal feeling is that college should be a time for study and learning about living away from home, etc. You will get to support yourself long enough once you join the work force. So, in my opinion, if it is possible for a student to concentrate on school without having a job -- that's a good thing. I understand, though, that sometimes a family simply can't afford that.

[ISUKappa]

I paid for school in the sense that I took out student loans, which I am paying back, to cover tuition and housing but, whatever those loans didn't cover, my parents helped me with. I also had a small academic scholarship every semester. As long as I was in school, I could use a credit card that they paid for (but if I went overboard with it, they let me know!!!) and I didn't have to pay for my car. I did work part-time most of the time I was in school and that was my bill-paying and play money. My parents both worked very hard and wanted to help out their daughters as much as they could. Even though it took me a bit to learn how to be completely responsible with money (credit cards can be evil) I'm proud of what my parents did to help me out, and what I have learned from them. I only hope hubby and I can teach our kids the same thing as they get older.

[PM_Mama00]

My parents didn't go to college. Shit I don't think my dad even finished high school and went straight to the military (common in Italy around that time). They pay for my school and expenses because they want at least someone to graduate from college. It's something that they didn't have, and the want to provide my brother and I with everything.

My parents also pay for my car, insurance, gas, and everything else. The only thing I pay for is my cell phone, sorority, and whatever else I want.

Now, I have a friend who gets all this also. But, she has a 1.9 GPA, doesn't really try, parties all the time, and is constantly wearing brand name clothing- I'm talkin Burberry, Van Deutsh, stuff like that. And if her parents won't give her money for something, she goes to her grandparents.

Now that I DON"T agree with. That is just plain ol being spoiled.

[James]

If you can be taken care of during anytime in your life by someone else, well bully for you.

Maybe challenges do make you a better person, but who cares? I have heard that Privation/starvation refines the soul, but who would willingly partake of starvation given the choice?

I do confess to being curious about the people that were taken care of like that, but still professed to have trouble and no time for academics, or were overwhelmed. But I figured they just weren't very bright. A situation money doesn't help.

[KSigkid]

I'm not sure who would hold any of your situations against you; I worked my way through school, working around 30 hours a week to pay for my way. That was just my situation; because of various situations within my family, my parents just could not contribute as much as they would have liked. I did very well in high school and got a lot of scholarships/aid, but even the remaining cost was a strain. I worked my tail off and was able to pay the bills.

If there were misunderstandings, it was related to this; sometimes friends, etc. couldn't understand when I had to work on a Sat. night or go into work early on a Friday or Monday, thus negating weekend plans. Because of my work schedule, especially senior year, I just couldn't go nuts on nights because of work. This misunderstanding wasn't anyone's fault; just one of those things.

I never would and never have held a grudge against those who were in more fortunate situations. If I ever have children, I will try my best to make sure that I can pay for their educations. People do the best with their situations, and that's that.

[TigerLilly]

UGGG people can be annoying like that! My parents pay for a lot of things for me, but I don't take it for granted! Things that I "want", not "need", I pay for -- even my sorority and fraternity dues. I had a job from the middle of my freshman year until last summer, and I feel really guilty even that I don't have one now. (I don't because it's hard to find one while studying abroad: don't think I haven't tried.)

I got the biggest amount of crap, though, when my uncle gave me a car last April (my first car). Everyone seemed to think that that indicated that I was spoiled beyond all belief, 19 years old and not paying for my own car. Then they all shut up when I asked them, "And how many of y'all had your first car given to you by your parents??? You might have been 16, not yet in college, but still!"

Then again I know people who are my same year in college, but STILL don't have a car because their parents won't help them out on it, and they don't have enough money to get one. I don't really like that either. I think that, if the parents have enough money to help their children out until they get out of school, they should do so, within reason.

[Rudey]

You're all a bunch of spoiled bastards.

-Rudey
--Stop complaining because you know you all are you offensive bourgois pigs!

[toocute]

Originally posted by AXO_MOM_3
I intend to pay for my daughter's tuition, housing, car, sorority and daily expenses AS LONG as they are going to class, making good grades and handling finances appropriately. I'll pay for it as long as they uphold their end of the deal. If they want more than the month allowance provides for, then at that point they can work during breaks and summer vacation!

I just had this conversation with my boss a few weeks ago. We're looking at resumes for possible summer interns and we're looking at this one guys resume and she's like "Oh...see he can't have a good work ethic....all of his jobs are summer jobs. He doesn't work while he's in school. Mommy and Daddy probably pay for everything."

I was

My response was "You've always told me that you've admired my work ethic and professionalism...well all the jobs on my resume in my younger days were summer jobs. I never worked while in school...I wasn't allowed. I received a monthly allowance and had to make that last. THAT'S how I learned money management." It was then her turn to be . She thinks that's a free ride so to speak. I thinks she's straight hating.


I know that I'm am very blessed and very fortunate that my parents were able to do this and I hope I can do the same for my son.

[Rudey]

Originally posted by toocute
I just had this conversation with my boss a few weeks ago. We're looking at resumes for possible summer interns and we're looking at this one guys resume and she's like "Oh...see he can't have a good work ethic....all of his jobs are summer jobs. He doesn't work while he's in school. Mommy and Daddy probably pay for everything."

I was

My response was "You've always told me that you've admired my work ethic and professionalism...well all the jobs on my resume in my younger days were summer jobs. I never worked while in school...I wasn't allowed. I received a monthly allowance and had to make that last. THAT'S how I learned money management." It was then her turn to be . She thinks that's a free ride so to speak. I thinks she's straight hating.


I know that I'm am very blessed and very fortunate that my parents were able to do this and I hope I can do the same for my son.

Spoiled.

-Rudey

[James]

LOL.

I think if you have been treated to all this you have been spoiled.

It doesn't mean you act spoiled. What would be acting spoiled by the way?

And whats wrong with being spoiled?

My parents paid for my tuition, car insurance, books, and rent/utilities. I am very grateful for what they did. I was able to do other things and have a little fun. I had good grades.

I lived with a girl that was jealous that my parents did all of this and I didn't have to work. I did work just to have a little extra money. Whenever I left for work, this girl would bitch about something. For instance, she'd bitch that I hadn't taken out HER dog, or cleaned up HER crap that was strown all over the common living room, etc. She told me she wanted me to do it before I left for work since she was the one that let me live with her. I told her to shove it and just walked out the door. As I walked out the door, she proceeded to call me a spoiled bitch that had my parents pay for everything.

Oh well. I am grateful for what my parents did and am ready to get out into the real world to do my own thing. Yes, that might seem like a slap in my parents face for some people in a weird kind of way, but that's what my parents paid tuition for, for me to get a job and pay for my own things in the real world.

[Rudey]

Originally posted by ztawinthropgirl
My parents paid for my tuition, car insurance, books, and rent/utilities. I am very grateful for what they did. I was able to do other things and have a little fun. I had good grades.

I lived with a girl that was jealous that my parents did all of this and I didn't have to work. I did work just to have a little extra money. Whenever I left for work, this girl would bitch about something. For instance, she'd bitch that I hadn't taken out HER dog, or cleaned up HER crap that was strown all over the common living room, etc. She told me she wanted me to do it before I left for work since she was the one that let me live with her. I told her to shove it and just walked out the door. As I walked out the door, she proceeded to call me a spoiled bitch that had my parents pay for everything.

Oh well. I am grateful for what my parents did and am ready to get out into the real world to do my own thing. Yes, that might seem like a slap in my parents face for some people in a weird kind of way, but that's what my parents paid tuition for, for me to get a job and pay for my own things in the real world.

Spoiled.

-Rudey

[CC1GC]

I tear into my spoiled buddy all the time...and yeah, he is spoiled. Now in his 6th year, all i hear from this kid is 'oh i'll have three degrees, making 60 k right after graduation', 'i'll sell my stock and that will pay for my first car'...blah blah blah. His parents have paid his way the whole time without any concern of gratitude. He skipped so many classes, never studied - basically dicked around most of the time doing the bare-min. I think first year he even said something to the affect of, oh your parents didn't save any for you because they didn't think you would go to university. I only wish i had that kind of leverage now, instead of starting out with large debts and 3-4 yrs financially behind.

Maybe you can see why people like me have opinions of kids that had it a little better.

[Rudey]

Originally posted by CC1GC
I tear into my spoiled buddy all the time...and yeah, he is spoiled. Now in his 6th year, all i hear from this kid is 'oh i'll have three degrees, making 60 k right after graduation', 'i'll sell my stock and that will pay for my first car'...blah blah blah. His parents have paid his way the whole time without any concern of gratitude. He skipped so many classes, never studied - basically dicked around most of the time doing the bare-min. I think first year he even said something to the affect of, oh your parents didn't save any for you because they didn't think you would go to university. I only wish i had that kind of leverage now, instead of starting out with large debts and 3-4 yrs financially behind.

Maybe you can see why people like me have opinions of kids that had it a little better.

Go to partypoker.com. It helps supplement my income.

-Rudey
--You spoiled prick!