Deb Ball dress question

[breathesgelatin]

Have fun! I don't too awfully far from Gastonia... my area doesn't have a local ball, and the North Carolina statewide deb ball is impossible to get into... For me anyway! oh well!

[AllisonDG]

What are deb balls?

[AlphaGam1019]

deb = debutante

[AllisonDG]

Originally posted by AlphaGam1019
deb = debutante

what is the point of the balls? I didnt know people still did stuff like that

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally posted by AllisonDG
what is the point of the balls? I didnt know people still did stuff like that

They do, but I think they're bigger in more monied regions. There's actually still a few in Milwaukee, but they aren't as competitive and overdone (IMO) as the ones down south.

However, I think I would have looooved to be a deb, but I'm sure I wouldn't have been. The whole lacking manners thing probably would have killed me, plus I wasn't much of a girly girl in high school.

[juniorgrrl]

I loved getting a special dress and having a fuss made over me. BUt I hated all the parties where I had to force small talk with all the other debs - I had gone to grammar school and high school with these girls and we were always in different circles.

They were so incredibly vacant - an actual quote from my luncheon "OMG! MY ICE CREAM ISN'T COLD" - from one of the girls when she was given a dish of chocolate mousse.

I also hated curtseying.

I don't regret the experience, though.

[CaitieQT]

This is only vaguely related to the original question, but have any of you ever seen a movie called "Metropolitan"? It is a movie that takes place over the span of one Debutante season in New York City. I don't know how realistic it was because that whole concept is another world to me, but it was entertaining and funny!

[Peaches-n-Cream]

The movie Metropolitan was pretty realistic from what I remember. In the next few weeks, there will be debutante cotillions and balls galore in Manhattan at hotels like the Plaza and the Waldorf Astoria. You can do a search and read about it.

[navane]

You know, I was born and raised in Southern California and I've never heard of any Deb balls down here. I do recall hearing about one held by a women's club somewhere in Northern California. Does anyone know if they hold them out here? I'm just wondering if they're not common here or if I've just been left out of the loop my entire life.


.....Kelly

[Munchkin03]

Originally posted by CaitieQT
This is only vaguely related to the original question, but have any of you ever seen a movie called "Metropolitan"? It is a movie that takes place over the span of one Debutante season in New York City. I don't know how realistic it was because that whole concept is another world to me, but it was entertaining and funny!

You are cool in my book. Whit Stillman (Last Days of Disco, Barcelona) is one of my all-time favorite film directors. Those three films make up the "Doomed Bourgeois in Love" trilogy. Many of the same characters are in all three films.

[vandy_violet]

There have to be some deb balls in SoCal because my current roomie/sister had one, and she's from Pasadena, though I really don't know what her club was called...I know it's had Women's in it, like that narrows it down!

[Munchkin03]

I am going to a deb ball sponsored by Sis Munch's sorority over Christmas. I get to have a dress made!

[krazy]

Deb Balls are dumb and boring... It is an excuse for drunk Mothers too drink too much and hit on the marshalls. A Pity it is...

[Taualumna]

Some families don't have deb balls, but "coming of age" teas or luncheons, held by the girl's mother. I have read in the archives of The Toronto Star that a mother held a "coming of age" tea reception in her home for her daughter when she was 17 or 18. Deb balls still exist in Toronto (I do know of one, The Helicon Ball, held in early February of each year. The debs aren't necesarily 18, as it's in the middle of the school year, and many are away at school.), but it isn't all that common. I think I only know of maybe four or five girls who were debs, and I attended one of the oldest girls' private schools in Canada. Big deb balls really aren't that big around here anymore. I do know that a few families hold private parties for their daughters though (such as the girls I mentioned earlier). I would have loved to have been one, but it's "not in my culture" (i.e. Chinese families aren't too familiar with debs. The closest thing to a deb is a child's presentation when he/she is a month old. It's usually some banquet held by the parents and well, the child just sleeps away. After all, the kid IS a month old!)

[sororitygirl2]

I'm going to the winter deb ball this weekend! I can't wait!