Help! Im overwhelmed!

[ECGal]

Oh Smiles! ::hugs:: Im so sorry that your getting a hard time about pledging from the bf. I got some of the same stuff when I started, so I told him "listen, I need this for me, for an outlet and a way to be a part of somthing that I feel is special, pledging doesnt last forever, and life will go back to normal very soon!" After I let him know that I needed his support, not discouragement, he got the idea, and has been really good with it since. This group of girls that Ive gotten to know so well after this amount of time is too important for me to just give up, especially for guy!!! I hope everything workd out hon!!!

[smiles91721]

I know the things that all you are saying is true because me and my boyfriend have come a long way and believe me a really long way because the first year was so hard cause of distance but he decided to relocate to be near me and now that i'm really into the things at my school, i guess he is having a hard time dealing with the fact that he's not always going to be with me 24 hours a day. My relationship w/ him was really on the line all the time and still is because of my time being occupied of something besides him. He knows i'm not going to be pledging forever and I even met up w/ some really nice people from my sorority and my bf doesn't like them since they all have a different opinion of him. I know he means well and only wants my attention but I know he can't always have it. I even invite him along w/ me if I'm going to do my usual activities w/ the pledge sisters but he tells me it's only girl stuff and he'd wait till I was done to spend time w/ him but I do understand his frustration of not getting to see me. I mean anyone would feel like that if they don't get to see someone they really care about.

I agree erica, i'm doing little things to lighten things between me and him a little and he does seem to like it, yeah sexy lil emails i've done and he loves that.

I really truly want this to work for me and him but I don't know if he's really going to be patient. I really hope so..

[cultural]

Hi,

I may be wrong but this does not sound like a pledging issue, it sounds more like a relationship one. You should consider what you want from your relationship and ask your boyfriend the same. If this was a job or a class, would he feel the same?

How does he react with your other friends? Is he the type of guy that wants you to him self? Is so, this is dangerous.

Now don't get me wrong, he sounds caring and may be an awesome guy but if he wants to put limits on your goals and aspiration then thread lightly. Ask yourself, if he was involved in something he really wanted would I have a problem ? Would I be willing to give up a couple weeks? The answers to those question should give enough guidance.

[Sigep_STUDEnt]

Maybe your bf is just insecure and is afraid of losing you.

Keep in mind you're in for a new social life. He must be thinking about all the people you're going to meet, mixers with fraternity guys, you're going to get close with your sisters and all this must scare him if he really loves you and is not too sure about himself.

He is probably afraid of getting second place in your life or maybe lose any place he might have in your life. Which, sadly enough, may be the case after a while.

If this is the case, you should talk to him about where you two stand and either reassure him you would like him to be part of your new social life and to stand by your side or get ready for some sad and confusing times.

Hope this helps.