Missing recruitment

[Moxie]

thanks for the advice and opinions from all i don't think any of you are cold-hearted anythings! my logic is as such: if i can't be there for my biological sister, what kind of sorority sister will i make?! i'm still not sure what i'm going to do, plus, as someone mentioned earlier, my sister's dates may change *again* and everything might be different. ah, *sigh*...we shall see...

[kddani]

Originally posted by Moxie
thanks for the advice and opinions from all i don't think any of you are cold-hearted anythings! my logic is as such: if i can't be there for my biological sister, what kind of sorority sister will i make?! i'm still not sure what i'm going to do, plus, as someone mentioned earlier, my sister's dates may change *again* and everything might be different. ah, *sigh*...we shall see...

One thing to think about is how much are you really going to be able to "be there" for her? She's going to be on crazy drugs and won't know what's going on.

Also, see what your role would actually be in the birth.

We obviously can't tell you which to choose. Just giving you some things to think about

Good luck, whatever you do.

[rainbowbrightCS]

let your sister know you are torn. Tell her both sides of the agrument. I know just form her that you wanted to rush forever. So she should too.

Chris

[xo_kathy]

Well, Moxie, I don't envy your decision. Whatever you do I am sure it will be the right thing for you!

On another note, I'm sure glad others agree with me! I don't feel so crummy now!!!

[momoftwo]

My advice is to have a heart to heart talk with your sister. When my kids were born, I would have felt selfish to deny any of our family a chance to see their new grandchild/niece/nephew. That said, once I had a chance to show the babies off, I really wanted an opportunity for my husband, the baby and me to work on getting to know our new little family. The first few days after the births, I was really tired and only wanted to sleep and cuddle the baby. Having a lot of family around was actually overwhelming to me, as much as I love my family.

In most instances you wouldn't even know if there was going to be a conflict--it's just the fact that your sister is having a scheduled c-section that puts you in this dilemma. Would your sister expect you to drop everything if you were in the middle of rush or classes?

There will be plenty of opportunities to spoil your new little niece or nephew. The baby won't know the difference, and your sister might actually prefer company in a week or two.

Good luck with whatever happens.

[Ames44]

From your fellow LSU friend..

I sure hope that everything works out for you, Moxie! I just know how you have been anticipating next week .. and you've put alot of effort into the whole recruitment process. I'm crossing my fingers for you gal and I sure hope to see you on Sunday!

- ames

[Angels&Arrows]

I understand wanting to be there for your sister. I have one child and I have completed my OBGYN rotation!!! So, let me just say.... If she is having a C-section, only one person will be allowed in the operating room (I assume she will choose her husband). Depending on the hospital only one person will be allowed to sit in Pre-Op/PACU with her (I assume she will pick her husband). You will only see your sister for a very short period, the day of her C-section and that night, she will be a bit groggy. If she is a scheduled section, she could and mostly will get bumped by one or more emergency C-sections. Since, she is having a C-section, she will be in the hospital for three days. It is great to see family, but you will share the room with her, your brother-in-law, her inlaws, your family and the Nursing assts, the nurses, her doctor and the peditrician several times a day!!!!

It is the only time that she can do absolutely nothing, but recover, rest and relax. By the time she gets out of the hospital, you will be almost done with rush!!!! She will need help when she gets home... She will really need someone a few weeks later when mom is gone, mom-in-law is gone and her husband has gone back to work!!!!

So... information to chew!!!!

[breathesgelatin]

Originally posted by Angels&Arrows
I understand wanting to be there for your sister. I have one child and I have completed my OBGYN rotation!!! So, let me just say.... If she is having a C-section, only one person will be allowed in the operating room (I assume she will choose her husband). Depending on the hospital only one person will be allowed to sit in Pre-Op/PACU with her (I assume she will pick her husband). You will only see your sister for a very short period, the day of her C-section and that night, she will be a bit groggy. If she is a scheduled section, she could and mostly will get bumped by one or more emergency C-sections. Since, she is having a C-section, she will be in the hospital for three days. It is great to see family, but you will share the room with her, your brother-in-law, her inlaws, your family and the Nursing assts, the nurses, her doctor and the peditrician several times a day!!!!

It is the only time that she can do absolutely nothing, but recover, rest and relax. By the time she gets out of the hospital, you will be almost done with rush!!!! She will need help when she gets home... She will really need someone a few weeks later when mom is gone, mom-in-law is gone and her husband has gone back to work!!!!

So... information to chew!!!!

I was thinking this same thing!

Moxie--you need to at least contact the Greek life office ASAP to let them know your situation. I know that every year at my school (a southern, competitive school) people have to miss rush. There is a chance you could still get a house--it happens, but I'm not 100% sure about LSU, which is a much larger school than mine.

I must say that Angels&Arrows makes a pretty good point--hospitals can be strict about these policies.

[DGMarie]

and I can tell you with great confidence that you should go to your rush parties. As was pointed out earlier, you won't be allowed in the surgical suite during the procedure. Afterwards there is an hour or so in post op and then your sister will be in her room for the next few days (I spent 5 days in the hospital). Since this is her first baby, the whole situation will be a whirlwind for her, the baby and her hubby. My first child was a c section, too. I think a regualr phone call to check in on her would be plenty fine. I didn't want any visitors at all while I was in the hospital because you just feel so sort of yuck for a while. Let her rest, bond with her babies and get her rest (recouperation is no fun either) and then visit her when she is feeling better at home. It is't cold hearted at all. You can call her every day and give her the play by play of your rush parties. It would be a nice distraction.

[Munchkin03]

Originally posted by Angels&Arrows
I By the time she gets out of the hospital, you will be almost done with rush!!!! She will need help when she gets home... She will really need someone a few weeks later when mom is gone, mom-in-law is gone and her husband has gone back to work!!!!

This is so true. I know that when my niece was born, we were overwhelmed with visitors for a week or so--to the point that I barely saw my sister (who was staying with us at the time). She will need your help more when all the visitors have gone and she is alone with a baby that needs a lot of attention!

[kappaloo]

As people are saying...

Perhaps you could come for a visit later once she's out of the hospital? You could do nice things like ask her if you can take care of the baby for an afternoon/evening/night or two so that Mommy can get the rest/relaxation/SLEEP that she will probably find herself deprived of.

[AXO_MOM_3]

Speaking as a mother of three, I have to say that I did not have anyone in the room with me but my husband. After my little darlings were born, I was so drugged up and sleepy (between the baby, and the nurses coming in every two hours, and all my visitors), I could not tell you who came and who didn't! I wanted to shut the door and lock it! For the second two babies, I told everyone to stay at home and let me rest while in the hospital! I know "the thing to do" is to go and visit new mothers and babies at the hospital, but as someone who has experienced it three times, my recommendation to all is to wait until mom and baby go home, and then take dinner/presents/balloons/whatever by within the first two - three weeks. C-sections usually require longer hospital stays, and the recovery period is more difficult than a normal delivery. I agree with other posts that say your sister will appreciate your help at home - keeping the house straight, doing a few loads of laundry, watching the baby while she sleeps. I have a biological sister too, and understand where your concerns are. I would definately discuss it with her, and see what you can work out! Hugs to you in making this difficult decision!

[bsp-mich24]

Moxie,

I think you should go to rush events and check in w/ your brother in law before or after rush events.

Will the proud daddy be video tapping the birth? That maybe a way for you to see what occurred even if it is edited.
I forgot about the hopital rules during surgery and like the others said she will need you more after all the family leave and hubby goes back to work.

[JohnsDGsweethrt]

Moxie,

Based on DGMarie's comments I am going to have to say stay in Rush and see her as soon as she gets out! We need an awsome girl like you in one of our sororities!

Mel

[Jill1228]

Add another cold hearted bitch to the list
(It's all good...I have been called that before...but people who know me know I am NOT that way!)

Originally posted by sugar and spice
If you're a cold-hearted b*tch, that makes two of us.