Thinking about disaffiliating

[adpiucf]

The first rule of advising is to "ADVISE," and to let the chapter officers "DO." However, there are circumstances where the chapter is not following national/international policy of the sorority or NPC, and the advisory board must step in and firmly align the chapter with these policies. Otherwise the chapter runs the risk of being closed for not being in accordance with international bylaws and puts the overall organization at risk.

That being said, in this case it sounds like both the chapter president and chapter adviser may be taking their job a little too seriously, perhaps playing favorites? Perhaps there is another exec committee member, and another adviser that you can talk to?

I recommend you gather together sisters who feel like you, and that you write a concise letter to read your concerns at the next Exec Board meeting with all concerned parties present. Be specific-- names, dates and incidents, and your proposed resolutions.

The exec board is elected to represent the chapter. And as a "constituent," you have the right to be at this meeting and raise your concerns.

[AOII_LB93]

Like others have said there have been times when a lot of members think about disaffiliation. Times are tough, you don't get along with other members, you feel like no one there "gets" how you feel, and quite honestly, it seems semi-normal to me at this point to hear things like this from members in all chapters. Adivsers are there to advise, and it seems that your CA needs to remember this, are there other advisers that you can consult with? Perhaps an officer at your national/international organization?

If you can, remember why you joined, remember your RITUAL, remember that sorority/fraternity membership is for LIFE. I admire our older alumnae who are still active in our fraternity and I too am proud to be a(almost 11-7-03) ten year member. There were times that it was very tough, but I love my organization and what it means to me is far beyond words at this point in my life. Today, looking back, I would have missed out on so much had I ever left. Don't regret the choices you make.