How Long Do You (or Can You) Wait??

[miss priss]

Wonderful1908 says:
Until recently I would have agreed with most people on this thread that sex is a matter of personal choice (and eventually it is). I think that because we have grown up in a society and in a generation where sex is sad to say, not as sacred an act as it is meant to be, it has become something that we don't concern ourselves with seriuosly.

I agree 100% But unfortunately, sex is (today) just sex. It is as meaningful as the two persons involved make it. However, when it comes to sex, etc. I agree with Ex do what YOU feel, if you want it go for it. There are no real rules except for the ones you establish. You could have sex the 1st night and be together forever or wait till you are married and realize that it wasn't all it cracked up to be.(Ever had this happen ladies? *chuckle chuckle*)
It's all give and take....

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by exquizit
Ladies (and a few gents)
I'm a grown azz woman and if I feel that at that point and time I want to crank, then quite frankly Ex is gonna crank.

yessssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss inCRANKING deed!

LMAO

[PearlEssence08]

You all make valid points and it is true that sex today has lost its true meaning. I strongly believe that sex should be between two people who are in love with each other. That's not to say, however, that I don't agree with casual sex. Although, I don't condone nor condemn casual sex, it is a responsibility to one has to able to deal with in the long run. A lot of women go for it the first maybe even the second date and then go insane when the man doesn't call them back. That's not responsible. When you know you are about to participate in something as meaningful as sex, you should be ready to accept ANYTHING that may come as a result (that includes heartache and pain, pregnancy, or disease).

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by PearlEssence08
Although, I don't condone nor condemn casual sex, it is a responsibility to one has to able to deal with in the long run. A lot of women go for it the first maybe even the second date and then go insane when the man doesn't call them back. That's not responsible. When you know you are about to participate in something as meaningful as sex, you should be ready to accept ANYTHING that may come as a result (that includes heartache and pain, pregnancy, or disease).

True. Responsibility is important...

Yet, why is it such an "issue" if someone casually wants to crank? If the adults MUTUALLY agree to crank, what's the problem? Why is it that women are looked down on if she cranks on the first encounter or so? Evidently, it's what she wanted AT THE TIME. (LOL) Maybe she isn't looking for a relationship....just a good CRANK! Maybe she doesn't want to talk after the fact either. Therefore, no love lost...just frustrations and tension.

Just a thought...

[PearlEssence08]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91


True. Responsibility is important...

Yet, why is it such an "issue" if someone casually wants to crank? If the adults MUTUALLY agree to crank, what's the problem? Why is it that women are looked down on if she cranks on the first encounter or so? Evidently, it's what she wanted AT THE TIME. (LOL) Maybe she isn't looking for a relationship....just a good CRANK! Maybe she doesn't want to talk after the fact either. Therefore, no love lost...just frustrations and tension.

Just a thought...

Since I am a woman, my perspective comes from that point of view and I guess I neglected to say that some men as well as some women go insane when the person who they have CRANKED with doesn't acknowledge them after the fact. I don't look down on women who crank on the first date. I do, however, believe that EVERYBODY should be ready for whatever happens, men included. I, of all people, certainly have NO ROOM to look down on a woman who wants to get down on the first date. It's the aftermath that gets some people into trouble.