Who's turn is it? - Page 2

James · #1 11-22-2002, 09:39 PM

Ok will any of you girls ask for his digits, call and ask him out some place?

Or will some of you suggest you go out when he calls before he does?

valkyrie · #2 11-22-2002, 09:47 PM

Getting phone numbers is boring. It's much more fun, after meeting someone, to have him meet you somewhere in a few days -- then you just see if you both show up at the appointed time and place. Then you avoid the phone drama entirely, and it's much more exciting. That's how I do things, anyway.

James · #3 11-22-2002, 10:12 PM

Thats a neat idea actually lol.

I just have visions of both parties hiding to see if the other one will show up (not wanting to be the waitee) and therefore missing eachother even though they were both there lol.

Must have been in a movie.

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Originally posted by valkyrie
Getting phone numbers is boring. It's much more fun, after meeting someone, to have him meet you somewhere in a few days -- then you just see if you both show up at the appointed time and place. Then you avoid the phone drama entirely, and it's much more exciting. That's how I do things, anyway.

valkyrie · #4 11-22-2002, 10:16 PM

James, you're funny. I actually did this. We were both REALLY drunk and both thought the other wouldn't show up, but we both did. I actually got there early because I didn't want to be the one walking around looking for him. I sat there and read a magazine, and when he got there, he went right for the magazines, so it was easy.

FAB*SpiceySpice · #5 11-22-2002, 11:32 PM

I, unlike *MANY* of my friends, HATE to talk on the phone, this figures in as one of the reasons why I never give my number to guys....

I also do not like the feeling of a guy having my number and them being able to call me whenever, so in most cases, I never give guys my number, I get their's, and if I don't forget (I usually do though

) I call them. How it usually works with me though is if I run in to you enough (like if you're in a fraternity that we're paired with for something or I have lots of friends in a certain house or we have a common friend, or something like that) then I'll make plans to meet up and hang out later and go from there, but not give him my number. If I like the guy, I like to have the control in the whole "calling" thing, and plus guys to me always seem to turn out psycho and scary right away, and I don't like the idea of them being able to get ahold of me whenever they want. Call me paranoid maybe, but I just don't like it.

sororitygirl2 · #6 11-23-2002, 09:06 PM

I don't understand all these games!

If someone is interested, they should call and, likewise, they should welcome calls from the other party. It's that simple...

pinkyphimu · #7 11-23-2002, 10:41 PM

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Originally posted by FAB*SpiceySpice
If I like the guy, I like to have the control in the whole "calling" thing, and plus guys to me always seem to turn out psycho and scary right away, and I don't like the idea of them being able to get ahold of me whenever they want. Call me paranoid maybe, but I just don't like it.

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i do the exact same thing!!! i am kind of a b----, but i usually throw away the number at the end of the night. when i was in college, you knew someone who knew the guy you met...it was a small school. now, i really don't want to meet some guy at a bar. i guess if i met someone that i really felt a connection with, then i would think about keeping the number. but, i never show up at a bar in the hopes of meeting someone!

as someone already said, i know from the first time we meet if there is something there. i hate to waste my time or someone else's. i don't play games and i refuse to pretend there is something if there is not.

James · #8 08-01-2005, 10:24 PM

Bump

Coramoor · #9 08-02-2005, 09:31 PM

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Originally posted by James
Oh mental note to boys. Do not put her number in your cell phone in front of her! You have no future deniability.

...usually I'm so blitzed I can't remember her name, let alone the #. I always ask her to just enter it in along with her name.

Of course, most of the time I never call. It's just fun to see how many numbers you can get in a night. On the other hand, if it's like 4 in the morning and I'm lookin for something I'd probably call all of them and see who picked up and was willing to party more.

AGDee · #10 08-02-2005, 10:46 PM

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Originally posted by Peaches-n-Cream
It has been so long since I have been asked out. If memory serves, the guys asks me out with a few days notice. If I am free and interested, I say yes. If I am busy, I politely decline and suggest a better night. Sometimes the guy suggests another time.

James, as you may recall, I have a collection of phone numbers from men who either never called or with whom I have had one date. I don't know why I have this collection, but I can't seem to part with these business cards and scraps of paper. I guess it makes me feel better to think that for one moment some guy thought that I was cute enough to give me his number. Once in a while a telephone number actually leads to a romance.

I find it humorous to read posts like this after seeing the "Engagement ring" thread that is current! See, less than 2 1/2 years later, you were engaged to a man who created your ring himself!

LeslieAGD · #11 08-02-2005, 11:08 PM

Almost every guy I ever dated, I persued. In that case, I meet a guy I like, flirt, and see if he has potential. If he does, I make plans to see him somewhere with mutual friends (bar/club, party, sporting event). If we hit it off again, we make plans to go out...on the spot, no "who's going to call who" game. By the third meeting, it's pretty clear whether or not this is going somewhere. We exchange numbers and the guy calls within 48 hours, or if it's a Friday he gets until Monday.

CUGreekgirl · #12 08-05-2005, 11:45 AM

I will NEVER call the guy first. I had a guy give me his business card once so I could call him, and i told him that I would not call him first, he had my #, it was up to him to call first. And he did.

It seems like I always get the ones that will call the very next day, multiple times if I don't answer the first time.

The latest boy called me 3 times the day after we met (cause I didn't answer the phone). He then slacked off some which worried me, but I had also told him the first night that I had just gotten out of a relationship with someone that it had taken me 6 wks to realize I didn't like him. So N. wanted to be sure that I liked him so he didn't call for a day or two to see if I called him. We had a discussion about this the other night so we have now reached a conculusion that we take turns calling. Last night he called first, at the end of the convo. he reminded me that tomorrow it is my turn to call first. Crazy, but it seems to work without a lot of drama and why is he not calling questions.

cashmoney · #13 08-05-2005, 11:52 AM

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Originally posted by CUGreekgirl
I will NEVER call the guy first. I had a guy give me his business card once so I could call him, and i told him that I would not call him first, he had my #, it was up to him to call first. And he did.

I do that, too. I always gave bitches my business card whenever I dished out the digits. In fact, I even tried to get this chick in on a threesome I met in downtown Orlando. She was some 6ft random blonde and had a friend that was 5'10. I told them I owned a site called "tallfloridagirls.com" asked if she would be down for a threesome with me and another girl. I gave her my business card and when she asked why it didnt say anything about the website I told her my insurance business was a cover for the porn site since making porn in Florida is illegal and that I had to have some sort of business card available. She believed it.