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Well I personally am a strong advocate of NOT dating for like, 5 years before you get engaged and then living together engaged for 3 more years before you get married. By the time you DO get married........YAWN.
But also, being with the right person helps. I know that sounds stupid and obvious, but if you really are marrying a person who you are compatible with and who you're madly in love with, it just isn't so hard. Yeah you fight, but you have a hard time staying mad for too long.
No matter how bad we fight, my husband and I always go to bed together (to sleep I mean.) And in the morning, he never fails to kiss me good bye and say "I love you" no matter how bad we may have not been speaking the night before. Do I have times where I lose it and think to myself, "I cannot live the rest of my life with this man!!!!!!!!"? Yeah. But they always pass. The thought of living without him for the rest of my life is far worse than the thought of living with him.
And finally, advocates of True Love Waits are going to shellac me for this one, but I think sexual compatibility is a must. You are going to be sleeping with this ONE person for the rest of your life (depending upon your opinions on swinging) and darn it, even if you are too inexperienced in the beginning to know the difference, eventually you won't be. If he is a morning man and she is a before-bed-only, that is going to be a problem. If he is a missionary only kind of guy and she is a closet freak, that is going to be a problem. If he wants it 7 nights a week and she thinks 3 is a lot, THAT's going to be a problem. You have to know how to ring each other's bell.........and preferably better than anyone else.
On the subject, what do you all think of this "Revirgination" idea......personally I think it is stupid. YOU CAN'T GET IT BACK!!!!! Once you have done it, you are not a virgin again no matter what!!!!!!! You can do it once at 14, then abstain until your 72nd birthday and YOU ARE STILL NOT A VIRGIN!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sorry to yell but the whole idea is just too ludicrous for me.
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