for those who have 3 prefs?

[carnation]

Originally posted by honeychile
Just out of curiosity: if your sorority invites a woman to pref, does she show up somewhere on your bid list?

I think that it's an NPC rule of some sort that if you ask a girl to a pref party, she has to be somewhere on your bid list. I mean, face it, it's crummy to ask a girl to a pref party and sing to her about how much you want her and then drop her totally.

[Aphigal]

Actually it's not. It is a recommendation and some campuses make it a rule but it is not an NPC rule. I would be shocked at any group that would do that because it is cruel!

[aephi alum]

I think it was a rule at my school, that anyone invited to pref had to show up somewhere on a bid list - the idea being that you should only be inviting women whom you see as potential sisters. Pref voting sessions frequently went into the wee hours!

My freshman year, 4 sororities participated in formal rush. By my sophomore year, all 5 were participating. PNMs dropped from 5 to 4 to 3 to 2 for pref, and they couldn't list a sorority on their pref card unless they'd gone to that sorority's pref party.

[AOX81]

We have three sororities and three preference parties and you can go to as many as you receive invites to.

When I rushed there were four sororities. I was invited to all four preference parties. I went the first one and spent the majority of my time there and then went to the other three to say thank you for inviting me.

[FuzzieAlum]

AOX- that sounds different. How was it structured? With NPC rush, you have to stay at each party the entire 45 minutes (or however long it is). You must enter and leave with all the other rushees.

[AOX81]

Originally posted by FuzzieAlum
AOX- that sounds different. How was it structured? With NPC rush, you have to stay at each party the entire 45 minutes (or however long it is). You must enter and leave with all the other rushees.

We participate in Rush with the two NPC sororities on campus. Basically the way we run Preference Night is that it lasts usually an hour and a half and most of the girls spend an hour with their top choice sorority (some stay the entire time) and then they go to the the other rooms, to which they were invited, to say thank you for the invite. At our school it isn't really a rotational round where you have to come and go as a group with other rushee's. This is the only event that you are free to go where ever you want.

Greek life at the University of Michigan-Flint is pretty small. There are three sororities that usually average between 15-30 members. Rush is usually small also. Usually there are only 15-20 rushee's and at the end of rush quota usually ends up around 5 or 6. My local sorority is the only sorority on campus to have a house so we hold all of the events in reserved rooms (all right next to each other) up at school.

[FuzzieAlum]

Ahhh, very enlightening, thank you!

There's something to be said for that idea - you know who is at your pref because they love your group versus who is just there because they felt they had to go to the max number of parties! And you don't have to spend 45 minutes talking to a girl who is clearly disinterested.

[AOX81]

Originally posted by FuzzieAlum
Ahhh, very enlightening, thank you!

There's something to be said for that idea - you know who is at your pref because they love your group versus who is just there because they felt they had to go to the max number of parties! And you don't have to spend 45 minutes talking to a girl who is clearly disinterested.

That is what I like about how we run our Prefernce Night...we pretty much know how girls are going to fill out their cards based on the order in which they attended the rooms. It's a really good way to weed out some girls. If they don't come to your room they are obviously not interested and you get to focus on the girls who are interested.

There have been a few girls that we really, really liked that did not come to our room first and we still put them on our "B" list in case they changed their minds.

[SuthrnBelle]

We go from 14-8-5-3.

[shadokat]

We have 10 sororities and 3 pref parties.

[bruinaphi]

I've found that 2 party pref is usually better for new member retention thatn 3 party pref b/c when you have 3 party pref some women wind up with their third preference which is psychologically more difficult than getting your second choice after getting released by your first choice going into pref.

[honeychile]

Originally posted by lauradav
I've found that 2 party pref is usually better for new member retention thatn 3 party pref b/c when you have 3 party pref some women wind up with their third preference which is psychologically more difficult than getting your second choice after getting released by your first choice going into pref.

This makes for good logic. I found myself wondering how a chapter could properly handle a third pref party, and come through it emotionally balanced! I would think that, by the third party, everyone would be totally drained!


honeychile

[SATX*APhi]

We have 4 sororities and 2 prefs. I have no idea how things would work if we had 3 prefs, like some of the other 4 sorority campuses have.

I did not go through formal recruitment as a PNM, but what lauradav said sounds very logical.