Rushing Legacies - Page 2

kdonline · #16 08-20-2002, 11:58 AM

When I was @ UF, all legacies were invited back. Most of the Southern KD chapters have this policy - not sure about the rest of the U.S. because things are different all over. But we always had at least 50-70 legs going through - yes, it became very very tearful - and stressful.

But I'd like to point out the awkwardness when we weren't warned of a legacy coming through. The rushee says, "I'm a legacy" or "My grandmother was a KD." Of course, we'd have to check on this, because it's hard to imagine that the girl didn't have one legacy recommendation before rush.

AOIIBrandi · #17 08-20-2002, 01:40 PM

JAM,

My REAL sister.

We were not at the same school and I was an alum, but I had only been an alum for 2 years.

My sister decided very late that she was going to rush (junior transfer from a community college), so I e-mailed my rec to the Chapter Advisor and the President (CA told me to send it to her also). I then called the chapter house to make sure they got it, they said they would read it. I never received a "read response" from my e-mail (tells you when e-mail was read) so I called the house again, and was again told they would read it.

My sister was dropped 1st round, so I called IHQ and was put in touch with the network specialist. The response....

"We got her confused with someone else (there was actually a girl with her first name and my married last name - but the rec was correct), but now that we know who she is everyone loved her but, she's a junior - we cut all juniors and above b/c we don't want to be "top heavy" and graduate out (hard to do with over 150 I would think), If we bid all legacies that would be the whole pledge class..., we could invite her back, but we wouldn't want to get her hopes up only to be cut again."

justamom · #18 08-20-2002, 03:30 PM

Oh Gee, that's really a disappointing situation. I am so sorry to hear that. You seemed to indicate it was OK with her (beng bid by her other legacy and deciding Greek life wasn't for her) I hope so. It would have left a bad taste in my mouth to say the least, but that's me and I tend to get emotional.

t could have been the irresponsibility of one person, but it reflects on the chapter.There aren't too may excuses for the responses you received regarding her letter of ref. however...

AOIIBrandi · #19 08-20-2002, 03:46 PM

I'm just a little bitter

She was VERY disappointed that she got cut first round, we had discussed what could and should happen as far as legacies. She knew she may get cut in later rounds. I think I was more upset than her b/c I didn't and don't think they handled it correctly.

She kept going through rush because she hadn't been cut by her favorite yet, she preffed her favorite and her other legacy (which she didn't like). I tried to tell her to suicide if she would only be happy in the favorite, but her Rho Chi told her she had less of a chance for a bid....She didn't listen to me or Mom so she got her bid wasn't happy and declined.

I have since been told that this chapter basically operates on its own rules. I don't have any more legacies (at this point) so I'll just have a bad taste in my mouth for that chapter and move on. As for my sister, there is always Alumnae initiation if she chooses

KSUViolet06 · #20 04-18-2004, 01:37 PM

My chapter currently has 2 legacies -who are legacies thru their biological sisters currently active @ other chapters.

Here @ Kent, I don't think any sorority gets SO many legacies that some have to be cut. Legacies always get their legacy house.

On the flipside of this, legacies sometimes get cut from EVERYWHERE else b/c it's assumed that they will go to their legacy house. That's awesome if you KNOW that XYZ is the place for you, but it sucks if you're not sure and want to look at your other options.

greeneyedDPhiE · #21 04-18-2004, 11:58 PM

As for my school, I know most sororities have a percentage of their NM class reserved for legacies but still end up cutting heavily. I guess it just depends where you go to school...

ajuhdg · #22 04-19-2004, 04:56 AM

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Originally posted by JocelynC
On the flipside of this, legacies sometimes get cut from EVERYWHERE else b/c it's assumed that they will go to their legacy house. That's awesome if you KNOW that XYZ is the place for you, but it sucks if you're not sure and want to look at your other options.

I'm sure this happens a lot! At my school, the rush forms would have if the PNM was a legacy...regardless of what organization it was to. We had a few legacies, and yes we did 'court' them. However, we would work just as hard to 'steal' legacies of other groups! Not to be mean, but just some fun competition! It went this way all around too! We only had six NPC's and we were all pretty tight...all in good fun!

aj

mu_agd · #23 04-19-2004, 09:42 AM

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Originally posted by justamom
My sister didn't even get the "special consideration" outlined in our bylaws which left me wondering exactly why we bother sometimes, but c'est la vie that was only one chapter of many. She got a bid from her other legacy org, but decided greek life wasn't for her anyway.

AOPIIBrandy---Was this YOUR sister by family or "A" sister as in this happened to someone you know?

If it was your family sister, were you at the same school? Were you active at the time?

If you answer YES to the above, then all I can say is--------I'm SHOCKED! Tell me I'm not understanding your post------PLEASE!

unfortunately stuff like that does happen though. i was cut by the sorority i was a legacy for through my older sister. We went to the same school, but not at the same time. she graduated my junior year of high school. she was president of the chapter when she was there. however... i still was cut, and pretty early on and for a not so nice reason.

AchtungBaby80 · #24 04-19-2004, 02:42 PM

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Originally posted by mu_agd
i was cut by the sorority i was a legacy for through my older sister.

I'm one of those, too. Although it ended up being for the better, I was still a little surprised since I had grown up being told that legacies were likely to get bids to that sorority. In my case, I really don't think it was because there were so many legacies going through that they had to cut...I was naive and I had several things working against me, like that my older sisters were alumnae of a different chapter at a school that everyone sort of looks down on, and the fact that I was a sophomore and this chapter tends to take freshmen (usually, but not always, I'm sure). The rush registration form had said NOT to get recs because chapters would secure them if they were needed, but after being active for 3 years I now know that that is a bunch of baloney--recs are always good! I bet those gals wondered why, since I was a legacy, I had no recs at all! Even though I knew from the minute I stepped into the house that I didn't belong there, I kept them on my schedule during rush until they cut me because I didn't want to disappoint my older sisters. But I knew I was a goner when I saw which member I was paired up with the last round before Pref...she and one of my sisters absolutely despised each other, and sure enough, I got cut after that round!

ADqtPiMel · #25 04-19-2004, 03:33 PM

I go to the same school as mu_agd went to, and I was cut by the sorority that I am a legacy to through my mom, both grandmothers, and my great-grandmother. There are 15 women in my family that are in this sorority. Don't get me wrong, I ended up exactly where I wanted to be, but my mom and grandmothers were REALLY upset. I don't think sororities at our school much value legacies...

mu_agd · #26 04-19-2004, 03:41 PM

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Originally posted by ADqtPiMel
I don't think sororities at our school much value legacies...

so true....

XOMichelle · #27 04-19-2004, 05:24 PM

We've had a few legacies come through rush, and it is always an exciting experience. All the actives are so excited you have to remind them not to overwhelm the girl.

adpiucf · #28 04-19-2004, 08:37 PM

Historically, ADPi appreciates letters of recommendation and legacy introduction forms. These are sent by alumnae directly to the chapter.

A rec/legacy intro form is no guarantee of a bid, but we like to give these women every courtesy we possibly can during recruitment, out of respect for the alumnae who has such faith and pride in her.

insolita · #29 04-21-2004, 12:47 AM

I don't think the girls at my school know what to do with legacies. It seems like it's assumed that they'll go with the house they're a legacy to, even if it's clear that they'd fit in better elsewhere. As far as I can tell, this often leads to bad bid-matching -- this year we had a couple of girls who were legacies from multiple orgs, but didn't go ANYWHERE!

Adelphean · #30 04-21-2004, 01:39 AM

I think many legacies who go through recruitment expect and deserve special treatment. I was/am a legacy to ADPi, and I had ADPi drilled into my head my entire life. I had loyalty to ADPi before I even went through recruitment. Many of the other legacies at my chapter, and even those in other orgs feel the same way.