Thank you to the GC posters! - Page 2

Meanjean · #1 08-26-2016, 11:02 PM

For round 3, pnms could be invited back to a maximum of 7 houses. Third round was one day. Once again I could barely sleep waiting for a text from my daughter.

But she called me instead. Her Pi Chi had texted her that her first party wasn’t until after lunch, she didn’t have to be there until then. She was worried – she was pretty sure that there were only 4 party slots after lunch. So she had gone from 12 groups to a maximum of 4. Suddenly this was a little less fun.

Time to pull out the GC wisdom. It only takes one group. It’s fun to have more, but you can only join one in the end. And whoever you have – they’re the only groups on campus. Give them a chance because they want you. Look at how one group shot up last round from not a number one to a big favorite.

She texted me when she got her schedule. She had only 2 houses left. One was the group that had been her favorite from the beginning. The other was a group that she had put in her numerical ranking each time. I texted back – it only takes 1!

She called during a break. She was sad to have lost many that she liked, but was prepared to look for the best in both groups left. I was so proud of her! I reminded her that, as long as she was invited to and attended at least one preference party, she would be getting a bid. I also told her how much I admired her for being able to do this. She said that she was really glad for the research we did going in because she really understood that it only took one. She knew two girls who had been released from recruitment this round. She was glad that she was at least moving forward.

honeychile · #2 08-26-2016, 11:08 PM

You tell your daughter's story so well! Hoping that she gets the best bid for her!

thetalady · #3 08-26-2016, 11:33 PM

I am loving your story & support of your daughter. I know it is hard when she is not invited back to houses that she loves. I am so happy that GC was able to help you prep for what is going on!

BadSquirrelBeta · #4 08-27-2016, 01:01 AM

Great story, following!

Meanjean · #5 08-27-2016, 06:45 PM

Round 4 was preference. PNMs could be invited to a maximum of 3 houses. Because my daughter had only been to 2 houses the previous round, her max was 2.

Parties started later that day and she called me in the morning. She had not been contacted by her Pi Chi, so she knew that she had been invited to at least one Preference party. Her favorite group was still the same one it had been all along. The girls at the other house she had been to in round 3 were very nice; she just didn’t feel as though she had really met her people there yet.

She texted me when she got her schedule. Both groups had invited her to preference.

She called that night. She had enjoyed both parties. She had maximized her options and ranked both groups, so she knew that she would be receiving a bid. Her first choice was the same it had been all week. She was hoping that the bid would be from them. But she said that she would not be disappointed if her bid was from the other group. Their preference party had been really lovely and the girls were super nice. She said that she was going to trust the process. (GC wisdom coming into play!)

I was so proud of her again! I don’t know that I could have been as mature about the process at her age. I wasn’t feeling mature about the process at my age! I was just biting my nails and hoping that the first group felt about her the way she felt about them!

KDCat · #6 08-28-2016, 11:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Meanjean

Round 4 was preference. PNMs could be invited to a maximum of 3 houses. Because my daughter had only been to 2 houses the previous round, her max was 2.

Parties started later that day and she called me in the morning. She had not been contacted by her Pi Chi, so she knew that she had been invited to at least one Preference party. Her favorite group was still the same one it had been all along. The girls at the other house she had been to in round 3 were very nice; she just didn’t feel as though she had really met her people there yet.

She texted me when she got her schedule. Both groups had invited her to preference.

She called that night. She had enjoyed both parties. She had maximized her options and ranked both groups, so she knew that she would be receiving a bid. Her first choice was the same it had been all week. She was hoping that the bid would be from them. But she said that she would not be disappointed if her bid was from the other group. Their preference party had been really lovely and the girls were super nice. She said that she was going to trust the process. (GC wisdom coming into play!)

I was so proud of her again! I don’t know that I could have been as mature about the process at her age. I wasn’t feeling mature about the process at my age! I was just biting my nails and hoping that the first group felt about her the way she felt about them!

This, this, this!

I am stealing this and reusing it. If you don't feel like you fit into a huge chapter, you just haven't met your people yet. Keep looking. They'll be there.

Alpha O · #7 08-27-2016, 07:11 PM

Don't be mean, Jean!

Where did she end up?

Such a great story, and it sounds like you have a great bond with your daughter.

Meanjean · #8 08-29-2016, 06:03 PM

We had kind of a rough summer before she went away to school. We’re a military family, so I understand the emotional cycle of deployment and I knew in my head that we were all so cranky to each other to make the process of separating easier. But I was sad to have her leave when we were at our worst to each other.

Daughter’s roommate had originally been planning to do recruitment but had changed her mind. And initially I was sorry that D wouldn’t have someone to get ready with, and an automatic person to walk to events with. But she found plenty of other people to hang out with. And at night, after an exhausting day of parties and outings with her Pi Chi group, she called me to talk through her day.

I wasn’t expecting that. When we would pick her up from camps or workshops, we’d run into other parents talking about how their child had texted or called them regularly to tell them all about things. And we’d be like – ‘well, we’re pretty sure our kid’s still here...’ And so much of the summer had been about making sure we knew that she could handle everything and did not need us! So I was hoping to get a few crumbs about how recruitment was going, but didn’t expect much.

So I really benefited from the no-roommate situation. I don’t think I would have gotten these calls if there had been another girl in the room to talk to! And I couldn’t be more grateful for how it worked out. I got to share something that was important to her.

And I mean it – learning the info on GC was a bonding experience for us too. I could never have just told her the GC ‘truths’ we learned. She needed to hear them from people who were not her mother! And just having researched and internalized what she thought was important made it possible for her to not take the process too personally. There were highs and lows but I think that she was able to keep her eyes on her goal and not freak out because of what she learned here. So thank you GC!

And her bid – was to the house that had been her favorite all week!

TLLK · #9 08-29-2016, 06:34 PM

Congratulations to your daughter on finding her chapter!

txAOII_15 · #10 08-29-2016, 06:55 PM

Yay! I'm so happy that your daughter found her home! This was a great story, thank you for sharing.

BadSquirrelBeta · #11 08-29-2016, 07:20 PM

Meanjean!

First of all thank you to your Service Member for their Service! Military Families hold a very dear part in my heart!

Secondly, CELEBRATING for "Little Meanjean" and her successful recruitment. I thought about this thread off and on throughout this past weekend. Sometimes when the Moms are sharing and it gets down to DD not successfully getting a bid, Mom just slips away and we don't know the outcome--ever...I was hoping that wasn't the case--and it's not! But, understandably in the other cases of unsuccessful recruitments, it's a painful process.

Anyway, if you are ever inclined to share what group that would be fun to know too. Congratulations to all in the house of Meanjean and Company!

FSUZeta · #12 08-29-2016, 07:39 PM

Yay that mini Jean got the bid she hoped for, and meant thanks for the selfless sacrifice your entire family makes for our beloved country.

jolene · #13 08-29-2016, 07:46 PM

MJ jr needs to share her story.

DubaiSis · #14 08-29-2016, 11:20 PM

In case you're wondering, the reason we want to know which house she joined (and which one ended up a good second choice) is we want to know that such lovely young women end up in our own sororities. While it is not cool to name houses that she HATED, it is perfectly acceptable to name houses she did like, even if she didn't eventually choose them. But anonymity is a thing, so I can appreciate that you might not want to share right away. Maybe after she's initiated?

honeychile · #15 08-30-2016, 08:58 AM

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Originally Posted by DubaiSis

In case you're wondering, the reason we want to know which house she joined (and which one ended up a good second choice) is we want to know that such lovely young women end up in our own sororities. While it is not cool to name houses that she HATED, it is perfectly acceptable to name houses she did like, even if she didn't eventually choose them. But anonymity is a thing, so I can appreciate that you might not want to share right away. Maybe after she's initiated?

This!

Please accept my thanks for your family's service to our country, too!