I need advice - should I drop?

[ConfettiCupcake]

I could have written this (except probably not so articulately). I felt just like this for the first few weeks and I know what a miserable feeling it is. Its hard to enjoy yourself even with the enjoyable activities because you just keep second guessing everything.

My temporary big gave me some good advice - she said to put a decision date on the calendar and to not think about making a decision until that date. Every day until that day I was supposed to participate in everything that I could and just enjoy myself without worrying about what I should do. When the date that we picked as decision day rolled around there was NO WAY I was going to drop! She became my Big and I can't imagine now how hard those two weeks were for her too.

My mom gave me good advice too - she said "Just meet one friend. Just one that's all you need". That helped too because I didn't feel like I had to make friends with everyone.

Hang in there and try to not overthink it all.

[Loyally Kappa]

I think you also need to consider that during rush, you bonded with a few sisters, but had very little interaction with the girls who would end up being your pledge sisters. Give it some time ... go to football games ... enjoy some socials ... hopefully you will have a pledge retreat weekend ... and just be patient while your life changes!

[Wynter]

I would advise not to drop, as many here have done. I too felt disconnected from my pledge class, and to this day even as an alum I rarely speak to them. We just never had a ton in common.

However, it takes time. A lot of time. Friendship is not instant, as you know, but I understand how overwhelming it must feel for you right now. It's perfectly fine to excuse yourself from drinking, to go home and study or read and have a quiet night in when you're not up for it.

What matters the most is giving it a chance and making an effort to get to know your sisters. Remember: IT. TAKES. TIME. It can take quite a lot of time. Don't beat yourself up if you're not OMG BFF the first week. That will all fade and change, trust me. Alliances shift, people change, etc.

I guarantee you there are other girls in your chapter like you. It takes time to find them.

[Tom Earp]

The first semester is always the hardest because it is your first time from leaving home.
Being a pledge at the same time is even more stressful!

But in saying this, when and if you are initiated and become an active member a lot will change. Remember, being in a Sorority is not just about the 4-5 years in college.

One can be very active as an alum also.