Pre-Marital Sex is... - Page 2

Blue_Passion_01 · #16 03-06-2002, 12:18 PM

hmmmmmmmmmm....

I think that it is wrong. I think that I should have waited until I was married and until I knew that I loved the person. I believe that people should make love; not have sex or ... well you know the other word. Making Love is the most intimate thing that you can only share with that one special person.

It is something to think about.....

Ideal08 · #17 03-07-2002, 11:19 AM

that it's cool. I'm not even going to touch on the religious/spiritual aspect of it, because there are other sins that I commit, so no since in singling this one out. Anyway...

I am glad that I didn't wait until I was married. I used to think that that was a good idea. But I only want to marry ONCE, and I would be horrified if my husband couldn't satisfy me sexually. And that whole thing of 'if that's all you know, it'll be good,' is a crock of crap. Men are just like shoes: I wouldn't buy a pair of shoes without trying them on, either. At this point, to me, sex is just another form of expression. Expression of love or expression of lust, whichever, the Outcome (notice the capital O) is the same.

novella000 · #18 03-07-2002, 03:16 PM

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Originally posted by Ideal08
Expression of love or expression of lust, whichever, the Outcome (notice the capital O) is the same.

LMAO @ u...
true... but don't you think that if you loved the person enough... that sex would be the bomb anyways?? or am i just in a dream world??? nevermind, i am... come to think of it...

Kimmie1913 · #19 03-07-2002, 03:39 PM

...a personal choice. What is wrong for one person may or may not be wrong for another. Morals, ethics and beliefs are not shared by everyone nor are we all members of the same faith. Therefore, all of these things are personal and individual as is this decision. No mater what, I think it should be treated like all decisions. You should make your choices in the context of your beliefs and your personality. Do what's best for you. You do you. (Not literally- that would be another topic all together

)

And I definitely feel what Ideal08 had to say as well as a few others on this thread.

thesweetestone · #20 03-08-2002, 08:22 PM

[QUOTE]Originally posted by OneOneTwo
[B]

1. I tried it...
2. I liked it...
3. I'd probably do it again, although right now it's been a long time since the last time.

LMAO!

I don't want to get married and know nothing about this person sexually. I don't want to marry someone who I'm sexually compatible with. I think it would be good to know if you are sexually compatible before hand. I'm not saying sex the most important thing in a relationship but it is important.

The Original Ape · #21 03-08-2002, 09:12 PM

NinjaPoodle · #22 03-09-2002, 02:20 AM

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Originally posted by Jamal5000
....wrong or right in your opinion?

Why or why not?

Jamal5000

Right......as long as you're mature enough to handle it. If you have to question yourself then you need to wait until it feels right.

I also think it's a beautiful experience as long as it's with the right partner.

NOWorNEVER · #23 03-09-2002, 03:12 AM

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Originally posted by Jamal5000
....wrong or right in your opinion?

Why or why not?

Jamal5000

IMO, WRONG. I think sex was intended for two consenting people who love each other and share a deep level of friendship and intimacy on the MARRIAGE level.
When you have sex with someone, you're sharing apart of yourself that's supposed to be sacred because two people are becoming one. I can't speak for all women, but for a lot, it takes a toll on emotions.
The more people you've had sex with, the more your emotions are spread out all over the place. John has a special place in your heart cause he was your first. Joe's got a place in your heart cause he was the best. Jimmy's got a place in your heart cause he was the biggest. Jeff has a place in your heart because even though he wasn't all that good in bed, he was a good boyfriend.

Come on now...by the time you get settled and ready to be married, you'll be emotionally drained

, not to mention all stretched out of whack

And no man wants something that's been all used up and stretched out (can any men attest?). With candy or foods you may want to sample before buying, but sex and marriage isn't the same. I may only be twenty years old, but the best advice about sex and marriage was given to me by my pastor and mother. Wait on God to lead you to your mate, and you'll be satisfied in all areas of the relationship, including sex.

Ideal08 · #24 03-09-2002, 11:00 AM

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Originally posted by NOWorNEVER
not to mention all stretched out of whack And no man wants something that's been all used up and stretched out (can any men attest?).

Girl, lol, lemme tell you something. I used to think this EXACT same thing. But think about it. If a BABY can come out and it shrink back up.... Ain't no man packin' like that!!! And even if, there is always vinegar (so I've heard)...

novella000 · #25 03-09-2002, 11:10 AM

Ideal I am LMAO @ you

Sugar_N_Spice · #26 03-09-2002, 02:26 PM

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Originally posted by tickledpink
Wrong. Because it causes unnecessary hardships that God never intended for us to go through.

I agree. We all have this dream that this person will be "the one", and it rarely happens that way. I've only been with one guy, but needless to say we are no longer together. Since I'm not one to have casual sex, I have to fall in love with someone else in order for me to have sex w/ them, or else I will have too many unreciprocated emotions involved...But at the same time, I would prefer to know what I am going to be stuck w/ before I marry a guy

jihad1906 · #27 03-09-2002, 06:42 PM

Wwweeeeellllllllll, lookey here lookey here. been so long on GC i feel like a born again virgin. and my first time back we's

all on my favorite subject.

I've had sex before marriage .
I've had bad sex
I've had good sex
shyt I've had "oh my, goodgod whatabody sex" damn ---hod on i'm haveing a visual, oookkkkay now i'm having a moment.------ damn that was like whoa.
all this sex was before i got married
hmm

i stiil ain't married so i guess all my sex is be fore marriage

If sex is a crime then give me the death sentence, but if you r not careful then sex can be a death sentence if your married or not

jIHAD

a tisket a tasket a condom or a casket

AKA2D '91 · #28 03-09-2002, 10:55 PM

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Originally posted by The Original Ape

Only YOU would respond like that....

NOWorNEVER · #29 03-09-2002, 11:01 PM

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Originally posted by Ideal08

Girl, lol, lemme tell you something. I used to think this EXACT same thing. But think about it. If a BABY can come out and it shrink back up.... Ain't no man packin' like that!!! And even if, there is always vinegar (so I've heard)...

LOL. true enough

NewBee · #30 03-10-2002, 11:07 PM

Honestly, religiously speaking I dont think its anymore wrong than all the other sins in the world but I am waiting (hopefully) until I get married. To me its more of the fact that its such a huge irreversible step and you cant go back from it. I think females especially are so much more bound to males after sex that maybe its best if more of us did wait. But as far as the physical aspect, I dont understand why people say they dont want to wait until they are married to find out if they are sexually compatible with their partner. I mean if you are in love with this person and you want to marry them, why wouldnt you be compatible with them. I mean if you are even attacted to someone and that attraction leads to something physical, don't you know before hand as in foreplay if the sex would be good. And if it isnt dont you love the person enough to work with them, teach them or something. But then again maybe I am living in a fantasy world where you know you have to LOVE the person to marry them, we all know thats not always the case, sadly. I still think sex is or at least should be a small part of a marriage. At least last then 50%. If all you have is sex, I mean soon or later thats going to get boring or you going to get old and please dont tell me about all people having "relations" because thats quite scarey,lol.