At what age should your kids

[Reds6]

I have found many of these answers super conservative and a tad unrealistic. So I'm asking this... How many that answered actually have children?

[Deltaquarius]

Soror Reds6, I agree. I have children (daughter 11, and son 6). In a household, folks get walked in on...especially during the morning rush. Not that I was all-out parading, but my son saw me naked up until he was about 4 1/2-5. Now the least he can catch me in is bra and panties. I have no problem with my daughter seeing me naked, but then again, it's not like I'm parading through the house in my birthday suit. My husband doesn't let our daughter see him completely naked, but she does see him in his underwear if she passes by the bedroom and the door is open. We just don't make a big deal out of it.

[Reds6]

Thanks Soror, My son saw mw naked up until 41/2 -5 also. He wasn't shocked, afraid, scared, etc. It was quite natural because it was never hidden. I do now make more of an effort for him not to see me naked, but kids will walk in on you. Or if they scream, you run with being concered about what you have on.
I work for a social service agency, we have to make sure we are not giving our kids a complex. if we can't be secure about ourselves how will they become secure, kids, teens, etc.

[Honeykiss1974]

Originally posted by Reds6
Thanks Soror, My son saw mw naked up until 41/2 -5 also. He wasn't shocked, afraid, scared, etc. It was quite natural because it was never hidden. I do now make more of an effort for him not to see me naked, but kids will walk in on you. Or if they scream, you run with being concered about what you have on.
I work for a social service agency, we have to make sure we are not giving our kids a complex. if we can't be secure about ourselves how will they become secure, kids, teens, etc.

I know this is off track but some of you guys own experience of seeing your own parents naked are cracking me up! OMGoodness, I still to this day remember seeing my mom in her bra and panties. Shoot, when I go home to visit, she still does it sometimes !! I'm like, "Ma put some clothes on!"

But seriously, I agree with Reds6. Children do model their reaction after yours, so if my future child did happen to see me naked, I would try to remain calm and act appropriately. I again agree with Reds6 that children should be comfortable with their bodies (and know the difference between boys and girls) because I think that would help them to distinguish between and appropriate touch (ie hug) and an inappropriate touch (ie being fondled).

[DoggyStyle82]

Originally posted by Reds6
I have found many of these answers super conservative and a tad unrealistic. So I'm asking this... How many that answered actually have children?

Of course there will be times when children will catch accidental glances of a naked parent. The point is whether it is a common practice. A man should not be showering with any child, period. Yes, there is no harm in children of 4 or 5 catching a glimpse. It will happen and is relatively harmless. But prolonged or continued exposure to a nude parent or sibling can prove to be unhealthy.

If my two sisters had seen what our father was packing, they would be virgins to this day .

[OneOneTwo]

Originally posted by DoggyStyle82


Of course there will be times when children will catch accidental glances of a naked parent. The point is whether it is a common practice. A man should not be showering with any child, period. Yes, there is no harm in children of 4 or 5 catching a glimpse. It will happen and is relatively harmless. But prolonged or continued exposure to a nude parent or sibling can prove to be unhealthy.

This is true... the goal is not to make it a common practice. I still say NEVER.

If my two sisters had seen what our father was packing, they would be virgins to this day .

Now see, I wasn't going to say ALL of that, but now that you've mentioned.... definitely, man... child nekid... NO NO. Just for that .


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[Reds6]

Originally posted by DoggyStyle82


Of course there will be times when children will catch accidental glances of a naked parent. The point is whether it is a common practice. A man should not be showering with any child, period. Yes, there is no harm in children of 4 or 5 catching a glimpse. It will happen and is relatively harmless. But prolonged or continued exposure to a nude parent or sibling can prove to be unhealthy.

If my two sisters had seen what our father was packing, they would be virgins to this day .

I agree. But my comment was really to those that said they would never allow their child to see them naked. that just doesn't happen.
As far as your father... Is he single? (kidding)

[OneOneTwo]

...but I still think that children should never intentionally see their parents naked. That is my personal opinion. I hope I didn't make anyone feel uncomfortable... I understand accidents and stuff.

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[DELTABRAT]

To think that your children will never see you naked, accidentally or otherwise, is highly unrealistic. The problem is societal norms and in this socisety, we oversexualize the human bocy, period.

I do agree that (being a part of this society, how can I not) a man should not be bathing his female children beyond a certain age. However, what about cases where he is a single father. It is not always feasible to have auntie come over and show her how to wash, etc., etc.

I think it's easier to say what you will and will not do when you don';t hace kids.

Also, someone said "if they walk in on us then that's one thing." That's what I mean. No one said "At what age do you not allow your kids to watch you and your man/woman have sex." Seeing the body and having sex are two entirely different things.

I think the age is generally school age. I also think the kids, if they are developing properly, will begin to exhibit signs of uncomfortabiltiy at an age. I know my son is very private about his body and this happened around the age of 5 or 6, when he started school and it wasn't "okay" to let the other kids see his parts. Now, I can't see his parts either, nor does he care to see mine.

I think that in most families, it is abnormal to see daddy's penis swinging around the house, but most kids see mommy's breasts for the most part. I didn't say it was okay to get a full on crotch shot, but c'mon. Again, the breasts are for nursing your children, but in this society, tell that to the man with his mouth hanging open when a woman is trying to nurse her infant in public.

Sorry if this is too graphic but this is part of the reason we have people engaging in irresponsible sexual behavior in this country.

[ClassyLady]

Originally posted by DELTABRAT
I do agree that (being a part of this society, how can I not) a man should not be bathing his female children beyond a certain age. However, what about cases where he is a single father. It is not always feasible to have auntie come over and show her how to wash, etc., etc.

Exactly!

I posted earlier that my father used to put me in the shower with him when I was about 2 or 3 years old. I believe that is form where the issue of opposite sex parents and children bathing together arose. Although, the posts were not directed towards me, I would be lying if I said that I wasn't the least bit offended by them. For someone to criticize, at least in part, the way I was raised offends me.

A man should not be bathing with his 8 year old daughter. That's too old and can cause some psychological damage. I stated that past the ages of 4 or 5, this type of activity should not be taking place. But, to say not even with a toddler seems a little bit extreme to me. Most toddlers don't know what the difference between boys and girls is at this age.

I wonder what the responses would be if the table were turned. Should a woman not ever bathe with her son?