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Originally posted by twinstars:
it's important to realize that sisters make distinctions between "perfectly nice girls" and "girls i want to be my sister." you can love a girl to death, she could be your best friend in the world--but you might think that she would not fit well with the rest of the sorority, so you would not push your friend to rush or speak up for her a lot during selection. on the other hand, you can think a rushee is "just ok"--you don't love her but don't really have a reason to cut her--but you'll vote her in just because she's great for everyone else. when a sorority sister votes during selection, she's supposed to vote not just how she personally feels about the girl, but about whether or not that girl would make a good sister, a good addition to the group as a whole. a good friend to ME might not necessarily be the best addition to my group.
one of my very best college friends is an independent... she toyed with the idea of rushing again her sophomore year, but as much as i love her, i don't think she'd really click with most of the rest of my sisters.
[This message has been edited by twinstars (edited June 18, 2001).]
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I feel the same way - I have a bunch of friends who aren't affiliated with a sorority and as much as I love them, they wouldn't fit in our chapter, or other sisters have had bad experiences from high school with them and would never let them get bids, or whatever. While I would totally support them 100% if they chose to rush, I'd try to get them to go through formal and check out all the chapters first rather than just look at ours since chances are they'd find a better fit elsewhere. What's important is that my friends are happy wherever they go, whether that's to my chapter or to another organization.
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