How to Act in a House you Don't Like

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Titchou

How do you act? Like a lady - the way you should always act. Kind, gracious, and lady like.

Whether you suicide or not is up to you. The computer won't move you to the bottom - it will kick you out altogether if you don't get that one bid. So be prepared for that. Suicides are not eligible for quota additions so if you aren't far enough up on your choice's list, you will be dropped. Sorry if that sounds harsh but it's the rules. So you need to decide if you would rather not be Greek than in that group and go from there.

Good luck!

Thank you, Titchou. It is always amazing to me that people have to ask how to behave in public.

As for the rest if the OP's misunderstanding of how bidding works...

1. The group you wanted last year just didn't like you that much. You weren't high enough on their bid list to make the cut. Period. End of story. The members that called you wanting to know what happened didn't help the matter any, but members don't get a look at the bid list order in most organizations.

2. You don't know that you were top of "that" chapter's bid list. Your position on their list had nothing to do with why you didn't get a bid to your top group. For all you know, you could have been DEAD LAST on their list. You cut off your nose to spite your face by turning down a bid handed to you by the only organization that wanted you, but that is water under the bridge. NO chapter gives bids to everyone. You aren't at their membership selection meetings. All chapters release PNMs. The PNMs may not admit to it and may say they dropped out, but all groups are selective.

3. Hopefully you've done something to change between then and now to make yourself more attractive to the groups that have already released you since you have already burned your bridge with the least competitive group on campus. Be gracious and polite to EVERY group. Good luck, and realize that you were the cause of last year's results and not "that" group.

[FSUZeta]

OP, the computer program will search for your first preference. If you are high enough on #1's bid list you will receive a bid from your #1 choice. If that doesn't work, then the computer tries to match you with your #2 choice. If you are high enough on #2's bid list, you will receive a bid from your #2. If you do not match to #1 or #2 and you attended three preference parties, the computer will try to match you with your 3rd choice. If you did not receive a bid from #1 or #2 it is because you were not high enough on their bid list before they reached quota. That is why you received the bid you received.

It has nothing to do with how badly #3 wanted you, or if you were at the top of #3's bid list. It has more to do with the position you placed your top preferential choices, and your position on their bid lists. They pledged quota (the maximum # of PNMs they can pledge during formal recruitment) before your name came up.

[AnchorAlumna]

AUGreekPNM - do I understand this correctly?

1. You go to a small mid-Atlantic college now and went through recruitment there this year.
2. You are planning to transfer to Auburn University and go through recruitment there Fall 2014.

Is that correct?

[Low D Flat]

No, she's at American University and planning to stay there and re-rush.

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

AUGreekPNM - do I understand this correctly?

1. You go to a small mid-Atlantic college now and went through recruitment there this year.
2. You are planning to transfer to Auburn University and go through recruitment there Fall 2014.

Is that correct?

No, I go to a small public mid-Atlantic school. The AU part has nothing to do with my school, they're my initials. I've never attended Auburn or American, nor am I planning to. I didnt really think that my initals would be mixed up as a school. Sorry for any confusion.

I deleted the original question because it didn't come out right-basically I'm giving rushing another chance and want any advice on how to act in the chapter I turned down so it's not awkward and I don't seem rude. I definitely don't view myself as being better than any chapter!

[Titchou]

Well, then, we've answered your question! Good deal.

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by AUGreekPNM

No, I go to a small public mid-Atlantic school. The AU part has nothing to do with my school, they're my initials. I've never attended Auburn or American, nor am I planning to. I didnt really think that my initals would be mixed up as a school. Sorry for any confusion.

I deleted the original question because it didn't come out right-basically I'm giving rushing another chance and want any advice on how to act in the chapter I turned down so it's not awkward and I don't seem rude. I definitely don't view myself as being better than any chapter!

But you would still not accept a bid from the chapter whose bid you rejected last year, right? Not that I think they would ever consdier extending another bid to you.....

Originally Posted by Titchou

Well, then, we've answered your question! Good deal.

Yep I think I'm good! Thanks everyone and sorry again for the confusion.

Originally Posted by thetalady

But you would still not accept a bid from the chapter whose bid you rejected last year, right? Not that I think they would ever consdier extending another bid to you.....

If I felt the same as last year than no. But as mentioned on other threads, if I feel differently this year and they give me a bid, I'll accept it. I'm trying to go in opened minded and not expect anything.

[WCsweet<3]

Originally Posted by AUGreekPNM

If I felt the same as last year than no. But as mentioned on other threads, if I feel differently this year and they give me a bid, I'll accept it. I'm trying to go in opened minded and not expect anything.

Quick clarification: are you meaning to say: if they make you feel differently during recruitment? You've been at this campus for a year, wouldn't you know more about them than what a PNM is able to glean from recruitment? Are you solely basing your opinions of organizations on a campus you have been at for a while off of a few days and pageantry?

Originally Posted by WCsweet<3

Quick clarification: are you meaning to say: if they make you feel differently during recruitment? You've been at this campus for a year, wouldn't you know more about them than what a PNM is able to glean from recruitment? Are you solely basing your opinions of organizations on a campus you have been at for a while off of a few days and pageantry?

I know them a little bit better and am friendly with a few of the girls. However I want to get a sense of how they are as a whole-how they interact, if they seem excited, etc. The same goes for all the sororities I'll be rushing.

[carnation]

Originally Posted by AUGreekPNM

I know them a little bit better and am friendly with a few of the girls. However I want to get a sense of how they are as a whole-how they interact, if they seem excited, etc. The same goes for all the sororities I'll be rushing.

I am thinking that as a sophomore re-rusher who was cut by all but 1 sorority, you may not get to leisurely observe all these groups and decide what you think of them. Your choices may be extremely limited early on.

[pinksequins]

It's the Mid-Atlantic: Depending on the school and what actually transpired, maybe yes and maybe no as to limited choice.

[DrPhil]

lane swerve/

Something about this thread is strange. Not sure what. That is all.

/lane swerve

[etadrisophila]

The OP removed some of her posts so the thread does not exactly flow...