Married PNMs/Age for rush

[Benzgirl]

^^^^ This!


This topic comes up every year during formal recruitment because we always have a handful of non-traditional students who show interest. WE DO NOT DESCRIMINATE. Age is not an issue, having a child is not an issue, being married is not an issue. What is at issue is whether you can commit the time and the money to attending chapter events and being an active member of the sorority. Chapter is not a baby sitting service, your hubby can't attend initiation and there are dues and a badge to purchase.

[amanda6035]

It really does depend on the campus. That being said, I've not yet had the privilege to meet someone else in a similar situation as I was. I was 23, a navy vet, when I helped colonize AXiD on my campus, which at the time, only had 1 other sorority. Would a 23 year old navy vet have the same shot at joining my chapter today? Realistically, maybe, but probably not. The culture has changed. I'm thankful for the experience I had because I know it was unique.... There's NO WAY I could have ever become a member at a more competitive university. Not to mention that I was completely against the idea of joining a sorority and conforming to rules and structure after I had just finished doing that in the navy. That's why the colony appealed to me so much - I didn't have to follow someone else's rules and traditions - I got to help start them.


Benzgirl hit the nail on the head though.....

Originally Posted by Benzgirl

WE DO NOT DESCRIMINATE. Age is not an issue, having a child is not an issue, being married is not an issue. What is at issue is whether you can commit the time and the money to attending chapter events and being an active member of the sorority. Chapter is not a baby sitting service, your hubby can't attend initiation and there are dues and a badge to purchase.

So, if being married is going to prevent you from being a committed member who can actually come to chapter events, then don't bother....

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by Anchored4Ever

So I'm wondering, what do most chapters do with girls going through who are married? I would not think that marrige & Greek life would work well together for the most part, but I'd like your opinions.

If you seriously want an answer to the two questions you posed above (one of which is actually your opinion, worded as a statement, but I can rewrite it as a question), wouldn't you need to set up a survey to obtain that data?

Originally Posted by Anchored4Ever

Also, what age is the unofficial 'cut off' for your chapter not pledging someone? Like if someone was signed up for 2011 formal recruitment and listed a high school graduation date of 2004... (because of military training, a medical condition, or some other thing) Would you seriously consider someone who would be an incoming pledge at age 25+??

Thanks in advance for your thoughtful comments!

In my opinion, you're getting into membership selection with the bolded question and follow up comment.

And I don't necessarily agree with DeltaBetaBaby that a married woman wouldn't live in. I can think of any of a number of scenarios in which a married woman would consider living in.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by AzTheta

And I don't necessarily agree with DeltaBetaBaby that a married woman wouldn't live in. I can think of any of a number of scenarios in which a married woman would consider living in.

Serious answer: military wife not living on base.

Joke answer: annoying husband.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by agzg

Serious answer: military wife not living on base.

Joke answer: annoying husband.

Oh, interesting.

[Splash]

There are always exceptions to the rules.

Obviously the norms are known.

I will say, on my campus, a 24 year old pledged what is considered the top sorority on campus and is extremely involved.

[Drolefille]

Pineapple, dnall, pineapple.

[KSUViolet06]

I didn't go to a particularly traditional school (in sense that we pledged transfers and juniors who maybe weren't 18-year-old freshmen) but chapters weren't keen on pledging married women because we had houses to fill and we knew a married woman wasn't going to live-in. Sucks for them, but that's the trade-off (get married, no sorority membership at school with sorority housing.)

[DeltaBetaBaby]

What about same-sex marriage? If they both want to pledge? Talk about a package deal!

[DeltaBetaBaby]

When I was in school, virtually every fraternity had a non-trad or two hanging around creeping out the freshman girls.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

When I was in school, virtually every fraternity had a non-trad or two hanging around creeping out the freshman girls.

Is that universal? We had the same thing (not EVERY fraternity) but I can think of at least a handful with the creepy non-traditional aged guy creeping on the freshmen.

[victoriana]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Is that universal? We had the same thing (not EVERY fraternity) but I can think of at least a handful with the creepy non-traditional aged guy creeping on the freshmen.

Yup, my a couple of the fraternities at my school have some non-traditional students. But they definitely aren't creepy. They're some of the funniest guys around. Only a handful of the non-trads are the kind to creep on the freshmen, and believe me, we warn our freshmen!

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by victoriana

Yup, my a couple of the fraternities at my school have some non-traditional students. But they definitely aren't creepy. They're some of the funniest guys around. Only a handful of the non-trads are the kind to creep on the freshmen, and believe me, we warn our freshmen!

It's funny because this conversation tends to happen every year:

Older Sorority Member: Did you have fun at XYZ last night?
New Freshman Sorority Member: Oh yeah and I met this really awesome guy. Do you know him? His name's Bob.
Older Member: FYI hun, Bob is 30.
New Freshman Sorority Member: Ewwww.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

It's funny because this conversation tends to happen every year:

Older Sorority Member: Did you have fun at XYZ last night?
New Freshman Sorority Member: Oh yeah and I met this really awesome guy. Do you know him? His name's Bob.
Older Member: FYI hun, Bob is 30.
New Freshman Sorority Member: Ewwww.

Can't. stop. laughing.

Someone get dnall, we found something that is exactly the same on every campus!

[victoriana]

Yup, sure enough. Usually during fraternity rush week or around Halloween...