If you knew then what you know now...

[AnchorAlumna]

Had I gone through formal recruitment, I think I would have had the same result. As to life in the sorority, I would have spent less time with my boyfriend (now husband) and less time in my room alone, and more time hanging out at the house, getting to know the sisters.

[GreysObsessed]

I would have done almost everything differently. I would have had recs written (turns out, I had recs and didn't even know about them!) and I wouldn't have had my rush picture be of me feeding ducks! I also would have not paid attention to any stigma's I had acquired my first year of school. And I would have made better friends with my Rho Chi group.

[MaggieXi]

Looking back, I wish I had listened a little more to my extremely southern and well versed roomate during the fall, prior to recruitment. I was clueless all semester and know that I may have not always acted appropriately.

[honeychile]

"extremely southern"... as in, a penguin?

I should probably say that I should have waited to rush until my sophmore year and after I transferred - but I think I'll just say that I wish I had demanded an advisor who spoke English and worked harder on my grades.

[TriDeltaSallie]

Originally Posted by honeychile

"extremely southern"... as in, a penguin?

I should probably say that I should have waited to rush until my sophmore year and after I transferred - but I think I'll just say that I wish I had demanded an advisor who spoke English and worked harder on my grades.

This isn't sorority related, but one of the great regrets of my life is that I dropped a math class. Math is not my strongest subject and I had a huge lecture and a TA who couldn't speak English. We only had a couple of exams for the class and after the first one I was sure I didn't do well. I decided to drop the class since I didn't have to have it and I knew it would probably be a drag on my GPA.

Imagine the sick feeling in my stomach when it was time to graduate and I discovered I had met all the qualifications for Phi Beta Kappa - except taking that math class.

Even typing this I feel sick to my stomach over twenty years later. And I never knew what I got on that exam or if I might have at least made it through with a passing grade and been Phi Beta Kappa.

Ugh.

[33girl]

On those lines, I wish I HAD dropped a math class. My SATs put me into a calc class that I had no actual preparation for (I took accounting in HS instead of calc, being under the silly delusion that it might help me as an accounting major) and my advisor encouraged me to stick with it. I just squeaked by with tutoring. The problem was I then had to take an even MORE advanced class. These classes had nothing to do with my major and I wish I had spoken up and said "I didn't take this in high school like everyone else in it, I don't know what I'm doing. I'm dropping it and taking regular freshman math. Period."

[Tulip86]

If I could go back I would have spent a little less time organizing stuff and always being hands on, and instead just relax more and enjoy being an active.

[honeychile]

Adding... I wish I hadn't concentrated on getting to know just one or two group of sisters. That's okay as a new member, but coming back after the summer, it can be so easy to whine, "I don't have any friends now!" I was fortunate, because my mother had always insisted that I learn how to talk and get to know everyone, and swallowed my pride & did so. There were a lot of my pledge class who didn't, though, and ended up sans sorority.

[Cutie_Hootie]

Since I was on a campus with deferred recruitment, I would have studied much more and partied much less. No matter how many people you get to know around campus, if you don't have the grades to go through recruitment, you're sitting at home on bid night.

[lyrica9]

I would have registered for recruitment before the week it started, told my grandmother for certain that i was going through so she could put in her legacy intro form (that way she wouldn't still give me grief about not being her sister), wouldn't have transferred my senior year (esp. since i ended up transferring back a year later), definitely would have tried harder in my non-major classes and gotten involved in other activities.

[FleurGirl]

I would've told myself to RELAX and let things happen. I was lucky that everyone was so nice -- I was so anxious! It's definitely not worth getting super worked up about.