Help and advice on my bid situation please.

[mittens]

Originally Posted by Passioncreek

Im sorry for offending anyone. I understand now and realize I was wrong. thanx for your help

Did you go through formal recruitment or informal recruitment? If you decline a bid the chapter doesn't have to take you back at all. If you accepted a bid then depledged, then as far as I know your bid is binding for one year. Depending on your organization, they have policies for NMs repledging. I would call your organization's HQ and tell them your situation and ask about repledging. They may have someone from HQ contact an advisor to ask about your situation. Since it is "spring" and you said they picked up 4 girls, it sounds like informal recruitment, the members of your org may be very busy at the moment. So I wouldn't say they are ignoring you just yet.

If you don't hear something within a couple of weeks then I would try contacting HQ by email asking about your status or even try emailing the president or NM educator again. You might want to ask yourself if you get no response from members of that org if you want them to be your sisters. My opinion is that it is your own fault though, you realize that you didn't like that sorority for all the wrong reasons and you can only blame yourself. Some chapters are forgiving with that matter and some are not.

[Passioncreek]

I went through formal and wanted to go through membership this spring. the main reason i waited was because I wanted to have the funds. Things came and I no longer had the money and wasn't appreciative of the sorority at the time. I quickly realized i was wrong in the fall and waited till spring to recontact them. and the rest is history.

[mittens]

Originally Posted by Passioncreek

I went through formal and wanted to go through membership this spring. the main reason i waited was because I wanted to have the funds. Things came and I no longer had the money and wasn't appreciative of the sorority at the time. I quickly realized i was wrong in the fall and waited till spring to recontact them. and the rest is history.

But you just said in your first post that you decided to decline a bid because you didnt like the house now you're saying it's because you wanted to go through the NM process in the spring? Which one is it?

Before you went through recruitment, you should of been aware of the financial obligations. If you would of accepted your bid and went through the NM meetings and talked to your new member educator about financial difficulties you could of been initiated in the spring and they also may have payment plans set up for you.

[Passioncreek]

I hope to clarify this: my immediate decline of the bid in the fall was for the wrong reasons. but sometime in the middle of fall , after I realized I was wrong, it became a finacial situation, I had the money before and now I didn't. so I waited to recontact the girls in spring.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Passioncreek

I went through formal and wanted to go through membership this spring. the main reason i waited was because I wanted to have the funds. Things came and I no longer had the money and wasn't appreciative of the sorority at the time. I quickly realized i was wrong in the fall and waited till spring to recontact them. and the rest is history.

Did you sign a bid card on which you wrote this sorority's name after preference round, or were you offered an open bid, which you declined?

If you were offered an open bid and said no, you have no ties to this sorority at all.

If you signed a bid card and wrote this sorority's name down, received a bid, and did not begin pledging immediately, they may have had to release you. My campus had a rule that if a woman didn't begin pledging within 48 hours, it was considered hazing and she was released. At any rate, I have the feeling that nobody - Greek advisor, chapter, or GC - has the whole story.