When Defriending Hurts !!

[dreamseeker]

Qwitter??? lol its that serious?! wow. i notice from time to time that my fbk friends number goes up and down but i never cared enough to check who it was. too much work.

[DrPhil]

People are strange.

Guess what? Some of us have significant others, family members, and close friends who are on facebook but aren't on our friends list.

And...somehow...no one gives a shit.

[westcoastzta]

My first 'crush' from kindergarten won't accept me as a 'friend' on FB....pisses me off as I can see he is friends with others that go back to elementary school...I tried twice and then wrote him off. On the other hand, I've had a 'suggested friend' of a girl I was once on cheer with. I hated her then and will not friend her now. I've also had to 'hide' a couple of friends public comments as I too am friends with my daughter and some of the stuff these guys write are waaaay out there. I don't want her seeing what he posts. It's for fun for me, a way to keep in touch and follow peoples' lives.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by westcoastzta

I've also had to 'hide' a couple of friends public comments as I too am friends with my daughter and some of the stuff these guys write are waaaay out there. I don't want her seeing what he posts.

If this referring to what I posted, his kids are around 6 and 4. They don't have FB.

I have curbed my urge to be saucy with an old friend as his daughter's on his friends list.

[AGDee]

I have told my daughter and her friends who have friended me on Facebook that I could, at any time, make my page adults only and defriend them, just so they know. I have a cousin who unfriended me and that's fine with me. He said something at a wedding this summer that everytime he logs in his whole news feed is me cuz I'm on a lot and his other friends aren't. Doesn't matter to me that he unfriended me.

[AnchorAlumna]

I'm amazed that I get friend requests from people I don't know. I just click "ignore." I do think my son and daughter-in-law may be uncomfortable with me as a friend, seeing all their posts. They seem to have quit posting after I friended them - heck, I'm on there more than they are! I feel like telling them it's OK if they want to un-friend me.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

I'm amazed that I get friend requests from people I don't know. I just click "ignore." I do think my son and daughter-in-law may be uncomfortable with me as a friend, seeing all their posts. They seem to have quit posting after I friended them - heck, I'm on there more than they are! I feel like telling them it's OK if they want to un-friend me.

I'm not saying that you do this, but while I don't mind my boyfriend's mom and stepdad knowing what I put on facebook (I tend to save the expletive-riddled updates for Twitter), I hate that every time I post a status my boyfriend's mom "likes" it.

I could post "just snorted a line of coke and am on the highest high of my life right now" and she'd click the like button. Really? The stuff I post on facebook is not that interesting. You don't need to like everything.

[Senusret I]

I put a disclaimer on my profile that states I defriend for any reason or no reason at all, and that thems are the breaks.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

I put a disclaimer on my profile that states I defriend for any reason or no reason at all, and that thems are the breaks.

LOL awesome.

[AnotherKD]

Being "friends" with my manager has definitely made me think twice about what I post. Then again, I never posted anything as bad as this about my work:

http://tastybooze.com/2009/08/facebook-fail/

Also, I friended my big whom I had lost touch with. She accepted. Then, a couple of months later, I saw that facebook was suggesting that I become friends with her. I always wondered why she defriended me. A few weeks ago, she sent me a friend request. Seems kind of bipolar to me.

[33girl]

She might have added a lot of people to play sorority life or mafia or something and then pruned them off...and got you accidentally...but I'd think she'd tell you if she made a mistake like that. Unless she's really embarrassed about playing SL or MW.

[ree-Xi]

I just went through my friends list and got rid of about 20-30 people. They were mostly people I have never met, but know people I know, as well as former coworkers from years ago. The problem is, the people I don't know never once introduced themselves or posted on my wall, and these certain people I used to work with never communicate, despite their seeking me out, and my initiating contact.

If all you want to do is keep tabs on me, then buh-bye. I don't need 500 "friends". While I appreciate the power of networking, I don't believe in just keeping connected in case something would come of the connection.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

I just went through my friends list and got rid of about 20-30 people. They were mostly people I have never met, but know people I know

I guess I don't understand why you'd add these people in the first place. The only thing I've done remotely like that is add this guy that my pen pal knows - she suggested him because he does really good movie reviews.

I just want FB to shut up about how Mark only has 10 friends or I haven't connected with Carolyn in a while. MYOB, Facebook.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I just want FB to shut up about how Mark only has 10 friends or I haven't connected with Carolyn in a while. MYOB, Facebook.

No, Facebook, I do not want to "make Facebook better" for Suzie by sending her a message.

So dumb.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I just want FB to shut up about how Mark only has 10 friends or I haven't connected with Carolyn in a while. MYOB, Facebook.

The worst for me is that it keeps suggesting friends that have passed since the creation of their facebook profile.

It'd be great if that stopped.