More Mo' Betta Motivation

[Ideal08]

ANGER
(sample article from Jewel Diamond Taylor's web site)
http://members.aol.com/jeweldiam/home.htm
http://members.aol.com/jeweldiam/home.htm

When life hurts and you find yourself either mad at someone else, mad at yourself or mad with God ... you will either begin to withdraw, resent, abuse, misuse, procrastinate or neglect the important things in your life.

Anger is one letter short of DANGER! It consumes. It kills. It blocks your blessings. It destroys relationships. It ruins your health. It repels success. It robs you of peace of mind. It blinds and binds you. Anger can paralyze and keep you stuck on stupid. Anger expressed appropriately is only good if it mobilizes you to take action. Depression happens when you internalize your anger by denying and suppressing it. Aggression is the result when your anger is externalized and expressed it too much. Both are unhealthy and not advisable.

Sometimes the anger can be so subtle that you don't even realize that you are neglecting your health, your grooming, your goals/dreams, your family, your house or your job. The anger can be so subtle that you put your happiness on layaway waiting until "someday" to enjoy the gift of life. Don't allow old hurts or disappointments keep you from living with gratitude, hope, joy,
love, peace, forgiveness, faith and action. The past has passed. Breathe! Breathe! Breathe! Be totally present in this moment, in this day, in your body, in your home, in your job, in your mind and in your heart. Write down on a piece of paper what you are angry about. Put it into perspective. Pray about it. Tell the truth. Do you have control over what happened? What role, if any, did you have in participating in your own misery? Are you willing to let it go and grow? Why do you want to hold on to it? Is it necessary? Can these feelings mobilize you to do something about? Are you tired of carrying the pain? Do you want to feel better? Do you want revenge or do you want renewal? Do you want more peace or more pain?

Eccl. 7:9 "Anger rests in the bosom of fools."

Don't get mad with those who have hurt you. Get even with those who have helped you. (excerpt from "Success Gems" book by Jewel Diamond Taylor)
http://www.jeweldiamondtaylor.net/SHOP.htm

(*The bolding was done by Ideal08*)

[Ideal08]

Why do we take to heart what the critics say to us in our lives? Why do we become deaf, shy, resistant, afraid or doubt what people say to us about our gifts, talents and skills? Why do we sabotage, suppress and sit on our gifts? Do you listen to those who belittle you or to those who believe in you?

Some people are afraid to allow God to use them because they would have to move out of fear and comfort into a realm of trust. There is something special and unique about you.
YOU are an instrument of God.
There are people who need what you have to offer. You have within you the potential to bless so many lives. Don't let misguided people use and abuse you. Let God use you. Do the inner work to tap into your goals, gifts and glory. Acknowledge and accept your personal power. Let your light shine. Give it. Show it. Be it. Do it. Say it. Live it!

Whenever I start doubting myself, I read this powerful statement the legendary performing arts dancer, Martha Graham, would teach her students...

"There is a vitality, a life-force, an energy, a quickening that is
translated through you into action and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is nor how valuable nor how it compares with other expressions. It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open. You do not even have to
believe in yourself or your work. You have to keep open and aware directly to the urges that motivate you. Keep the channel open."

by Jewel Diamond Taylor, The "Inner-Tainer"
Motivational Speaker, author, columnist, radio/TV personality

Attend Jewel Diamond Taylor
15th Annual Super Goal Saturday Workshop
Saturday, January 12, 2001
Grow from resolutions to results!
Raddison Hotel, 6161 Centinela, Culver City
Seating is limited.
Jewel Diamond Taylor 2002 new year's theme is
"No More Excuses"
http://www.donotgiveup.net/

[Ideal08]

This is Jewel Diamond Taylor, the author of the motivational gems you receive
each week on-line.

I plan to bring my SISTER SATURDAY CONFERENCE EXPERIENCE to the following
cities in 2002.
. April - Indianapolis, IN
. May - Wash DC/MD/NY
. June - Los Angeles
. August - Atlanta
. September - San Diego
. October - Oakland

I am seeking the following to make these events a success:

1. Hostesses
2. Volunteers to distribute flyers at your church, campus, book
club, workplace, salons, book stores, etc.
3. Massage therapists
4. names of local radio DJ personalities
5. local talent, send your CD or video to be considered for our
lunch time entertainment
6. Businesses to sponsor and/or advertise to be included on my
web sites, promotional literature conference program.
7. Door prize give-aways to promote your business

Soon you receive the date and location of my 2nd Annual Mother/Daughter
Cruise.

Your time and response to these requests are sincerely appreciated.

Stay in the Light,
Jewel Diamond Taylor

[Ideal08]

Single sisters get ready to enjoy a wonderful Christmas instead of a ChristMESS. For so many the holidays can mean depression, debt and drama! But it doesn't have to be so! Listen up sisters. Being single doesn't mean you have to be left out of the holiday cheer and joy. Take the stress and mess out of your Christmas. You will find yourself in the valley of depression wishing for a Hallmark Card Christmas and listening to those sad, romantic, kiss me under the mistle toe songs. This season is about celebrating the birth of Jesus. So let the fruits of spirit be alive in you (joy, peace, harmony, gratitude and love). Try some of these holiday activities and tips.

1. You' re creating stress if you're trying to impress. Don't allow the pressure of society, media hype and holidays to put you in debt.

2. Come on sisters, respond to the holiday invitations. Get out of the house of blues. Try not to soothe your broken heart by over indulging in food, alcohol, shopping or sleeping. Don't ask for trouble by calling up that ol' boyfriend out of your desperation and loneliness. In surveying many single women, I heard a lot of self-esteem, giving and entertaining. For the most part, many single women expressed their acceptance of the single life and
coped with their emotions by acts of kindness to others. So many of them slowed their pace during the holiday season for quiet time to reflect, rest and remember they are still whole woman whether they spend the holidays in a relationship or not.

3. Don't allow excuses (i.e., family grudges, my house needs painting, I need new furniture, I don't have enough chairs) to keep you from enjoying family and friends. Being around laughter and good food is healing. If your money is a low, don't be embarrassed to ask everyone to bring a dish (sweet potato pie, peach cobbler, greens, macaroni and cheese or the beverages). Even if everyone has to bring a chair because you have only one couch, so what! Ask them to bring a chair and a card table.

4. Attention single parents, don't allow your children to pressure you into spending and shopping until you drop. Stay within your budget. Your children's begging, harassment or tantrums can stress you out. Don't put yourself into financial bondage or they will buy you a first class ticket on a guilt trip.

5. Celebrating Kwanzaa does not replace your traditional religious celebration. It is 7 days to reflect and reinforce positive values for your family, community and spiritual enrichment as you come to the end of a year and contemplate the new year. Attend a Kwanzaa program in your community or create a simple yet memorable ceremony with your loved ones and friends in your home or place of worship.

6. The spirit and fun of giving is always a favorite Christmas activity (i.e., gifts and meals for women and children in transitional housing).

7. Maybe you've been superwoman all year. The holidays are a perfect time to slow your pace, enjoy some quiet time. You're free of all the mad frenzy of preparing a big family meal, entertaining the in-laws and cleaning up afterwards. You can sit back, put in your favorite movie or CD, light a candle, and smile because you are FREE to sleep in late. Many stress free singles enjoy poetry readings, plays, traveling and concerts.

If you're a "people person" and enjoy entertaining maybe these experiences will give you some ideas.

"I had Christmas brunch at my home one year. I made my home festive and pretty, wore a fabulous hostess caftan, set out my best stemware, wine, sparkling ciders and made up a menu of delicious appetizers and finger foods. I baked cookies (nephews and nieces are good at helping in this---and it gives their moms and dads time to purchase and wrap presents while they are at your house!) and invited everyone to drop in all day."

"I organize and hold a Christmas Tree decorating party in my home, for ladies only...each guest brought a special ornament for the tree and a dish to be enjoyed by all"

"We enjoy the Twelve Days of Christmas Dessert Event, every day someone has to bring in a different dessert or recipe."

"I invite all my friends to bring their own sewing machines, potluck, and projects to my home for a day of quilting, laughing, fun, food and sisterhood."

"I host a Christmas brunch for all my single friends, they come in their Christmas pajamas with a dish, we sing Christmas songs and exchange gifts."

You can be traditional or radical. You can be a social butterfly or enjoy your solitude. Create your own tradition. Create your own fun.

by Jewel Diamond Taylor, Speaker and Author
http://members.aol.com/jeweldiam/home.htm

[Ideal08]

You will find yourself feeling depressed, guilty and angry, if you waste too much energy focusing on what you didn't achieve this year.

Instead, focus your energy on what you're willing to dedicate yourself to follow through with in 2002.

It's not too late to do great things.
Seek God for your strength.
Seek others around you to network with and learn from.
Find in yourself the motivation, determination and discipline to be
successful.
Whatcha gonna do in 2002?

No more excuses!

by Jewel Diamond Taylor, Motivational Speaker and author, facilitating her
15th Annual Super GOAL Saturday Workshop - "From Resolutions to Results"
Raddison Hotel, Culver City
SUPER GOAL SATURDAY
Saturday, January 12, 2001
10 AM - 2 PM

What will you learn?
. how to identify and overcome the 6 styles of procrastination
. how to become a proactive and productive achiever
. how to feel more confident in expressing your soul's purpose
. how to cope with delays, discouragement and distractions
. how to prioritize, develop short-term and long-term goals
. how to identify your personality style, habits and behavior patterns
. how to develop more faith, focus and follow through
. how to plan and prosper from positive thoughts and actions
. how to make your dreams and goals a reality
. how to find your inner motivator

Stay in the Light

[Sugar_N_Spice]

Vacation's Over, Folx!!
Back to "work" we go (ahem...)
You know I'm just playin, Ideal!

But, for real, I need these to get me through my day sometimes!

By the way, that last post was a REALLY good one ...Always looking out for your GC Peeps!! That's Right!!

[Ideal08]

It's never too late to pursue your dreams and purpose. You're entering into a new year and a new season in your life. This is your year. If you feel empty, restless, sad, tired and bored, you become vulnerable and tempted to do some crazy stuff. So get focused on taking your life to the next level. You don't until you have the courage to make a change. The courage comes as you move in the direction of your goal. As you take leaps of faith, the
opportunities and people you need will show up. First you must show up! You must get up! You must overcome the fear and procrastination. Come on now! No one should be or will be more serious about your life than you should be. Get up! Get excited! Get ready! Get moving! No mo' drama! No more excuses!

Whatchu gonna do in 2002?

by Jewel Diamond Taylor, Motivational Speaker and Author of Success Gems,
Sisterfriends and You Are Too Blessed to Be Stressed.

[Ideal08]

These are important steps to reach your goals this year from motivational speaker and author, Jewel Diamond Taylor:

1) Take care of your health. You need energy, stamina and clear thinking to fly with the eagles.

2) You don't need a lot of people, just the right people in your life. Start networking and making positive alliances.

3) People will respect and respond to your tenancity. Hang in there.

4) Your goals require discipline and determination. Put some iron in your soul. Get up and do the things you don't want to do so
that later you can do the things you want to do.

5) Things that are out of sight are out of mind. USE and keep a big calendar in sight to keep you organized and on track.

6) Think it. Ink it. Get it out of your head and on paper. Avoid
generalizations. Be specific about your goals.

7) Observe your learning style. If you are a visual learner, read books and watch inspirational/motivational videos. If you are an auditory learner, listen to motivational tapes at least once a week.

8) Have a feedback system so that you are accountable to someone for your progress.

9) Keep your faith strong with prayer, praise and worship.

10) Change is a part of life. Expect the unexpected. Remain focused yet flexible.

11) Have balance and some fun to avoid burnout. Don't neglect family, friends and some fun which reduce stress.

12) Set yourself up to win. Set small achievable goals. Reward yourself. Give yourself points. Build on the small successes. Thing big but take small steps.

This is a sample of the success principles that I will be teaching at the 15th Annual Super Goal Saturday Workshop, January 12, 2002
Radisson Hotel, 6161 Centinela, Culver City, CA
10AM - 2 PM. You can register at the door. $35 per person includes workbook
- $25 person without workbook. To reserve your seat and workbook call 323-964-1736
Stay in the Light,
http://www.donotgiveup.net/

[Ideal08]

There may something that you want to do or don't want to do. There may be a voice within telling you not now, slow down, get started or change directions. There may be a voice telling you that he is the one, she is the one or... no, he is not the one and no, she is not the one. There may be a voice within telling you to let go or to hold on. There may be a voice within telling you to stay or to go. Be true to yourself. Be true and honor God's voice and direction for your life. Trust and be smart with whom you share your thoughts, goals and decisions.

These lyrics from the movie "The Wiz" are inspiring food for thought:

Believe In Yourself

If you believe
within your heart you'll know
that no one can change
the path that you must go

Believe what you feel
and know you're right, because
the time will come around
when you say it's yours
Believe in yourself, right from the start
You'll have brains
You'll have a heart
You'll have courage
to last your whole life through

Stay in the Light,
Jewel Diamond Taylor

[Ideal08]

Before you walk away, give up or walk out... hang in there. Giving up on someone or giving up on yourself may not be the best thing right now. You've come too far to throw it all away. No life, job, child, boss, friend, parent or mate is perfect. Dig a little deeper to find your courage, patience, love and faith. You can do it. You can make it! You can take your life to a new level! Do the right thing! Do what's best for your family and for your life. Every morning new mercies you will see.

When the enemy knocks on your door today disguised as temptation, procrastination, worry, impatience, fear or anger...

ask Jesus to answer the door.

"The faithful will abound with blessings." - Proverbs 28:20

Stay in the light,
http://www.donotgiveup.net/
Jewel Diamond Taylor

[Ideal08]

After all this time, all the emails I've received, all the requests I've made, it's finally happening. Jewel Diamond Taylor is coming to Columbus, Ohio!!!!! Look:

Sunday, March 24 - Columbus, Ohio
Spirited Sisters Expo - Veterans Memorial invdes@earthlink.net

What a full weekend that's gonna be!!! CT4, I know you said the SSE wasn't all that last year, but we have to go on Sunday!!! We HAVE to!!!!! Did you call them other heffas about that weekend? Lemme check my email.