Disappointed mom - Page 2

KSUViolet06 · #1 10-19-2008, 12:58 AM

My advice? Relax, and let your daughter make decisions for herself. If she is happy where she is, let her be and be supportive. Be proud of your daughter no matter what sorority she's in, because at the end of the day, she's your daughter.

If she is happy, why would you encourage her to drop? You already said that she is shy. Why would you want her to go through recruitment again? If she goes through again, if the school is competitive, she could potentially end up getting released entirely. As a mom, I can't see how you could want that for her.

I'm sorry, but if it means more to you for your daughter to be in a top sorority with an active social calendar than it is for your daughter to be happy, then you need to re-evaluate your life and your priorities. I don't really think you'll get a ton of sympathy here, just because of the way this comes off.

#2 10-19-2008, 09:26 PM

This is pathetic. My sorority is one of the smaller ones on campus and I LOVE IT. You actually know all of your sisters. Can you imagine being shy and being dropped into a house with a lot of girls? When your shy that isn't something you want. Speaking from experience starting with a smaller group of people made my adjustment to campus life a million times better and then I started to branch out. Let your daughter make her own choices because she is the only one who has a say whether or not she made the right decision!

WCsweet<3 · #3 10-18-2008, 11:27 PM

*mouth hanging open*
This is just amazing to me for so many reasons. Maybe because being in a sorority here means nothing in the rest of the state like it does in other reasons, but I mean, my heart hurts.
I would like to applaud Jen's comment!

Also to the OP, I know that when a daughter does something, the reputation can affect the mother, but she is happy. If it really is that hard for you to come to terms with than maybe you need to find why there is a problem.

nittanyalum · #4 10-19-2008, 12:01 AM

tinydancer · #5 10-19-2008, 12:16 AM

OP's post is about the saddest thing I have read in a really long time. Daughter seems proud of her sorority. Mama should be, too.

Jill1228 · #6 10-19-2008, 12:30 AM

She is happy. She is enjoying herself. She has a life! You should be supportive of her.

Most important, you need to get a friggin life!

Your unpanhellenic attitude is a freaking disgrace!

Buttonz · #7 10-19-2008, 12:47 AM

I feel horrible for your daughter. You should be happy for her.

I hope your not my sister because if you are I'd be very disappointed in your horrible attitude towards another NPC...in fact, I am regardless of the fact.

KappaKittyCat · #8 10-19-2008, 12:48 AM

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Originally Posted by sail100

My daughter went through rush this fall. I didn't expect her to go through, and since she's a bit on the shy side I really didn't encourage it knowing how stressful and heartbreaking it can be.

"You could fail. You shouldn't try at all."

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At this point I tried to get her to drop out

"You're not perfect. You should quit."

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I'm embarassed for her.

Nope. You're embarrassed for you. Your daughter's not good enough for you. You should be ashamed of yourself, not of your daughter. You want to alienate her? Just keep doing what you're doing.

AlphaRuby · #9 10-19-2008, 01:32 AM

She could really be a great asset to her chapter and really enjoy the people she's met; it's very sad that a mother would want to take that away for the sake of social status.

Xidelt · #10 10-19-2008, 03:34 AM

Is this mom for real?

alum · #11 10-19-2008, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Xidelt

Is this mom for real?

Doubt it.

Benzgirl · #12 10-19-2008, 11:52 AM

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Originally Posted by alum

Doubt it.

Ditto. If she was real, she would be back here defending herself.

Kevin · #13 10-19-2008, 10:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Xidelt

Is this mom for real?

Sock puppet checklist:
1) Create account with authentic looking name... check.
2) Start a thread wherein sock puppet acts like a caricature of a stereotype... check.
3) Watch the fallout and enjoy!... check.

KSigkid · #14 10-19-2008, 11:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Kevin

Sock puppet checklist:
1) Create account with authentic looking name... check.
2) Start a thread wherein sock puppet acts like a caricature of a stereotype... check.
3) Watch the fallout and enjoy!... check.

Exactly - I think someone did it to get a rise out of people, and it looks like it worked.

BadCat25 · #15 10-19-2008, 11:02 AM

I assume Disappointed Mom lives in the South and unless you do you will never understand how she feels. The social pressure down there for your daughter to join a top chapter is huge and the total bummer for her to join a low tier chapter let alone God forbid be a GDI. When I was in HS one of my friends older sister had a rush disaster and everyone treated it like it was the end of the world. Like I said, if you are not from the South you will never understand.