My recruitment thread - Page 11

OUlioness01 · #**151** 08-18-2003, 08:06 PM

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Originally posted by MTSUGURL

Question about suiciding: I don't have a choice about it, seeing as how I'm only attending one party (if I make it to Pref night). One person had advised me to list another group that I liked in case of snap bidding, but I don't get it no matter how many times I read the quota thread, the 500 suicide threads, etc. It would seem to me that attending only one party I should only write down one name.

i suicided. i was in the same situation you are in and felt I had to since every other house had cut me after second rounds (i had the worst rush experience of all time). in a way it made it really easy...i just filled in my pref card, signed it and gave it to the plady looking over them. of course i had to listen to her for about 3 minutes lecturing me on suiciding and i ended up almost in tears trying ot explain to her that i was cut from everywhere else, but it was worth it when i made it past the time the rho chis had to tell women they were cut and i hadn't been called. just don't listen to those who try and talk you out of suiciding. most houses only invite those on their bid list to pref. i wish i had known that before

just have a blast and don't worry about anything.

honeychile · #**152** 08-18-2003, 08:43 PM

As you can see, there are definitely pros and cons about suiciding. The one thing I would add is, you have to remember that you may have only been cut by the tiniest of margins. If a chapter must release a certain amount of women between each party (a LOT of schools make the sororities do that!), maybe they could only invite 50 back, but you were listed 51st.

Please take that into consideration. From what I've read in your thread, yes, you love France, but you also were comfortable in Canada and Ireland. You waited this long to be part of the Greek system - don't cut off your nose to spite your face!

MTSUGURL · #**153** 08-18-2003, 08:56 PM

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Originally posted by bgsarah
so since there is only one left, can we know what they are!? )))

Sure... in a PM. I love this group, and can't imagine ever saying anything negative about them. The only reason I'm still holding out is because I want to keep ya'll in suspense.

Tonight was SO MUCH FUN. The theme was "Real World", and they talked about how they loved France because they felt comfortable there, knew they could be real, be themselves, and not someone that they had to pretend to be. That really hit home tonight and let me tell you why:
I pulled a groin muscle sitting in a wierd posititon last night for Philanthropy night, but didn't hurt until I was teaching a girl how to do a cartwheel at work, then the splits, and then "OHMIGOD I'M HURTING REALLY BAD!" I had this really cute dress to wear, these really cute shoes, but I couldn't wear the shoes. I had to wear HOUSESHOES. My only houseshoes are pink, fuzzy slippers with bows on the sides. If it had been any other group, I wouldn't have gone in there with them on - I would have suffered. I felt so at home here. My rho sigma, the sweetest girl in God's creation, had the recruitment director tell the French girls ahead of time what had happened. The girls I talked to were wonderful, and very understanding.
So after the fiasco with the pulled muscle I had a VERY INCONVENIENT situation (are you with me girls, cause I ain't spelling it out!) that was of course taken care of by my rho sigma.

I want this group. The best thing that could've happened to me was being cut everywhere else so that I could really see without a doubt that this is my home. Let's all hope that they let me move in.

If I don't get in, I'll be disappointed but ok.

I talked to my rho sigma, and she said it wouldn't be considered suiciding to put down just the one group, but I thought about putting down Canada as a second choice just in case.

There's a girl going through that is bipolar, and she told my rho sigma today that if she didn't get an invite back to her favorite it would send her into the hospital again. How's that for pressure!
I can honestly say that I am SO glad that I waited to go through rush. I feel like I am havig all the benefits without (much) of the heartache. There was really only a couple of hours that were bad, but I got to spend a lot of time getting to know my Rho Sig and her sister that I wouldn't have had if I had have been invited bacl to every party.
Thanks for the support girls! I'll check in tomorrow after I know if I've made it to pref!

honeychile · #**154** 08-18-2003, 09:01 PM

Crystal, after everything you've been through, I surely hope that you're saying "Oo, la, la!" to your new "French" sisters by tomorrow!!!!!

Good luck, Sweetie!

adpiucf · #**155** 08-18-2003, 09:07 PM

Vive Le France!!! I'm so sorry about your aches and pains, but I'm glad you had a good party tonight!!!

Sending positive vibes your way!

AXO Alum · #**156** 08-18-2003, 10:33 PM

In regards to suiciding - yes, you can put more than one group, even if you didn't attend their pref -- BUT, keep in mind that if you put down those groups, and one snaps you, you are OBLIGATED to that chapter for an entire year, regardless of whether or not you accept their bid.

A con for suicding is (thanks to whomever put it in such great words) you could've been cut by a tiny margin as previously stated -- and putting down more than one may help you get a bid.

But, on the other hand, if you know that you will only be happy at one place, then you must go with your heart. It will serve no purpose for you to put XYZ down first, and ABC second -- only to have XYZ decline you and ABC pick you up.

So its a gamble - one is a much safer bet as far as numbers go, but the other is safer for your emotional state! I just can't wait to hear all about it

pinkyphimu · #**157** 08-18-2003, 10:33 PM

OUCH!!!! i am sorry to hear about your accident!! and the thing your rho sigma helped you with....totally happened to me during rush!!! i think it was at skit night...so it was the longest party...and it happened right at the beginning of the party. it was the worst. luckily, i knew one of the sisters and we had been paired together. she totally helped me out. lol...i even told my rho chi bc i was afraid that they would get in trouble for helping me!!! lol.

keeping my fingers crossed for you!!!

adpiucf · #**158** 08-18-2003, 10:39 PM

When I was a PX, we took away the term "Suiciding" and replaced it with "SIP"--- single individual preferencing. We tried not to encourage SIPping-- but there were still girls who did it. Our reasoning was that the computer program we were using would kick out a SIP, and she wouldn't get placed, even if she was on top of the first bid list. Girls SIPped anyway, so we had to do a lot of hand matching. Ai caramba!

I am a die-hard fan of my sorority, and it made me very happy in college and now as an alum, but I know I could have been just as happy if I had gotten my second choice, or even my third. I encourage every PNM to put down two choices. I think of all the women who DID get their second choice and how happy they were. I know not everyone will agree with me on this, but I do believe everything happens for a reason in our lives.

Good luck Crystal. Whatever decision you make, we are behind you 110%!

sueali · #**159** 08-18-2003, 10:40 PM

Your situation that your Rho Chi helped out with happened to me too. For years I've been thinking only something like that would have happened to me.

breathesgelatin · #**160** 08-18-2003, 10:41 PM

Crystal, best of luck for your awesome attitude! I'm glad you have such an understanding and helpful Rho Sigma. We are all hoping for the best with your pref invites.

absolutuscchick · #**161** 08-18-2003, 11:37 PM

Crystal, I'm praying that everything works out for the best for you!!! Whatever happens, know that we all love you!!!!

amandamarie · #**162** 08-18-2003, 11:49 PM

Wow, I'm just now getting updated on this thread. I really hope everything works out for you. I've had pretty much the same happen, getting invited back to one. I'm rooting for you!

AXO_MOM_3 · #**163** 08-19-2003, 12:20 AM

So glad you had a great time tonight! Sending positive vibes your way for tomorrow!

SparkliiQTMTSU · #**164** 08-19-2003, 01:17 AM

Im so happy for you! I am really hoping that you will find your home! as for me, well Im going to have to try it again but its ok Im not even a full sophmore yet so I should be ok of course i will be by the time i rush again almost a jr maybe even will be one who knows lol. but good luck girl I really hope that you get the house you love!!

Nichole

smiley21 · #**165** 08-19-2003, 09:53 AM

c-r-y-s-t-a-l
what does that spell?!

crystal!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
go get them girl!! show them what you made of!! your cheering section is here!!