Dating Greek Men

[DZAmanda]

I haven't noticed huge differences between Greek and non-Greek men when it comes to dating. The main difference I've had is the experience of guys changing (read: acting like idiots) when around their friends - this seems to happen more with fraternity men b/c they have the organized fraternity events that non-Greeks don't have.
Additionally, the Greek men that I have dated have been more understanding when it comes to my involvement with my sorority and Panhellenic. That's always a bonus.
On the down side, I have been involved with a guy during his pledge period - that was tough. He had to be at the beck & call of his brothers all the time, which didn't leave enough time for me. As a sorority woman, I understood - but at the same time it was annoying.
This thread is interesting - I've enjoyed reading everyone's thoughts on the subject.
Amanda

[angel_kak]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by DZAmanda:
[B]I haven't noticed huge differences between Greek and non-Greek men when it comes to dating. The main difference I've had is the experience of guys changing (read: acting like idiots) when around their friends - this seems to happen more with fraternity men b/c they have the organized fraternity events that non-Greeks don't have.


Isn't that the truth...I think I have had the same experience. Alot of the guys were players though....Arghh...I'm not saying on fraternity guys are players just all the ones that I have met! You know what I mean. I realize this can go both ways...because I know sorority women who act the same way! Unfortunately, I always fall for the those boys...they are fun aren't they though? Interesting post guys!!!

Kirsten

[Mulottogirl]

Well ladies, in my opinion dating a Greek guy is a tad bit different, but not to say in a negative way or to say that everyone should date Greek. I am Greek and when you date another Greek they have a little more understanding of why you have to go so many meetings and service events. My sorority is service based and we got alotta events that we do, so my ex-Greek boyfriend(organization will remain un-named) totally understood all the stuff I was doing. And since we lived in different towns 2 hours away from each other, there was a time when he had to run me back for a meeting and he was really cool about it cuz he has to do the same thing.

Plus its kinda fun- although we were from different organizations, we both would share different stories from when we were on line and stuff(of course not in depth stuff), just funny situations.

But hey I say date a man b/c he's good and repsects you reguardless if he wears letters or not, cuz I know alot of girls who date men just for their letters- eh, eh, don't do that...Letters don't mean nothin, its the man underneath that matters...

So thats my 2 cents!!!!

-J"Sunshine" #103

[Mulottogirl]

Well ladies, in my opinion dating a Greek guy is a tad bit different, but not to say in a negative way or to say that everyone should date Greek. I am Greek and when you date another Greek they have a little more understanding of why you have to go so many meetings and service events. My sorority is service based and we got alotta events that we do, so my ex-Greek boyfriend(organization will remain un-named) totally understood all the stuff I was doing. And since we lived in different towns 2 hours away from each other, there was a time when he had to run me back for a meeting and he was really cool about it cuz he has to do the same thing.

Plus its kinda fun- although we were from different organizations, we both would share different stories from when we were on line and stuff(of course not in depth stuff), just funny situations.

But hey I say date a man b/c he's good and repsects you reguardless if he wears letters or not, cuz I know alot of girls who date men just for their letters- eh, eh, don't do that...Letters don't mean nothin, its the man underneath that matters...

So thats my 2 cents!!!!

-J"Sunshine" #103

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The Power Of One Always Survives

[Mulottogirl]

Well ladies, in my opinion dating a Greek guy is a tad bit different, but not to say in a negative way or to say that everyone should date Greek. I am Greek and when you date another Greek they have a little more understanding of why you have to go so many meetings and service events. My sorority is service based and we got alotta events that we do, so my ex-Greek boyfriend(organization will remain un-named) totally understood all the stuff I was doing. And since we lived in different towns 2 hours away from each other, there was a time when he had to run me back for a meeting and he was really cool about it cuz he has to do the same thing.

Plus its kinda fun- although we were from different organizations, we both would share different stories from when we were on line and stuff(of course not in depth stuff), just funny situations.

But hey I say date a man b/c he's good and repsects you reguardless if he wears letters or not, cuz I know alot of girls who date men just for their letters- eh, eh, don't do that...Letters don't mean nothin, its the man underneath that matters...

So thats my 2 cents!!!!

-J"Sunshine" #103

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The Power Of One Always Survives

[Mulottogirl]

Well ladies, dating a Greek man is different, not in a bad way and not to say that Greeks should date Greeks either.

When I was dating a Greek man(organization will remain un named), it was cool becuase he understood why I had to go to so many meetings and attend service events. And since my sorority is service based and very small, the sorors needed each other. My ex-boyfriend and I lived 2 hours away from each other and I remember one time when he had to drive me back early b/c we had a meeting and he was really cool about it, beucase he understood.

Plus, even though we were from different organizations, we shared stories from when we were on line(not in depth stuff) just funny situations and all kinds of stuff

But hey, I say date a man becuase he is a good man and treats you with respect ladies. I know too many ladies that date men just becuase they are Greek or they pick organizations that they want to date- eh, eh, not good...Its not the letters that make the man.

But hey thats my 2 cents!

-J"Sunshine" #103

[Brelki]

I have yet to date a greek man, however, I'm thinking it might be a bit easier than my situation from the relationship I just got out of -- he was VERY jealous of the time I was spending with my sisters and he kept urging me to leave my sorority. However, that relationship ended quickly -- I love being a part of Chi O and wouldn't give that up for any man. I figure maybe a fellow greek guy could understand my time restraints and such. I dunno.... Anyone know any cute greek guys in IL? hehe

[texas*princess]

Originally posted by TrueGreekLove
For those of you that have dated greek men, do you find them to be any different than men who are non-greek? Is it different to date a greek man if you are greek yourself versus being a non greek dating a greek man? What are the pros and cons? I am just asking because generally I have found greek men to be very immature...and then there have been those that do a 360 on you after becoming greek and discovering that there are fraternity groupies out there...they are a completely different person after they cross!

Excellent conversation! In my experience with my current bf, we started dating before he went Greek. At first, I felt like he did the "360" in a way, and others could kind of see it too. Not so much that he "found fraternity groupies" like you mentioned, but he had a complete personality change, so I sort of had trouble adjusting.

After countless long hours of talking and stuff, we worked everything out. I realized that maybe it wasn't so much of a personality change, but maybe a part of his personality that i hadn't seen before when he's with his brothers. We stayed together and things have been super great since

[annice22]

From my experience, dating greek guys is hard because of the groupies and the guys lack of committment. Not to sound to hypocritical I find it hard to be committmented myself because there are a lot of cute frat boys. Being greek myself makes it worse.

I've had a not so great experience with the pikes on my campus because they are the biggest frat on campus and the girls are lining up to sleep with them. But, I still love my pikes. And when you try to show some self-respect and say no you want go home with them on a thurs (bar night) then they'll say they will go find a girl who will go home with them.

But I still have hopes of finding my greek boy (a pike) before I graduate.

With Love Always  Phi Sigma Sigma

[Jadey28]

I have been dating a Greek man since November 2000. Our relationship is actually pretty good. When I first became a member of Phi Sigma Sigma, my then-boyfriend didn't understand why I couldn't tell him certain things and why I always had something to do. He didn't understand the concept of socials and he didn't take any initiative to learn anything about the Greek system. We broke up because we were heading in different directions in life.

Then I met my current boyfriend. We actually met at a social and things progressed from there. We both understand that some things come first with our organizations and that we can't get upset over them. I understand that he needs his time with his boys and he understands my time with my girls. He has been very supportive of my decision to become an advisor for a chapter of Phi Sigma Sigma.

In addition, I have become very close with many of his brothers. I feel like I have 25 brothers of my own when I am with them. Likewise, he has become close with a few of my sisters. We all have wonderful times together and everyone gets along. I know this would not have happened with my ex-boyfriend.

I am very thankful for my boyfriend. He knows all about candle passes and how important that moment will be for me. I hope to create little legacies one day with him!

[DZHBrown]

I've dated 4 Greeks and unfortunately, they were the worst people I've ever dated. It may not be because they were Greek, but I hate that it's been that way. I'd love to marry a fraternity man for 2 reasons - he'll understand my committment to DZ and so my future little boy can be a legacy So hopefully, I'll find a nice Greek man one day.

[bethany1982]

Men are men and boys are boys.... being Greek does not change that. There are a lot of Greek "little boys." Unfortunately, being Greek alone does not develop character any more than it develops a good GPA. I've dated both... I'll look for maturity before I look for letters. The only upside I see in dating a Greek is his understanding of my commitments.


AF

Friends may come and go but sisters are FOREVER.

[AXEgirl]

I've dated 2 greeks and the rest were GDI's...

My relationship with the first greek I dated was really hard, cause when we met, he was a neo, and I was a GDI, so he was always doing stuff with his lb's and I just didn't understand.

The second time I dated a greek was much better, because I understood what was going on...

Overall, there isn't really a difference to me. In some ways I prefer a greek,because he is committed to helping the community and knows the value of hard work, scholarship, and brotherhood. But at the same time, they can sometimes just be stupid when they are around their frat.

[fsu24DZ]

This is a Very difficult topic to determine.. All Guys are Different, it doesn't matter if their Greek or non-greek!!! I have dated both as well, it really depends though! I find that Greeks understand your commitment to your organization better, as well as you do theirs! Both have pro's and cons... boys will be boys! I think in college, there arn't very many guys looking for a serious realationship..Now I dind't say All!! I know there are some~ But there is a time and place for everything, and things all happen for a reason..! So, if it's meant to be it will be! that's my 2 cents~

Bridget`

[AngelPhiSig]

I would love to date a greek just because they would understand a HUGE part of my life...