U of Alabama Fall 2013 Dates

[nervousnellie]

GC members, thank you for talking a nervous mom off the ledge. I feel so much better. This is a very kind group!

[KKGAlumDGMom]

Good luck to her!

[DubaiSis]

Funny. Not everyone who comes on here finds us too friendly Of course, they generally are asking for us to blow sunshine up their skirts and homey don't play that.

[Football Fan]

nervousnellie,

When your daughter is welcomed with open arms by her new sisters and sees how thrilled they are to have her I hope she will be looking forward to wonderful times ahead.

Bid Day is an exciting time. Best wishes as she begins her college journey at Alabama.

[BeachMom]

looking forward Nervousnellie to your post on bid day.....

[nervousnellie]

Originally Posted by BeachMom

looking forward Nervousnellie to your post on bid day.....

Sorry I didn't post on bid day, I was taking my DS to school! I bet you can already tell what is coming....She got her second choice, went to the brunch and rejected it (against our advice). She was told the night before by her first choice to go ahead and put both because she definitely got her first choice. My husband and I thought she should have given it more time and were not happy she went about it the way she did but she told us she felt trapped. She's young and has some growing up to do. I know she will be fine. I think she felt that was the only control she had it the situation. There is nothing else I can do but let her know I love her. I'm sad, but she is relieved. She may or may not try next year, but she said she'd rather be independent than join a group where she felt she didn't fit at all. She said the girls were lovely, but it wasn't where she wanted to be.

[DGTess]

Originally Posted by nervousnellie

Sorry I didn't post on bid day, I was taking my DS to school! I bet you can already tell what is coming....She got her second choice, went to the brunch and rejected it (against our advice). She was told the night before by her first choice to go ahead and put both because she definitely got her first choice. My husband and I thought she should have given it more time and were not happy she went about it the way she did but she told us she felt trapped. She's young and has some growing up to do. I know she will be fine. I think she felt that was the only control she had it the situation. There is nothing else I can do but let her know I love her. I'm sad, but she is relieved. She may or may not try next year, but she said she'd rather be independent than join a group where she felt she didn't fit at all. She said the girls were lovely, but it wasn't where she wanted to be.

There will always be those who feel they have had little to no real voice in the process, no matter how much we try to pretend "mutual" really means mutual.

I'm disappointed for your daughter, but hope she enjoys her college experience. I know from my daughter's experience that it doesn't require being greek to have a great college career.

[Sciencewoman]

Originally Posted by nervousnellie

She was told the night before by her first choice to go ahead and put both because she definitely got her first choice. My husband and I thought she should have given it more time and were not happy she went about it the way she did but she told us she felt trapped. She's young and has some growing up to do.

I don't think it would have mattered, so it's not your daughter's fault. No one from the first choice group should have told her this; apparently she wasn't high enough on their bid list to get a bid from them before they hit quota. If she had only listed that group, she wouldn't have gotten a bid at all.

Good luck to your daughter. I wrote a rec for a young woman who was released before Pref. She is very sad. I hope she gives informal recruitment a try.

[OleMissGlitter]

My rec girl from out of state pledged A D Pi! She is beyond thrilled! She had a wonderful experience and her older sister who is an ADPi at a school in the Midwest is beyond happy too! Now I have to find her some ADPi goodies! (Thank goodness ADPi is colonizing at Ole Miss this fall because some of the stores have some goodies already!) Thanks to those Greekchatters who wrote her recs as well! Much appreciated!

[arrowlady]

Sorry for NervousNellie's D not finding her home, but wishing her a wonderful year.


My Rec crew shook out as follows

2 Phi Mu's
1 Delta Gamma
1 Alpha Phi
1 no bid - sad for her

[Titchou]

Am headed down early AM for Bid Day! Looking foward to seeing all my sisters! Hope everyone is thrilled with their bids.

[thetalady]

So glad to hear she listed both groups!! Can't wait to hear the results!

[MaryPoppins]

Originally Posted by thetalady

So glad to hear she listed both groups!! Can't wait to hear the results!

Ditto!

[PearlGirl13]

Good Luck Bama Mamas! I'll be thinking of you all!

[gammaphislobeta]

it's not fair or true to scare these girls into accepting bids from a house they don't want just because they will never get the chance to be Greek at Alabama again. I know a good handful of young women (at least 10) who were not successful during Fall Rush 2012 but were very successful during informal Spring Rush. In addition to meeting girls in a more organic situation, there was no pressure and therefore they made better choices and no one regrets their decision. They are all truly happy in their sorority today. While this can't possibly work for everyone who had a less then stellar Fall Rush experience, there is still hope for the Greek life after an unsuccessful Fall Rush.