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Originally posted by allsmiles_22
I don't like the way this thread is turning into women being too picky and that's why they are having a hard time finding a mate. I'm pretty sure the women have no problems finding guys and while they may not be perfect, the women will work with them. The problem could be these guys are in turn searching for their own fantasy or don't want a commitment. They want all the perks and benefits of a committed relationship, but don't want the label.
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I don't think women are too picky... They just have their expectations, as they should. The higher the better. And I think that the expectations should be made known immediately. Most African American men appreciate that--they may not like it, but they like the directness for some reason...
I think it is hard to find a soulmate. A mate is easy to find. But one that you want to get along with for a long time, now that's difficult.
For whatever reasons, most sistahs want a man to love them... A soulmate mostly... A nightstand, some do, some don't. And, one has to be opened to numerous possibilities to find that "special someone". That means you kiss frogs, often... And if the frog treats you well, then you will have baby tadpoles. But they will be yours...
However, I don't think Rain man's assessment is to bash African American women here... I really think he's waiting for that special somebody to come into his life and "sweep" him off his feet--or rock his world (if you catch my drift). And he has practiced so much stand offishness over the years, that he is outta tune with the beat of a sistah that might be the "one he is searching for"...
You just have to know those kinds of things about men... Sometimes they let anything come outta their mouths without thinking...
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