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Originally posted by 33girl
She pretty much said in her first post that she saw NOTHING wrong with sharing secrets of any sort with a spouse because they are "one." If she had said "some people believe married couples should share everything" and let it go at that, I don't think anyone would have gotten offended. But she took it a step further and affirmed that she lives her own life this way as well.
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Yes, I did say this, as I am one of those who do believe that married couples CAN (not *should*) share everything without having that be considered as "breaching an oath". But I never said that you have to agree with that or advocate that....just that this is not an entirely unheard of perspective.
I'm not sure why pointing out that *I* have this view would "offend people" MORE than pointing out that *some people* have this view, as, regardless of my affiliation, I have never claimed to be taking an "official fraternity perspective" on this issue...at all.
I am posting the opinion of one who happens to be an Alpha Phi. Not posting Alpha Phi's opinion. So why this should "offend"....I don't know.
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Whether she's actually shared these things with her husband or not is not the point.
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I think it is the point only inasmuchas some people went on the personal attack regarding something I have not done.
I also think it is unlikely to reach a consensus about this issue....
To me, it is a matter of the baseline argument. Because of my spiritual beliefs with regard to marriage, you are not likely to convince me to become angry or hostile toward a sister who discloses information to her husband.....
But, even when I don't agree, I find it helpful when others explain the place from which they are coming in order to gain an understanding of their thinking on any given issue.
I am fine to agree to disagree....and don't feel the need to attack anyone's personal views in order to do that.
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