Not in the Wedding?

[preciousjeni]

AXiD670: I won't go to the dinner if they don't invite me. And, she doesn't have any sisters.

cutiepatootie: When they sent the list, it had my parents, her parents, her brothers, her friends, my brothers best friend, etc. I think she's begrudgingly inviting my parents because they are paying! LOL! She's very blatant in her disregard for me.

I would be a bridemaid if asked. The biggest problem I have is that my brother was very clear to her that he wanted me in the wedding party in some capacity because, like I said, we're very close. She originally agreed but has now decided otherwise.

And, I am treading lightly! Honestly, the way I look at the overall picture...this is one day out of the rest of their lives. She has plenty of time to grow up and get over herself. I acknowledge that she might just not know any better and I'm sure her parents are goading her. So, once she's married and realizes what married life really is (she and my brother both think that they're going to have lives of their own and just live together - I don't think they realize the toll the being with someone that much can take on a person), I hope she'll see the value in having me close by since I would be the family member closest to her in age.

****By the way, this is his first steady girlfriend. They're both in their twenties. She hasn't had many boyfriends and neither of them has lived with a member of the opposite sex in the past other than family. Contrastingly, I've had many relationships AND I've lived with a number of my boyfriends. While I've never been married, I KNOW how difficult it is to share your space with someone you love. It's so much easier to have roommates that you don't have a lot invested in because you're not going to hurt each other really.