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When I was 23, the thought of having children repulsed me. As I am closing in on this decade of my life though, my mind is beginning to change. So many people have said some insightful things in this discussion. Bottom line, making a relationship work takes hard work and overall, MATURITY. It doesn't happen overnight either. It is good to have our beliefs, goals and values out on the table in the beginning of a relationship though. If you strongly want to have kids one day and he is not open to having them when the time is right (or even unexpectedly because as we all know children often are "surprises") then I suggest he is not the one either. I used to date a guy for 6 months who treated me well enough but said from day one, he never wanted to get married, nor have children. His girlfriend before me he dated for 4 years and while they are still terrific friends, he told me they broke up because he didn't want to get married and have kids. I thought at the time that he "just hadn't met the one" but as the relationship progressed, I realized that him and I both were not meant to be together. When it ended, one of my friends pointed out to me that he had been completely honest with me from the beginning that he never wanted anything TOO SERIOUS but I got all caught up in the romantic aspects of the relationship. I think as females we often tend to over-analyze things way too much with the boys, but I always say first and foremost, go with your gut, which it appears you have done. It will never steer you in the wrong direction.
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