Why in the world should a lady be expected to join a house she didn't want to?

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Originally posted by DeltaBetaBaby
There is a difference between a chapter you DO NOT WANT and a chapter that just wasn't your first choice.

I am in complete agreement here. There is definitely a difference. I've seen gals end up in houses that were not their first choice & have later said it was the best thing that could have ever happened to them.
By the same token, I've seen gals stubbornly refuse to consider anyone other than XYZ but once they are NM's, they do not like it all & have no other options b/c they refused to even consider another house.