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An addict must be willing to get help before any type of change can occur. An addict must be responsible for his or her own sobriety. There is nothing that you can do to stop or prevent someone who is determined to use cocaine.
I am guessing that this person is still using regularly. There is a lot of baggage that comes with an addict. Personally, I wouldn't be willing to put up with it. The only suggestion I have is refer him to a rehab center. Off the top of my head, I am thinking of the Phoenix Center, but I'm sure that there are many other places in NYC. Depending on his income level, he might qualify for medicaid or some type of government assistance. Addiction is not something that a person can cure alone. There is help out there if an addict is wants it, but he has to want it and be willing to work some type of program. He has taken the first step by admitting that he has a problem. There are eleven steps left, and they are difficult.
If this is a romantic interest, I would suggest that you put that aspect on pause, or you can get sucked in. It's not pretty. I've seen it happen. I've seen people invest years of their lives in someone who is not emotionally in a position to be in a relationship. I've also seen the partners of addicts turn into enablers, and get blamed for everything that is wrong in the addict's life. These relationships are never healthy or happy.
ETA: I agree with what James posted.
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