Pinning girlfriends? Opinions.... - Page 4

ADPi1201 · #46 06-25-2004, 12:50 PM

When your boyfriend gives you his letters where I go to school, they do get tied to a tree and stuff thrown at them. Then the rest of the chapter goes to find the girlfriend and serenades her, ect. Because all of the greeks are housed very near to each other it is like a greek activity. We all love to hear the singing and it is a good time for all. I can not believe that this would be considered hazing. It is not done without the boyfriend being fully aware and there are ways of getting around it.
I am sorry if you all think that I sound stupid, but it is fun and everyone really enjoys it.

AlphaPhiBubbles · #47 06-26-2004, 06:41 PM

I'm sure that stuff IS fun to you...but come on you guys all know that this type of activity is hazing!! This kind of stuff is definatley grounds for getting an entire chapter in big trouble or even have their charter pulled. Just please keep this in mind when we post on GC.

CarolinaCutie · #48 06-26-2004, 11:31 PM

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Originally posted by AlphaPhiBubbles
I'm sure that stuff IS fun to you...but come on you guys all know that this type of activity is hazing!! This kind of stuff is definatley grounds for getting an entire chapter in big trouble or even have their charter pulled. Just please keep this in mind when we post on GC.

THANK YOU. I've said it before and I'll say it again: Some people think that the people at Headquarters don't know how to use the Internet. They do. And they are watching. I hate to sound so paranoid, but I definitely think it's way more Big Brother than we imagine. And while I do think the things mentioned in this thread are hazing, I also think it would be a real SHAME to see someone's chapter get shut down over something so trivial. But it happens.

mu_agd · #49 06-27-2004, 11:05 AM

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Originally posted by sugar and spice
I GOT HOS IN DIFFERENT AREA CODES.

We call them the H&A.

ZTAngel · #50 06-27-2004, 11:11 AM

At my school, we called it lavaliering. The guy will buy a lavalier with his letters and give it to his girlfriend. It's kind of like a greek promise ring.
My boyfriend, a Kappa Sig, lavaliered me about 2 years ago and I wore his letters proudly on my necklace along with my ZTA lavalier.

Buttonz · #51 06-27-2004, 01:35 PM

Personally, I would never want to wear a guys letters. They don't mean anything to me, even if it's the letters of the guy I love, beause I am not a brother. Just like I would never let a guy wear my ;etters, even if it is sdomeone I am in love with. I know one girl who is pinned, and she and her boyfriend (an AEPi brother) are getting married later this summer.

Munchkin03 · #52 06-27-2004, 02:06 PM

If I want a piece of jewelry from a guy that badly, I'll just wait for the ring.

My letters mean nothing to him, and that's the way we like it.

kateshort · #53 06-28-2004, 12:10 PM

Things may be different now, but when I was at Valpo, most fraternities would allow you to lavalier a girl and give her your letters. My now-husband and I picked out new letter sweatshirts together (his letters) the week after we were lavaliered. I pinned him the next summer (local), and he pinned me the January after that. And he did wear a screen-printed sweatshirt with my letters on it, not sewn letters, though that was rare even when we had the locals.

I would regularly wear his pin with a nice shirt and nice pants whenever they had pledge recitals or Musicale each semester. It was an honor to do so. ('course, this meant he had to borrow his brother's/best man's pin for our wedding because we forgot his in my jewelry case at home, oops!) And for his birthday last year or the year before, I bought him the crown set of his pin.

I think a lot has to do with whether you're in a greek org of your own, what your campus tradition is, what your org tradition is, etc. Since letters came with lavaliers, most women didn't receive pins; lots of guys just went straight to engagement. Those of us who did get pinned treated those pins with respect and honor.

Yes, you'd occasionally get people who would lavalier someone and they'd wear letters for years and then break up, but then again people break off engagements too. -shrug- I don't know whether lavaliering was a bigger or lesser deal on our campus compared to others.

AEPhiSierra · #54 06-29-2004, 02:46 PM

i think the idea of being pinned or lavaliered is the sweetest thing but maybe b/c I am already in a GLO I would feel wierd wearing a shirt with any letters but AEPhi.

Filthy_PIKE · #55 07-04-2004, 12:28 AM

alright guys thermobryan is my brother and we are from the same chapter. i know the way he said what he said sounded questionable but trust me he didnt mean what it sounded like. bryan is a great pike and he puts in 110% everyday, he is the Vice President and pushes the Fraternity and has mad pride in it. No we dont haze new members, and its not like we haze the crap out of our brothers at all, we just give them a hard time and joke with them a lot and "punk" em, and by that i mean we just push em around and play with him, not beat him, not tie him to a tree, nothing... just playful like brothers play around with each other. no punches are thrown, nothing like that at all, its just we give them a hard time mentally when we hang out and joke around with em like "you know your gonna get it if you two break up right?" nothing more. hq doesnt need to come out, we are not beating each other up or anything. its all good. sorry if you were offended by this thread, its just bryan has been through some shit lately and is really stressed out, and for good reason.

AlphaFrog · #56 07-04-2004, 03:42 AM

It is really nice and refreshing to see chapter brothers sticking by their brother on GC! I know I and many others have been victim to the opposite, chapter bro/sis coming on GC to slander their own. Way to go Pikes!

Filthy_PIKE · #57 07-04-2004, 03:57 PM

thats how pike do it baby... brotherhood at its finest

Allie · #58 07-04-2004, 06:13 PM

I agree with most of the ladies, although I think it would be a great honor for a boy to give me his letters. I wouldn't feel comfortable wearing them. I know what my letters mean to me, and I wouldn't ever want anyone but other sisters to be displaying them. Let alone my badge!

I could never imagine how someone else feels about their letters or what those letters stand for or mean to their organization or themsleves. Personally I wouldn't feel comfortable, and highly doubt that I would wear them at all.

Yet I understand how special someone should be to do something like that. But I also feel thats what a promise ring or engagement ring are for. It definitly is something sweet and a big definition is some relationships, but it's just not for me.

SigmaKappaKelly · #59 07-06-2004, 10:54 PM

My Sig Ep boyfriend pinned me almost two years ago and it was probably the most romantic gesture besides engagement. I am so glad he chose to let me in on something that is so important to him. Call it old fashioned, but it really means alot to me and I will always defend a Sig Ep like I would my own Sigma Kappa sisters.

sailorgirl · #60 07-14-2004, 02:56 AM

I am very proud to wear the Delta Upsilon pin along with my own Delta Gamma badge. I'll never forget the night my best friend asked me to wear his pin. I was about to graduate and go traveling for a year, when he asked me to take his pin. He explained that even though we weren't in a romantic relationship (at the time) he wanted me to know how important i was to him and that he wanted me to be a part of his life forever. His fraternity means the world to him, and he means the world to me.