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Originally posted by AlphaGamDiva
no, i read that and thought about it before i responded.......we just disagree as to what makes someone truly "selfish," and the difference btwn that and just doing something you want to do. being selfish means you only think about yourself...thinking way more of what you want than someone else. being a mother is the complete opposite of that. yeah, you wanted the child, but i don't think that makes you selfish. it means you're willing to love and care for another human being......which is NOT selfish.
just b/c i want some ice cream doesn't make me selfish, does it?
ETA: co-sign that writing "selfish" so many times is like a really bad tongue-twister
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It does if you don't want to share your ice cream
Anyway, I understand what you're saying. But I also don't think there is such a thing as a completely selfless act. There are different degrees of selfishness.
If someone chooses not to have children because they either don't want them, don't have financial means to support them, etc. Does that make them selfish? (Not speaking about people who have abortions here, people who take mesures to ensure they don't have children like tubaligation, birthcontrol, vasectomy)
My cousin for instance, has one ovary. Doctors told her it would be difficult to reproduce. Well now she has 3 that she can't take care of. Her reasoning is that well because it's so hard for her to haev children she's just going to keep having children as long as she can because that's her right. Even though she can't take care of the ones she has. That seems pretty selfish to me.
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