Miss Mocha, you arguement is valid but you must understand that men and women are different.
IF you are in the hospital and you see that baby pop out of you and is handed to you, and you take the child home and raise it, you *should* have the right to be 100% confident that is is yours, after all, you carried the child in your belly for 9 months, so you know it was inside of you.
But a man does not have that same assurance, after he sows his seed, techinically, its out of his hands, all he can do is wait. The only assurance he has is the word of the mother. If he loves and trusts this woman, then he will have no fear that the child is his (like your husband). And even if there is some question, he may feel guitly for asking the mother if she is sure that it is his.
For a woman, you have an unseen bond with your child that began way before it came into the world. A father, biologically speaking, does not have that same bond, its forged after birth.
I don't think it is fair to force a man to forge a bond with a child that is not his own. There is something about the bioligical certainty of one's fatherhood that a man must have. For a woman, the certainty is there from the time you find out you are pregnant.
I'm not a man, so I really can't speak for them. But I don't think we take the feelings of the father into consideration enough in these cases.
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