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I've been in a similar, but not nearly as bad, situation. A friend of mine (one of my absolute best friends) just dropped me out of the blue. Wouldn't talk to me, wouldn't explain what happened to make her not like me anymore, no nothing. So I had to move on, but it was so frustrating to just let go. Anyway, about six months after all of that, I found out that her father had passed away. It was a totally unexpected car accident, and I can't imagine the grief she was dealing with. So I ended up dropping off a card for her, along with her favorite candy. In the card, I told her that I didn't presume that she would want to talk to me right now, but if she needed a shoulder to cry on, I would be there. For me, knowing how close we once were meant that I had to do something for my own peace of mind. That being said...this girl is a shitty friend. Maybe it's because she has severe problems and needs extensive counseling (which I think is a definite yes), but that doesn't give her the right to so take advantage of your kindness. If the situation is really bugging you, then send her a card. Do it because you have compassion and you're a good person, do it because you need the closure or peace of mind yourself, do it for whatever if you feel like it needs to be done. But if not, then don't trip on it at all. You've put in so many hours trying to help this girl already, that you're totally justified in keeping your distance. I don't know if that helped, but I hope it was at least a little useful.
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