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What did you expect from him you silly rabbit.
Men approach intimacy through sex, women approach sex through intimacy.
In the situation you are in, if you tell the boy you are not going to have sex with him, you are breaking up. He isn't going to feel intimate with you, or tender towards you in the absence of physical contact .. unless he is gay.
Now I understand what women are saying when they physically withdraw. They are saying that they don't feel close, or intimiate. That there are problems in connecting that leaves them feeling bad and insecure in the relationship. Maybe unloved etc.
And that those things are very important to whether they want to have sex or even touch the boy.
But there is the problem . . . a man won't connect with you much emotionally without the physical.
Sick circle i have seen people get into before, she withholds sex so he withholds emotional connection and it just feeds on eachother.
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