Doesnt it boil down to:
That persone is not her Legacy Relatives but an individual of her own calling.
She is not They and vice versa. Why should something be forced upon them and in the same vein something forced upon the Chapter.
As the old story goes, the ugly duckling became a beautiful Swan or not!
The kids that come to College many times are forced by Parents
So they are there with ill feelings from the get go. If they dont want to Pledge or Associate, then let that be the deciding factor!
I have a Brother, # 54 to be exact whose son pledged another Fraternity right across the street from our House. It hurt him like hell, but backed him 100 %!
He hangs with us a lot for things that the Alum do. Not a problem with me I still Love Wade as He is Rams Boy!
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