Obey? Submit? What do you think??

[SummerChild]

Originally posted by Pete Nice
The problem isn't the word obey or maybe it is the wrong choice of words. If it is the overpumped ego of some men who take that word to far or the super independant woman who doesn't need a man at all and dosen't take the word seriously then the marriges are doomed anyway. I been married for 5 years and in the beginning I made the decisions for the house, if there was something I couldn't handle I would confer with my wife her decision would be law, any montary decisions were made together because they affect the household, but I don't expect my wife to take on someone who is trying to break in, I'm her protector and she always has my back by giving me the proper things to say in some situations where I know my diplomatic skills lack the smooth vernacular motion of words. Now my wife makes the decisions and anything she can't handle she defers to me, but all discussions get done before any decision is made. I know women are independant and it's about time but those women who truly think they don't need a man for anything think about ever aspect of your life,(spirtual, sexual,finacial,support,friendship,) then you are truly independant and men for those who want a robot to obey you then go to a store and build one cause it makes no sense to have someone who has no brains to totaly submit to us as men.......................Marriage is 100% both ways

Pete, I totally agree with your post. Thanks for giving us your perspective.

SC