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this guy sounds EXACTLY like my boyfriend - I'm in the exact same situation. We've been together about a year now, so I've had a little more time to get used to it, but James is probably right - he won't change.
But sometimes people DO learn to compromise. Like while my boyfriend will always instinctively want to watch tv, go to bed, and pretend like nothing happened the next day, now that he's been with me for so long he knows that when it's an important issue, trying to forget it happened makes me really unhappy, and so then he'll try to talk about it. And likewise, I know that talking things to death makes him unhappy, so on issues that I can get over, I'll just let him get away with the whole pretending-it-never-happened thing.
It's less a black-and-white kind of thing and more of a learning to compromise and live with that arrangement kind of thing. Everyone has their own style of life, so can you compromise on some issues? And do you think he can learn to compromise on others? If you guys really care about each other, then the answer is probably yes.
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